RavenWhisperOPPiedmont, South Carolina USA14 posts
So look heres my problem... I started dateing this girl about 2 years ago... She has a daughter "Emma"... When I came into the picture Emmas father was nowhere to be found... I mean when she went into the hospital with pnumonia he didn't call till a week after she got out... Well needless to say I'm Emmas "daddy" and I can't even imagion giving this up... So I'm with this girl for 2 years and now she up and says she wants to try to work things out with him... I don't know what to do.... I've been her friend for 8 years... I want to be there for her, but looking at her tears my heart out... I know that I love her... more than I've ever loved anyone in my life... She still tells me she loves me... but she's happy with him... I feel like a yo-yo... when it's just me and her she still looks at me the way she always has... but I can tell all of this is tearing her apart too... I don't know what to do... I love her... I'm never going to stop loveing her... Here I sit with her tearing out my heart and stomping on it... But as much as I try I can't be mad at her.... I think I messed up... I think I found my soul mate, and I lost her.... She is still letting me see Emma, so thats good... But I know that it bothers him... So I'm afraid that I might be setting myself up to be hurt again... Emma wants me, she still asks for me, I don't think they would try to deny her... but who's to say that next week I may never get to see her again.... I don't know what to do.... I love Emma, I love her mother.... I feel like I'm wandering around in a dark room listening to my own cries.... I feel soooo aloan...
No advice to be given here. Momma sounds confused and you'll need to decide if you want to ride out the storm or save yourself.
As far as the child situation...single parents, take heed to the emotion a child can bring into a relationship and never take that responsibility lightly.
RavenWhisperOPPiedmont, South Carolina USA14 posts
If I could think about myself for a moment... maybe I would try to rescue my heart... but the fact of the matter is that I can't even begin to think of myself... I'm too busy being worried about the 2 of them....
legally you don't have a leg to stand on unless you oficially adopted the child. I have been there too my friend and this is not an easy road to travel.
RavenWhisperOPPiedmont, South Carolina USA14 posts
Does it make sense that when I try to think of myself it just upsets me... Makes me feel selfish... Like I need to be more worried about one of my oldest friends, and my daughter... It's weird when you find things that matter more to you than yourself....
If you're thinking of Emma first, and your envolvement with her is causing difficulties in her mother's relationship the time may come to walk away. Your ability to be in her life is "unstable" at best. How good is it for her to grow more attached to you if you can be ripped away from her at any moment?
RavenWhisperOPPiedmont, South Carolina USA14 posts
All right mr. Bitter... Look have you ever seen a 2 year old cry?? No I mean really cry... Have you ever seen one go from laughing to wailing just because you say you're leaving... "No daddy don't go" "Daddy I want you" "Daddy I wove you wit all my heart" Emma chose me... She knows I'm not her father, she knows he is... And she still asks for me and calls me daddy... She calls him by his 1st name, despite his best efforts otherwise... What am I supposed to do?? Tell her I don't want to be hers?? If you think things like this are easy you're either emotionally dead.. or just a bitter old fart.... Take your' pick.......
Feb 24, 2006 10:05 AM CST I need some honest opinions....
littleminxlincolnshire, Lincolnshire, England UK2 Threads8 Posts
littleminxlincolnshire, Lincolnshire, England UK8 posts
Hi RavenWhisper.What a situation to be in i really feel for you. But my honest opinion for you is to just step out to the back ground and let them try and work things out. I know that you are hurting like mad but you are doing yourself no favours by clinging on to what has gone. if you really love her and emma give them a chance and if things dont work out with emma's dad you can always try again. But you have to remember that things are never the same when you go back. Good lick to you. Take care. Littleminx
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