Confused.... (4)

Hey,

I need some advice. Am 19- young but not naive. I was with someone just over a year, he was alot older than me, I loved him, things got serious, lived together, engaged n he even got a tattoo of my name. Things happened- he left. A year on, I still love him but to much has happened, you wouldnt believe half the stuff he did if i told you.

A year on and im in a really good job and am seeing someone else now, hes lovely, caring and everything every girl could wish for but i duno what to do cos he loves me and i cant return the feelings :( maybe its cos es at university over 100 miles away n i hardly see him? i dont wana lose him but...i just dnt know.

I feel like ill neva feel the love i felt for my ex with anyone else, when i do meet someone- i just dont like them or whatever.

I wana meet someone whos right for me.....

Hiya Clare - you are very young to be worrying about stuff like this. It takes people different lengths of time to get over relationships and a year in anyone's book isnt very long when you have lived together. You say a lot happened that we wouldnt believe - well you need to focus on those things and make yourself fall out of love with this guy and then move on. Sounds like you moved into a new relationship a bit too soon - but - if he loves you then you need to give yourself a chance - tell him the truth about how you feel - and if he stays around then he does care about you. I believe honesty is always the best policy and not to play with people's feelings and he deserves to know how you feel but also you need to relax a bit and stop putting pressure on yourself - get over the first one - remember why you broke up - enjoy being with friends and enjoy the time with your new guy and see how things pan out. Good luck hun

Hi beautiful.

I think what Bubblywan has said it totally right, you should concentrate on what went wrong with your ex and then make sure it doesn't happen again. Feelings are very funny things. When you think that you have control over them they just go wild on you.
From a guys point of view if was this new guy i would want to know about what is going on inside you. And if he is any decent guy he would want to help you get over this and get on with your relationship.
Let us know how things go, here's wishing you both all the happiness in the future.