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Aug 26, 2007 6:25 PM CST Holiday parent...
HzChld
HzChldHzChldSomewhere in the middle, Oklahoma USA55 Threads 2,779 Posts
Can anyone explain this to me perhaps? confused
How can a parent walk away from their own children and not want a relationship with them? When my ex left, after 26 yrs. of marriage, that is exactly what he did with our children. He sees them maybe twice a year, if that. Rarely do they ever hear from him, etc. Holiday time seems to be the time he wants them around and/or when there is a social event at this place, cook outs, dinners, etc., making it appear to others, his peers, co-workers, etc., that he has a relationship with his children. I just simply do not understand this. Does anyone else perhaps? confused sigh
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Aug 26, 2007 6:32 PM CST Holiday parent...
mylifewithu
mylifewithumylifewithuSpringfield, Missouri USA174 Threads 23,670 Posts
My childeren's dad did the same thing, if they ever want to talk him or see him they have always had to do it theirselves. Cause he never bothered after the divorce to want to see them or remember birthdays or anything. I don't understand either how someone could be that cold.comfort
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Aug 26, 2007 6:34 PM CST Holiday parent...
judd28
judd28judd28mullingar, Westmeath Ireland14 Threads 1,182 Posts
scold i wouldn't refer to either of those men as dadsscold
they are not deserving of that title
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Aug 26, 2007 6:35 PM CST Holiday parent...
classicrockgirl
classicrockgirlclassicrockgirlInverness, Florida USA12 Threads 2,414 Posts
Yup my daughter's father is the same way. I think they want the kids around when there are other people there to make themselves look good. Well it back fires, my daughter wants nothing to do with her father now. And why is it that you have written that you can't move a certain distance away but they can just up and leave and move out of state?
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Aug 26, 2007 6:35 PM CST Holiday parent...
HzChld
HzChldHzChldSomewhere in the middle, Oklahoma USA55 Threads 2,779 Posts
It has sometimes been difficult to try to explain to them and I am not one to bad mouth him in front of them. Although, I have at times because I am human. But as a rule, kids can figure things out on their own and I have always thought it best to let mine do just that...and as they have gotten older, (15 & 10 yrs. old) they see things for themselves and form their own opinions. But it still bothers me at times. sad
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Aug 26, 2007 6:46 PM CST Holiday parent...
classicrockgirl
classicrockgirlclassicrockgirlInverness, Florida USA12 Threads 2,414 Posts
But meanwhile they can do and live where ever they want!!!very mad How fair is that? I am so glad my daughter is 18 now. I wanted to move when she was younger but he wouldn't let me, meanwhile he didn't even see her or pay child support!!!!!!very mad
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Aug 26, 2007 6:47 PM CST Holiday parent...
HzChld
HzChldHzChldSomewhere in the middle, Oklahoma USA55 Threads 2,779 Posts
I hear ya girl...comfort hug I hate to deal with my ex. and do not if I can help it.
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Aug 26, 2007 6:48 PM CST Holiday parent...
MrrightM
MrrightMMrrightMPantelimon/ Bucharest, Muntenia Romania23 Threads 697 Posts
Very well said and totally agree with you,dude..applause applause cool
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Aug 26, 2007 6:48 PM CST Holiday parent...
LonelyInBC31
LonelyInBC31LonelyInBC31Battle Creek, Michigan USA199 Threads 1 Polls 2,760 Posts
Check laws.....In Michigan, it says that you can not relocate without court approval, HOWEVER, if he moves over a certain number of miles away, you are then free to move wherever you want with no reason necessary!!!


Yep...My kids dad lives right here in town and dont see them....Except on holidays...
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Aug 26, 2007 7:15 PM CST Holiday parent...
HzChld
HzChldHzChldSomewhere in the middle, Oklahoma USA55 Threads 2,779 Posts
grin thumbs up laugh
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