Till death do us part, the deadly consequences of love gone wrong ( Archived) (3)

Many of us who joining CS or other dating sites, live with the hope to one day meet the right one, maybe marry and have kids if so enclined. What if you met someone whether online or otherwise and got into a relationship, married/or lived together, had the kids and then it all went wrong. Now one of you wants out and the other doesn't. There are man for whom the vow till death do us part is taken very seriously and sometimes to deadly consequences.

There have been quite a few stories in the papers here recetly of relationships gone wrong where the woman wants out of a relationship(for whatever reason) and the man still wants to hold on. In most normal cases they might seek counselling or simply go their own way. However there has been more than a few cases where the men have decided that if they can't have the woman in their lives then no one else ever will. So they decide to end it and by IT I mean their lives - and that of the woman. The trend now seems to be first murder the woman and then drink poison(usually a deadly weedicide) or hang yourself. Some men however have taken it a step further and completely bypass the woman and take the lives of their own children.

Some recent cases come to mind. In the first one the couple separated and the man had the two kids. I suppose the stress of both the ended relationship and the stress of having to now raise two young kids contributed to his decision to poison both himself and the two young children. Luckily the two children survived their father's madness but not without spending a while in the hospital. He was not so lucky. In the second case I heard about, a man and his wife have an argument and the next thing you hear he has taken his two year old for a drive, forces the child to drink poison and drinks himself thus ending both their lives. How does a person stomach forcing their child to drink poison? And there are stories much worse that this this where after an argument with a girlfriend she in anger tells him that the child just a month old is not his. Later she goes out leaving the child with him. When she returns she finds the child covered up in bed, supposedly asleep. When the child does not awake,she investigates to find the child not breathing. The child is taken to the hospital but it is too late. Upon investigation it is found that the man has in a rage taken the child and bashed its head on a couch. In the end - it turns that the child was indeed his. One common thread relationship problems. In yet another the wife wanted to end the relationship and the man didn't. He tried to get a reconciliation - that didn't work, so what did he do? Hack the wife to death and then poison himself. And on and on it goes.

I have noticed that in this society a lot of men do not think it is cool to seek any form of counseling. It is not seen as macho or manly. They do not feel they can go to their male friends to talk about their problems with their relationships because they will most likely be laughed at and told - "Why are you bothering with her, plenty more fish in the sea". So when hopelessness hits they feel there is nowhere to turn except to end it all. How society socialises men is also to be blamed in a lot of cases. Women are seen as mere posessions, as property or as an investment. Many think - "How dear she leave!, after I have invested so much in her! Well no other man is going to benefit from my investment!". Or better yet they think that if they deprive the woman of her children by killing them what better way to punish them with guilt for leaving them. I think they just do not deal with breakups well and take what I would consider the coward's way out. Would love to hear your comments.