Precious weekends - sharing time together. (6)

Hi all, this is very long story but would be interested in general feedback by both guys and gals.
One of my best buddies goes out with girl, everything okay but girl goes home every weekend to visit family, sisters, nieces/nephews.
Buddy generally felt at the start it was okay but girl contiuned to go home every weekend, sometime Friday, sometimes Sat, stating that she had babies to look after, shopping etc. She had an extended family, 12-14 nieces and nephews.
Fair enough the girl liked looking after them etc and its natural.
Buddy wasnt too bothered at the start, liked seeing her during the week and made the effort to do so. Eventually when he looked back on it, over many beers, she spent only 7 weekends with him over the course of their first year. To be fair to the girl she was new to relationships, what was to be expected etc. This being meant in the nicest way possible. She wasnt the type to have 2 guys on the go, she was pretty timid and young at heart for her age (30+).
So a close female friend of ours made the statement that the girl wasnt normal, she should be able to break the apron strings and spend time with her fella. I wasnt aware of the nitty gritty of their relationship didnt want to know, but from a guys perspective I would have expected the girl to make an effort. She didnt have time to go on summer holidays as she had things planned with her sisters. Eventually after about 14months they broke up, she dumped him saying he wasnt good to her, didnt make an effort. They had argued and hurtful things were said by both parties. The guy had tried to reason with her but the cracks starting showing after 10months when she started have hissy fits. My buddies father wasnt well so he couldnt attend a wedding down the country, she was initially fine about it and went with her sister but then days later lost the head, sobbed uncontrollably in public and shook for sometime. He said it was scary. He was in love with though and wanted to stay together, had even asked her weeks before to consider moving in with him for a period to see how they would get on and he'd be able to spend time with her during the week.
Anyways the general view held by his buddies was that he was best not involved with her, even though he was smitten. Hes whith another girl now, but still not his usual happy self, it will take time probably.
Everyone has different experiences I suppose.

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Something missing for me from this story - did Buddy ask to spend the weekends with her amongst her extended family ?.

Was he prepared to become part of her world (if no, maybe he's the problem), or was it that she excluded him from her world (in which case maybe she's the problem).

Peter

I really don't get the whole point in asking us to put our word in here if you can't be sure of the in's and out's of it all. They didn't communicate by the sounds of it and they moved on in life; this happens all the time; some get over it; others move on. By the sounds of it, she didn't want him there for whatever reasons and if he can't realise after a year that he can't see her all the times that he wants, he has some sort of block going on. If he can't confide in you either, something may be wrong with his communications and skills at reading close friends.