Would need to have more details on him. Is he working there? Was he born there? Why hasn't he made an effort to meet you before? Has he invited you to his home? If not, why not?
A year is along time to be talking to someone that you really haven't a clue about. We all know people can tell you anything on here.
It just rings alarm bells for me.......
He has invited me to where he is working and living.....I also have had too many commitments with other travel arrangements to make the time to go.....I agree with the part where you say people can tell you anything on here......that's why it's take's so long to sieve out the plastic one's....
stefonline: God knows Skimp when we would get the chance to meet up again but he has offered in the past to pay my fare to Dubai....but I declined on more than one occassion.....will see how it goes....he should have more concrete bookings made by next Tuesday or Wednesday....so will wait and see.....
Well I hope it works out and that you do get to see him.
stefonline: Been emailing and talking on messenger to this guy on here for over a year now. Been saying for the longest time he must meet up with me.
Well the day has finally arrived....me thinks.....not holding my breath.Now as it goes he will be flying from Dubai to United states via London for a few days work conference in London. He wants me to fly over to meet him.What do ya all think....
To be very honest (maybe am a little old fashioned) I think he should be the one to pop over to you (for the first meeting at least) I really do believe (given mens not so good reputation and hormone let behaviour generally) that the guy should work a little bit for his girl in the beginning... its a good way of sorting the wheat from the chaff so to speak.. good luck though Steph.. whatever you choose to do
stefonline: We will see skimp......a bit conserned about the Muslim thingy you know.....
Listen to your gut instincts Steph.. they generally don't fail us... is he practicing/devout? if he is it will never work unless you consider converting, and unless you consider what that will entail.. my cousin married a Muslim... she loved him and she was happy to convert.... however it does mean that she has taken on the traditional Muslim woman role.. now while for her that is ok and she is happy to do so... consider these kinds of things if you are serious about him...
Aries01: Listen to your gut instincts Steph.. they generally don't fail us... is he practicing/devout? if he is it will never work unless you consider converting, and unless you consider what that will entail.. my cousin married a Muslim... she loved him and she was happy to convert.... however it does mean that she has taken on the traditional Muslim woman role.. now while for her that is ok and she is happy to do so... consider these kinds of things if you are serious about him...
I agree but you also have to remember that he may not be a practicing muslim in the west but when he is home he maybe devout and not drink so watch out for that.
skimpydoo: I agree but you also have to remember that he may not be a practicing muslim in the west but when he is home he maybe devout and not drink so watch out for that.
very true... which makes me think even more that it best that you meet him on your turf... but again.. totally Stephs own choice and I wish her the best of luck whatever she chooses
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Aries01: Listen to your gut instincts Steph.. they generally don't fail us... is he practicing/devout? if he is it will never work unless you consider converting, and unless you consider what that will entail.. my cousin married a Muslim... she loved him and she was happy to convert.... however it does mean that she has taken on the traditional Muslim woman role.. now while for her that is ok and she is happy to do so... consider these kinds of things if you are serious about him...
Migawd people, she's talking meeting him for coffee. You go and start trying to consider every future detail of something before you do it you'll never do anything.
Aries01: Listen to your gut instincts Steph.. they generally don't fail us... is he practicing/devout? if he is it will never work unless you consider converting, and unless you consider what that will entail.. my cousin married a Muslim... she loved him and she was happy to convert.... however it does mean that she has taken on the traditional Muslim woman role.. now while for her that is ok and she is happy to do so... consider these kinds of things if you are serious about him...
No he is not devout and dos'nt practise either.....much more an american to tell the truth....I have no intention of converting to anything for anybody.....if he wanted he could convert to a christian at some point were it to work....if not he can stay as he is......
skimpydoo: I agree but you also have to remember that he may not be a practicing muslim in the west but when he is home he maybe devout and not drink so watch out for that.
stefonline: No he is not devout and dos'nt practise either.....much more an american to tell the truth....I have no intention of converting to anything for anybody.....if he wanted he could convert to a christian at some point were it to work....if not he can stay as he is......
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Would need to have more details on him. Is he working there? Was he born there? Why hasn't he made an effort to meet you before? Has he invited you to his home? If not, why not?
A year is along time to be talking to someone that you really haven't a clue about. We all know people can tell you anything on here.
It just rings alarm bells for me.......
He has invited me to where he is working and living.....I also have had too many commitments with other travel arrangements to make the time to go.....I agree with the part where you say people can tell you anything on here......that's why it's take's so long to sieve out the plastic one's....