Internet dating, exciting aswell as scary. - By Tiffanie's son. ( Archived) (12)

Hi all,

Just a few pointers on the internet dating game, believe me i've been there and I've
done it all. I've been up the ups, and believe me down the downs.

When you shift arena from dating irl and move to the safety of the internet there
are a lot of things that change in the common way of meeting and getting to know
people.

Also there are aspects of creating false hope, or maybe issues with honesty towards
that (possible) new love.

Sometimes people move to internet dating for the safety and distance that instantly
is created as soon as you interest becomes mutual. This can be a good thing, but can
also become a blocking issue. Hence false hope ;)

One might be expecting too much, and the other might have no clue to what is going
wrong due to the missing of real contact, body language and eye sight are main players
in interaction among people.

Writing messages and emails, sending roses and hearts can be a very nice way to explain
to that special someone what you feel for him/her, but it can also be that bit too much
too soon.

Flowers often are a nice gesture, and hearts the same although (personal opinion here)
start slowly and build up. The reason i'm writing this is due to the stories I hear from
my mum (Tiffanie) about her current affairs via the site. Belive me I'm glad she's moving
on in life, as I am for all of you connecting singles daters out there. But never forget
that time, space, trust and honesty are main keys to any successfull form of dating, and
in the end starting a relationship.

Never rush things, belive me rushing leads to a lack of space and time in which the other
person might feel flabbergasted by the ammount of attention, but on the other hand it's
in most common cases the only way to show the ammount of emotion and feelings that have
been found with that special someone.

But on the other hand distance (which gives a feeling of safety) can also be a killer
for starting a new relationship. In this case (reason i'm writing) the other person
has distance, but seems to be growing away further and further each moment. To which
the other half of the story could get the idea that something is wrong (lack of
communication) and may possibly end up feeling ignored (leads to insecurity).

What it all winds down to is: Be honest, be open and have fun in finding that special
someone with whom you want to spend the rest of your life with ;)

Greetings
Hank

I take this quote to heart.

Sometimes people move to internet dating for the safety and distance that instantly
is created as soon as you interest becomes mutual. This can be a good thing, but can
also become a blocking issue. Hence false hope ;)

I have met people in the flesh. Wonderful.

I have also met people only virtually who use the internet as the barrier.

If there are walls, then you will never truly allow love in. That is my philosophy.

Hi baby...

Hi Hank...

Wise words, from both of you...

I have met people only through here and in the flesh...not hidding....ok wait I hear a chopper near by....

Hiya!

Where is that lear jet of mine?

Getting closer...

I wish, as this weather grows cooler...

Mmmmm.....you should come, for real....

Silly me, packed my shorts up for fall last week!!

I'd love to have u here baby, for real...

That way you can see I have NO REASON to hide...

Hank, are u gone?