ClaayerWild Wild South West, Cornwall, England UK15,888 posts
Lionhearted1967: I think sometimes people just cannot handle the STRESS of letting themselves feel. They may start off as a very sensitive, passionate person and somehow during the course of their life something happens where feeling too much has been a source of great pain and frustration. They close themselves up because it is much safer not to let their feelings be felt.
Yeah I agree with all that.. I was like that for yeeears after I split up with my husband.. and mum died 4 days later..
I was like a ROCK for years after that.. I always found it much safer not to 'feel' or get attached to anything.. then I couldnt risk getting hurt.
Lionhearted1967: Maybe that was because back then all you ever cared about was being wasted to block out the world?
I'm glad you're better Kansan and congrats on your happy marriage!
Actually, it was because, 'back then' I was under the mistaken impression that "recreational drugs" and alcohol could be used as tools to enhance life. It was only after - as Mindful said - some internal housecleaning that I learned that feeling anything , good or bad was to be infinitely preferred to feeling nothing.(Which was, ultimately, the only effect that was accomplished.)
Having said that, I am by no means a tee-totaler. I love the taste of beer - just finished a Corona and am about to crack another one - I just don't get drunk anymore. Not sure it's even possible. Haven't had a hangover - regardless of the amount consumed - in more than 25 years. And what's the point of doing something if it accomplishes nothing at all?
I'd much rather feel life than watch it go by in a haze.
(And before anyone asks, I've already explained that I drink beer because I enjoy the taste - same goes for good whiskey or a good single malt Scotch - also the same reason some drink coke, pepsi, or other soft drinks, which is what I drink whenever I'm away from home.)
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Yeah I agree with all that.. I was like that for yeeears after I split up with my husband.. and mum died 4 days later..
I was like a ROCK for years after that.. I always found it much safer not to 'feel' or get attached to anything.. then I couldnt risk getting hurt.
It stopped eventually .. fank gawwwd.