A must read thread for all of CS....Yes, this means YOU! (61)
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Very good points...the key is respect...people..opinions...differences etc!
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Good points. But you know, human nature just has a way of having a need to always be right.
You could be just as right as I am, or I could be just as wrong as you.
This seems to be the prevailing attitude of most of us. I tend to believe, that a person can learn a lot, even from a fool.
just saying.
You could be just as right as I am, or I could be just as wrong as you.
This seems to be the prevailing attitude of most of us. I tend to believe, that a person can learn a lot, even from a fool.
just saying.
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After givng this some thought I totally disagree with you Lonelyinbc...respectfully of course... 
All jokes aside... Great Thread!! Good advice here too!
All jokes aside... Great Thread!! Good advice here too!
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Very good pointers here Lonely, thanks!!
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The only problem is that not all opinions deserve the same amount of respect. I also don't believe in completely ignoring ridiculous statements just for the sake of peace. That just clears a path for irrationality and ignorance to gain credibility which can be even more harmful.
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The real trouble makers are not going to follow anything repectful of the others, because everything is all about them.
They could care less who they hurt or the trouble they cause!!
They could care less who they hurt or the trouble they cause!!
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There you go, that`s why there will always be contention. People don`t know how to be respectful, well, some don`t
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<The only problem is that not all opinions deserve the same amount of respect. >
Why not?
It is just an opinion.
You are not expected to agree with it or endorse it, just behave with good manners to the person expressing the opinion, like a civilised being, rather than belittling someone and suggesting they are of lesser value just because their opinion does not run with yours.
Why not?
It is just an opinion.
You are not expected to agree with it or endorse it, just behave with good manners to the person expressing the opinion, like a civilised being, rather than belittling someone and suggesting they are of lesser value just because their opinion does not run with yours.
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A rule I like to live by...
My rights end where yours begin
My rights end where yours begin
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This is true, however if they are ignored it becomes very funny watching them fight all by themselves.
They can only cause trouble in an environment that feeds, supports and encourages their intent to create havoc.
At which point the fault is no longer with them, alone.
They can only cause trouble in an environment that feeds, supports and encourages their intent to create havoc.
At which point the fault is no longer with them, alone.
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Very good rule! 
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Thank you bajanblue 
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Since time began people have been in conflict, nothing will change, if i personally dont agree with anothers opinion i will still respect what they have to offer even if i dont like it
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Very well put. Difficult if you are the victim of slander and lies. The mods have been doing a good a job cleaning up that crap, even though it should never get to that point.
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You had no right saying that. Hey Heather
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Yes its difficult but the bigger person can do it... or at least that is the way I feel. I think anyone has the right to disagree with me as my right is that I can disagree with them. But it is not my right to try and force my opinion on them or vice versa.
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Great thread Michelle!!!!
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Before I show you how, I want to ask you a question. Are you a peacemaker or a peace breaker?
Being a peacemaker doesn't mean that you let people walk all over you. It doesn't mean that you don't offer your opinion or say how you feel about something.
Here are some keys to keeping the peace. You can disagree without having an argument.
Disagree respectfully
People handle disagreement better when you don't cause them to feel as if their opinion is ridiculous or doesn't matter.
Do it wisely
If you're going to disagree with someone, you need to do it wisely. Think about how you will disagree before you open your mouth. The key to peace in disagreement is how you express your opinion.
Don't try to change the other person's opinion
Be careful that you don't move into manipulation and try to get the other person to agree with you. You don't have to try and change their opinion.
Allow People to have a different opinion to yours
Say what you think and leave it at that. Allow people to have their own opinions. Give them the freedom to be who they are and think what they think.
Search for a compromise
Consider that your opinion might be no more right than theirs and find a solution that you're both reasonably happy with.
Give up your right to be right
Sometimes you need to allow someone to go ahead and do something their way even when you strongly disagree. When you can do that and keep a good attitude, it's a sign that you're maturing.
Given time you'll develop your own ways of disagreeing without arguing. The important thing is to be aware of the value of doing it. The key is to respect other people enough to allow them the freedom to disagree.
Coaching points
How can you be a peacemaker without letting people walk all over you?
Find ways of respecting other people's opinion without feeling that you must change your own.
If you allow other people the freedom to be themselves and show more respect for their opinions you'll find that you can disagree without having an argument.