Why are a lot of women shallow, pretentious, materialistic and judgemental. (42)

Just as us women will never find out the reason so many men are too. Except the old "its human nature" which seems to cover everything.

thats weird .... bourbs usually has something deep and insightful to say, but i suppose the people who get there first must've taken away his thunder ^_^ nyu ^_^

Rather than going into the sociologically conditions, the feminist anti-feminist movements, emancipation, political correctness, over political correctness and mob mentality , that led to the excess of materialistic preset mind condition in todays global capitalistic American 5 minute world, I'll instead offer meaningless "Dr.phil" feel good counseling:

Now Son, every body in todays world in different you need to "get real" and deal with any issues that arise when your on a date with a women rather than judging them and and making them judge you because of your psuedo hostility that there getting from you, you need to make an effort to get to know them. and once they see that your making an effort to know them then things can really kick it off.

That's because you haven't met me.

I think men are the same. Physical is the thing that catches the eyes, then the chemistry comes later. That's how things work. imagaine having to look at soemone you detaste the look even though he is tender and sweet. Close your eyes when you talk?

How did he get into bed with me in the first place? No way!!

Hi Rumba
Hate to be the one to tell you this but it cuts both ways, some men are exactly the same.
Good luck

Both men and women can be like you described.

If you always attract one stereotype then ask yourself why. It is best to remain open-minded when meeting people. Try not to give out negative vibes because the opposite party can pick them up.

I have made some bad mistakes on first dates but I learned from them. I am still refining my communication skills.

I suppose your observations come from your past experience, have you noticed whether it is some particular age group/social class? It may not be relevant but worth a thought.

I assume its because of their childhood, if at the age of very early teens they got too many hormones (mainly through our western diet) will causes them to grow up to quickly and they miss a stage of development to adult.You can tell them by the way the will whine about a situation for ages like a young child would. It would also manifest its self in other behaviours also, I guess such as being shallow and judgemental.

I have been a single mum with a young child. And it was my conscious decision that I did not want to date at the time. Not because of the shallow men but because of my own shallowness, I suppose.

I just did not want to introduce a man into my son's life. No, that came out wrong. Working in the field that I do I have many male friends and they were all quite a good influence on my son as he was growing up.

But I did not want to introduce a step-dad to my son. That's better said. Because I wanted to protect him. At the time I was young and probably a bit over protective. But it was a decision I made and I stuck with it. Refused to date for 13 years. Of course I got out of practise, lol.

Do I regret it? Not at all. I loved the time we spent together or the fact that he still thinks his mum is invincible and can do it all. lol.

When he took a year off after high school, to go traveling in Europe, I decided that it might be time for me to date again. After few false starts, I found a guy, moved in with him... couple of years later was kicked out - because a clairvoyant told him I'm not his dream woman.

I could have laughed until I peed in my pants, if it wouldn't have been so damn ridiculous. Sure, there were other problems but...

So I took 'sabatical" from dating again. Had to get some self confidence back...

These days I'm happy to be on my own again. Don't need a man to look after me - but I wouldn't mind some companionship.

Going to find it here? Don't know. But it seems what I did find is some interesting people to chat with.

good comeback re