There are questions many of us ask them----- that lead us straight the dead-end street of frustration: "Why can't he/she----?" "What is he/she up to?" Why can't I make him/her see----?"
They're simple but they say a lot. They reveal our conviction that we are in control--that we know what ought to be done--that our wisdom is greater than someone else's. They lead to frustration because we are not in control--of anyone or anything but ourselves.
In his book, The Sign of Jonas, Thomas Merton says: "Stop asking yourself questions that have no meaning. Or if they have, you'll find out when you need to--find out both the questions and the answers."
"Speculating on other people's attitudes and motives is a waist of time and effort. To search out the reasons for my own is a voyage of discovery!"
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They're simple but they say a lot. They reveal our conviction that we are in control--that we know what ought to be done--that our wisdom is greater than someone else's. They lead to frustration because we are not in control--of anyone or anything but ourselves.
In his book, The Sign of Jonas, Thomas Merton says: "Stop asking yourself questions that have no meaning. Or if they have, you'll find out when you need to--find out both the questions and the answers."
"Speculating on other people's attitudes and motives is a waist of time and effort. To search out the reasons for my own is a voyage of discovery!"