Honesty (28)

I'd say so. I totally understand the desire to open up to a man and let him into every corner of your life, past and present, but I don't think it should be done in the initial stages of a relationship....

You know, it used to be a huge dilemma to me - like, if I don't show all sides of my character and moods at the start, then I must be "deceiving" the person; if I do, it may put them off/scare them... (you know how most men are about handling a woman's emotions )

Until I heard of viewing it like selling an expensive vehicle to a potential buyer - you don't exactly start out with its shortcomings and possible defects, but rather make the buyer really fall in love with it, and then when he's already made up his mind you might warn him that it does consume a little more petrol, or to pay attention to this or that part during maintenance. Same with a relationship - NONE of us is perfect all of the time, none of us can claim they never have any "moods" etc.... Most of us have made mistakes in the past that we're not exactly proud of... But to start out with it would be the same as talking a buyer out of buying the car?

worse than that its grab a bottle time and run for them there hills

First mistake - buying a car and finding a partner for life are not the same...

Cars are much more reliable than people hahaha

Save the bad news for later theory, hook them on your line and then when the hook is firmly wedged in their throat and they are in the bag tell them the bad news.

Sounds like game playing to me. Not the right way to start a relationship. Good for flirtations or just some fun with people that you are physically attracted to. For anything real, you have to be honest from the start. The thing is you may think they are hooked and have spent months biting your tongue and smiling sweetly like a girl after 1.5 valium, but they may still leave you when you suddenly become your real self. They may still be scared off.

I am a great believer in honesty, and believe that a whole heap of relationships don't work because people are so busy trying to win the object of their desire, that they fail to see very blatant differences and major things that actually mean they are not suited to the other person. The rolling stones said ' you don't always get what you want, but if you try sometimes you just might find, you get what you need' - Its kind of like yes people, some people actually believe that if they agree with everything the other person says, the other person will like them more. Not true!!! unless you are a bully and a fascist. I like attitude and love people who are honest, who disagree with me,(not for the sake of it, because they actually do not agree with what I am saying) However, i do not like facists, bullies and know it alls. The best are people who say 'you have your opinion', 'i have mine', we can discuss it, argue it out, but we don't have to have the same opinion at the end of the evening. However we both deeply respect the others opinion and the right of the other person to have that opinion. Its what makes the world an interesting place...

Honesty is the best policy!!! Relationships, real ones should not involve games.