2nd place ( Archived) (57)

Mar 13, 2006 1:44 PM CST 2nd place
TexasTornado
TexasTornadoTexasTornadofairfield, USA22 Threads 2,701 Posts
hey everyone i need advice..

the guy i'm dating told me a few weeks ago that he's got feelings for someone else that's his best friend..he says he loves me but she sent him a letter and told him not to make up his mind untill he reads it..he said he doesnt know what it says , but it could determine if we are still toghether after he gets it .. i just dont know should i stick with him and hope thats he choses me or tell him i'm not settling for being 2nd choice in his life..
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Mar 13, 2006 1:48 PM CST 2nd place
bitternbitchy
bitternbitchybitternbitchy3 Posts
dont be anyones second choice toots, ur to good for that!
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Mar 13, 2006 1:50 PM CST 2nd place
kenigsberg
kenigsbergkenigsbergkentville, Nova Scotia Canada13 Threads 1,127 Posts
Forget him... let him go... sooner or later he will leave you for his best friend....
Danna please ... no matter what he will tell you do not come back...
Experience talking here...
Love you
Marina :^)
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Mar 13, 2006 1:50 PM CST 2nd place
Windygirl
WindygirlWindygirlDayton, Ohio USA21 Threads 1,846 Posts
You're playing second fiddle by merely waiting.

Life is full of temptation and choices.

There should never have to be a decision making process when you love your partner.
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Mar 13, 2006 1:52 PM CST 2nd place
dbert
dbertdbertParis, Ile-de-France France29 Threads 884 Posts
That's a nasty situation. If you perceive it as being second, you can't really go on with it, though people do, and die inside.

Yet, many relationships have choice juntures, places where one person has ot go in one direction, and the other can choose the same or not. If he has to decide who's number one for him, what is he to do?

This is the risk of building happiness based on another. I guess we'd be better off if we could build our happiness WITH the other.
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Mar 13, 2006 1:53 PM CST 2nd place
dixrog
dixrogdixrogNorton, Virginia USA54 Threads 1,974 Posts
babe, been there, done that and got the brass knucks if you need 'em.

;)
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Mar 13, 2006 1:54 PM CST 2nd place
southernbelle22
southernbelle22southernbelle22Victoria, Texas USA13 Threads 329 Posts
lol I like that one dix!
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Mar 13, 2006 1:55 PM CST 2nd place
TexasTornado
TexasTornadoTexasTornadofairfield, USA22 Threads 2,701 Posts
thanks dix i think i can deal with out the knuckles at least he told me what he was feeling and didnt lie to me about it ..he's a great guy .. really he is .. i know how he feels too . i've been there i've wanted 2 ppl before and didnt know what to do .. in the end i didnt go with either of them cause i didnt want to hurt one or the other
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Mar 13, 2006 1:58 PM CST 2nd place
Abigail
AbigailAbigailLondon, Canada2 Threads 16 Posts
i would never let myself be second, i dont mind sharing first place with family & work, but never with another girl.

if he's got issues, take a break from each other to experience different people, and if you guys realize that you are far better off being together than being apart, then that's great and you'll know its true love. but if he doesnt come back, let him go cause its not meant to be.

good luck!
:)
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Mar 13, 2006 1:58 PM CST 2nd place
dixrog
dixrogdixrogNorton, Virginia USA54 Threads 1,974 Posts
well shoot, you could beat her up then, I know I would feel better....


I am so kidding, believe me I know what you're going thru, it's hard to use your head when your heart is all you can hear. Good luck!


;)
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Mar 13, 2006 2:02 PM CST 2nd place
TexasTornado
TexasTornadoTexasTornadofairfield, USA22 Threads 2,701 Posts
so so true..

thank you all so very much for the advice .. i'm gonna talk to him tonight after he gets off work and let him know how i feel and find out whats going on..
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Mar 13, 2006 2:02 PM CST 2nd place
Lillyofthevalley
LillyofthevalleyLillyofthevalleySt John's, Newfoundland Canada38 Threads 3,152 Posts
listen to yoda...she knows of what she speaks
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Mar 13, 2006 2:04 PM CST 2nd place
TexasTornado
TexasTornadoTexasTornadofairfield, USA22 Threads 2,701 Posts
i always loved yoda
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Mar 13, 2006 2:05 PM CST 2nd place
Windygirl
WindygirlWindygirlDayton, Ohio USA21 Threads 1,846 Posts
Even if Yoda can't spell, due to massive sugar buzz and jittery fingies.
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Mar 13, 2006 2:06 PM CST 2nd place
Lillyofthevalley
LillyofthevalleyLillyofthevalleySt John's, Newfoundland Canada38 Threads 3,152 Posts
yup me too!! And you are too good to be put on hold darlin !!!
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Mar 13, 2006 2:06 PM CST 2nd place
TexasTornado
TexasTornadoTexasTornadofairfield, USA22 Threads 2,701 Posts
rotflmao i love all you guys
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Mar 13, 2006 2:06 PM CST 2nd place
Ocee35
Ocee35Ocee35Jackson, Michigan USA69 Threads 2 Polls 3,852 Posts
He says he loves you.

But the contents of a letter from another woman may cause him to love her more?

One letter doesn't hold that much power.

He's not being completely honest with you.
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Mar 13, 2006 2:07 PM CST 2nd place
Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm!!!!!!!!!!!
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Mar 13, 2006 2:07 PM CST 2nd place
Lillyofthevalley
LillyofthevalleyLillyofthevalleySt John's, Newfoundland Canada38 Threads 3,152 Posts
back at ya Dana
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Mar 13, 2006 2:08 PM CST 2nd place
Lillyofthevalley
LillyofthevalleyLillyofthevalleySt John's, Newfoundland Canada38 Threads 3,152 Posts
LOOK AT ME WHEN I"M TALKIN TO YOU!!!!
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