I FOUND MY SOUL MATE ( Archived) (13)

I had always thought people crazy for engaging in online dating. Well, call me, “Crazy!” I found ConnectingSingles.com and joined the ranks of the available singles in cyberspace. I spent hours, one evening, searching profiles and sending out emails. Earlier in the night, I had come across one profile in particular . . . a very short description and small photo of a girl that went by “JBabbels19.” I sent here an email and while I was perusing profile after profile, I kept thinking about her. When I started to doze off at the keyboard, I decided to call it a night and sign off. It was then that I noticed an email in my inbox from JBabbels19. First contact was on February 10, 2006. I will never forget that date. First contact was that very night. It started with and email and turned into instant messaging. Soon we were calling each other via telephone. We would spend a minimum of five hours a day on the phone.

I was in Vermont. She was in Massachusetts. We had never met, but there was an instant connection between us. We told each other everything about ourselves. We shared the good and the bad, our likes and our dislikes, our attributes and our shortcomings. With no physical interaction as a threat, we were free to get to know each other unabated. It may have taken months, otherwise. There was no reason to wonder if our attraction was based on looks. I never would have even dreamed it possible for two people to fall in love over a phone line. Guess what! It is.

Jenni decided that it was time for us to meet in person. She arranged for a sitter to watch her wonderful children and set out on a four-day vacation to Burlington, Vermont. When she arrived, we were a bit nervous at first. It didn’t take long, though, before we were dancing in my living room and then cuddling on the couch to a DVD. We even wrestled. Of course, I let here win a couple of bouts. We did go out, but spent most of the time at my home getting to know each other more and more.

Before her trek to Vermont, we had discussed our plans. I was to find someone to take over my lease and put in a notice at work so that I could move to Massachusetts. While we were sitting on my couch together, on the second day, she looked up at me with her enchanting hazel eyes and said, “I don’t believe you are really going to move.” She did not believe that I was going to give up my home and a really great job for her. She did not believe that I was going to leave beautiful Vermont, with its mountains and waterfalls, to settle in her town. She did not believe that I was going to alter my life so dramatically. The things we do for love! I could not bare the thought of not being able to look into those eyes for a single day. Even worse, I could not let her endure the torment of doubt that I would not soon be with her for good. “Guess what, Jenni,” I said. “I’m going back to Massachusetts with you.” We spent the next day packing.

I love Jenni with all my heart. I feel as if I always have. I adore her little ones and I am very fond of her aunt, who is like a mother to her. Massachusetts is great. Home is where the heart is. I have found work and we are going to get a nice place together. We now have a joint bank account. She bought me a really nice pocket watch. On one side is engraved our names and the year 2006. On the other side, there are two connecting hearts with the words, “For Life.” We even got tattoos together. I have a half of a flaming heart on my shoulder that has the word, “For,” inside of it. She has the other half on her shoulder. It reads, “Life.” This is the beginning. It started with a computer.

Of the billions of people that are on this earth, how many soul mates do we each have. Tradition would dictate that there is only one. Statistically speaking, what are the chances that our one, true soul mate is actually located in the very same geographical location in which we reside? Thank God for ConnectingSingles.com!

It's so heartwarming to read ur story. I wish both of u many many blessings and a lifetime of love. Please remember to hang on tight to each other during the difficult times also. Love is worth fighting for so never give up easily.

Amy

congrads. to you both love is precious so keep it always



laurie

Wow!!!!! all the best. Your story made me a little teary eyed. I can only hope that it happens to everyone on this site. LJ

awesome congrats to you and the lucky lady... wish you 2 nothing but the best.

--Mari

I would like to say this is a wonderful way to start
the day.You have giving encouragement to us all..I want
to wish you both the best and congradulations!

This is wonderful....chance.....

SomeGuy1965...you just made my day:) Thank you for sharing your beautiful story...much Love and Happiness in you future together...

Wish me one too...Have been doing this internet stuff for nearly a year. On three sites and most are jerks. Everything I write in my profile here I have strained myself to be most descriptive and genuine. I'm trying to be patient - its hard sometimes. You go through all this trouble to meet one special lover for life. Where I live now, its mostly uni students and pensioners with not much inbetween. Frustrating because I am naturally a very active, involved person. I love life, friends I have, boyfriend still a vacancy. All the best to you..you encourage the rest of us!

It's worth the wait. When it happens, everything will become crystal clear. Every person whom you have ever met and/or had a relationship with, every place you have been and experienced, every unfortunate mishap in your life and every mistake you have made and had to grow from, all of these, will add up to put you exactly where you are in the right moment. Without these, you will not be the person that you need to be in order to engage in the relationship that your whole life has destined you to be in. It goes both ways. He will have had to overcome hurdles to get where he is.

You will probably find that if you had met each other at an earlier part of your lives, it would not have worked out. You will see, if you press on and be patient. Meanwhile, love yourself. Get yourself a nice gift. Go to a movie. Learn that language you have always wanted to learn or take a cruise. You deserve it.

It's true that most guys are jerks. There are some, however, that understand a simple concept. "Nothing is more personally gratifying than a completely selfless act." Relationships are about giving. It seems that my girl and I are at competition sometimes to give the most to each other. I am not talking about just gifts. It's what you do and say that makes a difference. Listening is the most important. You have to really listen to what the other says. If she says that she is hungry, I cook. If she says she likes a blouse, I get it. If she sighs, I may have said or done something that she doesn't like.

If a guy asks you questions about what you like and don't like, it may be a sign that he is not self-centered. If he spends his time talking about himself, you may want to move on.

Don't get discouraged. Be patient and BE PICKY. And pamper yourself.

Best of Wishes