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hi i just joined this site.. im not doing so well i have been dating this guy for 4 years he is 13 years older than me and now he want to move on with his life im heart broken we did everything together and i dont no how to say good bye// i dont want to say goodbye to the man i love he loves me but we cant be together he is married i no its horrible but we fell in love 4 years later and hes having a hard time saying goodbye too. were soulmates this isnt fair i love him and he loves me but i guess how most people would say its not enough rite. im having a hard time dealing with this pain can i have some sincere advice please.

i really feel for you. sorry to hear what's just happeed to you. you must feel pretty alone but at least you share a love, that should be comforting to know.

If I wasnt 51 I would go out with you.

I know this may not be what you want to hear, but you fell in love with a married man. You are the "other" woman. Did you really expect him to leave his wife/family for you?

I know that the heartbreak you are feeling is real, but I think that you need to look at the situation that you were in and realize that the entire relationship that you had with this man was wrong.

My advise to you is try dating someone that is available. That way if you fall in love....it may work out for you in the long run.

i know the pain that you feel, i feel it as well. your situation is almost just like mine. i was dating a women 13 years younger than me and i was married at the time. my marriage ended and i got divorced. the women broke up with me and i have not recovered really from it. i still don't know why she left me, basically i think it was guilt that she felt she was the reason my marriage ended; although she was not. I am trying to get on with my life get back out there, that is why i joined this site. i know, i felt she was my soul mate. the thing is you never know what the future will bring. the man you are with may no longer want to be with you which is sad. the pain comes from the fact that you try to shut off your feelings for the person, this is very hard to do and usually leads to so kind of change in your character. You have to see it as it is his loss. he is is the fool for you had all the love for him. the truth is he may not be able to love or be ready for love because of his own faults. the women i was with just was not ready to grow up and leave parting and just acting stupid with her friends. i realize i can not change her, and why would i want to be with somebody who does not want to be with me, am i not better than that. be nice to this man be his friend if you want to but if he does not want to be with you, he has the problem. four years is a long time you can still love him in your mind you do not have to hate him for what he did but know that you are special and deserver the best. learn from what happen to you and try to move on. i am in therapy now, not saying it will be easy but take it one day at a time. cry all you want, let it out, write it all down, then smile and go on. life is ups and downs but life is too short to stay down. best of luck to you.

Let go and let time heal…Ok?…This too shall pass. Hang in there.

I feel your pain too. I was in a 6 year and the day I was going to propose, was the day she told me that she wants to move on. All I can honestly say is.... Let time do the healing and dont put any man between you and god. Whatever doesnt kill you makes you stronger.

Life is full of pain sometimes but just know that you will find happiness again.

this isnt going to sound good but if you are going to go into a situation where one party is married, then these simple rules must be followed:

1. do not give your heart out.

2. refer to rule #1.


With that said, I do feel for you. You seem like a real sweet girl. Feel free to write me if you need some advice from someone who has had an affair like yours.


later.