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kamelia: No it was a different situation...
I was dating a guy when I was in the States, so in a way it was much easier cause we already knew each other..
You really can't say you have a relationship until you've met the person in RL..
After you've met and spend time together you can make up your mind about the future developments
I was dating a guy when I was in the States, so in a way it was much easier cause we already knew each other..
You really can't say you have a relationship until you've met the person in RL..
After you've met and spend time together you can make up your mind about the future developments
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druidess6308: I've always said I'd never trust enough to have a LDR, and (remember, guys, why I say I never say never...Fate likes to bite me for it?! ) now I'm starting one. He's only a couple of hours away right now, but getting ready to move another hour or so away for a new job he's starting.
I won't move that far from my kids at this stage, so if we decided it was really serious, he'd have to give up that job and move here. We'll know how serious this might get after this weekend. Right now, the plan is for him to come here and visit for the whole weekend, meet my kids, everything. He'll be staying in my guest room while we see if the sparks are there for physical attraction/chemistry in person. So far things in email and by phone are great.
I know this isn't the same as a different region or country, but when you both work and there are that many hours to travel, it might as well be (a different region, anyway). It's more long distance than I had ever planned. And I agree that a LDR can put a strain on the relationship, though people have done it successfully with lots of travel back and forth, and tons of communication in between. You have to have a lot of trust and patience for that, though.
Good luck, Oz. I hope it all works out for you.
I won't move that far from my kids at this stage, so if we decided it was really serious, he'd have to give up that job and move here. We'll know how serious this might get after this weekend. Right now, the plan is for him to come here and visit for the whole weekend, meet my kids, everything. He'll be staying in my guest room while we see if the sparks are there for physical attraction/chemistry in person. So far things in email and by phone are great.
I know this isn't the same as a different region or country, but when you both work and there are that many hours to travel, it might as well be (a different region, anyway). It's more long distance than I had ever planned. And I agree that a LDR can put a strain on the relationship, though people have done it successfully with lots of travel back and forth, and tons of communication in between. You have to have a lot of trust and patience for that, though.
Good luck, Oz. I hope it all works out for you.
It is difficult, but if you want something enough, you will find a way to make it work.
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kamelia: In a LDR you have to answer a lot of "what if" questions and feel free to share your concerns about the future developments..
What if we were to get serious?
When would be the appropriate time to meet for the both of you?
What if you didn't feel the same chemistry?
What if you fell madly in love with each other?
What would happen if you decide to be together (who would be the one to move)?
What is the reasonable time frame for the both of you to make the decision about moving?
Etc..
What if we were to get serious?
When would be the appropriate time to meet for the both of you?
What if you didn't feel the same chemistry?
What if you fell madly in love with each other?
What would happen if you decide to be together (who would be the one to move)?
What is the reasonable time frame for the both of you to make the decision about moving?
Etc..
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cardsfan24: Everyone is different when they come to long distance realationships....some have worked(don and jackie, Mf and mickey, eric and kissmedeeply) They put hard work into making a relationship work....they are true examples of love being found onhere, and give me and many others hope that we 2 will find love...
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Maybe 'old fashioned' shouldn't be old fashioned