Are we being a bit too picky , selective or cautious ? ( Archived) (87)

Hugz_n_Kissez: My head is still not clear so I am trying to make as much sense as possible...with the little sense I have today Riya....so I hope it wasn't too confusing!!!!!!!!!!

riyablossom: still not better ??? Have u been taking meds ?

Your post made perfect sense

Hugz_n_Kissez: No not yet....I got the cold part now and yeah taking my cold and flu meds.....and good...glad it was clear enough.....

riyablossom: I was just wondering whether there's too much of thought going in to what should be , will not be , what we want , what we will do and wont do etc.

I mean when you are meeting someone with an interest in mind ..
a possible date or romantic involvement , minimum reasonable expectations are definitely a must to keep in mind but after that .....
Is it right to have predecided ideas on what should or will and should not be ?

I was thinking if one should let things take a natural course by just being " yourself " as that would be the best way ( i think ) to evaluate if there is a spark or even anything common to carry it further.

Maybe there should be more of spontaneity ??

On the other hand there does obviously exist the factor of unsurity about the other person making one wary to begin with.

What do you think ??

HuskyRomantic: Good point. I believe that we all are guilty of walking in to a relationship with too many expectations and ruin chances for something greater. It's a lesson life hold for everyone to learn...some people, like myself, take a long time to learn.