Drowning in relationships (35)
I dunno, been wondering the same thing for years myself. 
kidatheart: I dunno, been wondering the same thing for years myself.
I was expecting something profound and insightful from ya 
Is there no hope for me, or you? or are there more of us out there.
My uncle in his 80's has a girlfriend and they live in seperate houses 450 miles apart, they manage their own lives. They talked marriage, but both like where they live, she has family near by.
They ring each other as say stuff like meet you in Paris on Wednesday, and they do it
they have a hell of a time, very romantic, very physical (so I am told) very happy - Is this the answer for me?
Hi there,
I'm exactly like you too, I am far too independent but your uncles relationship sounds ideal, thats what I'd love :)
I'm exactly like you too, I am far too independent but your uncles relationship sounds ideal, thats what I'd love :)
Ecoprincess: I was expecting something profound and insightful from ya
Is there no hope for me, or you? or are there more of us out there.My uncle in his 80's has a girlfriend and they live in seperate houses 450 miles apart, they manage their own lives. They talked marriage, but both like where they live, she has family near by.
They ring each other as say stuff like meet you in Paris on Wednesday, and they do it they have a hell of a time, very romantic, very physical (so I am told) very happy -
Is this the answer for me?
Is there no hope for me, or you? or are there more of us out there.My uncle in his 80's has a girlfriend and they live in seperate houses 450 miles apart, they manage their own lives. They talked marriage, but both like where they live, she has family near by.
They ring each other as say stuff like meet you in Paris on Wednesday, and they do it they have a hell of a time, very romantic, very physical (so I am told) very happy -
Is this the answer for me?
I like my life for the most part, and what I don't like I'm changing. If I could meet someone that could appreciate and fit in to my life without wanting to change everything, I'd give it a try.
One g/f I had many years ago was a great lady and enjoyed the time we spent together, but it was also nice when she went home. I have to admit there were days I couldn't wait for her to leave so I could breathe.
All it takes is that one special lunatic to come along, and maybe, just maybe it'll work.
Lilith: Hi there,
I'm exactly like you too, I am far too independent but your uncles relationship sounds ideal, thats what I'd love :)
I'm exactly like you too, I am far too independent but your uncles relationship sounds ideal, thats what I'd love :)
yes, I recently had a think about this marriage lark, and I think it needs re looking at.
could marriage be difined as:
A set of rules, regulations and punishments, made by people for others to live up to?
Who said it has to be this way?
How do we rewrite the book?
Ecoprincess: yes, I recently had a think about this marriage lark, and I think it needs re looking at.
could marriage be difined as:
A set of rules, regulations and punishments, made by people for others to live up to?
Who said it has to be this way?
How do we rewrite the book?
could marriage be difined as:
A set of rules, regulations and punishments, made by people for others to live up to?
Who said it has to be this way?
How do we rewrite the book?
Who says you have to be married to have a committed relationship?
Although generally I do feel that the way you described it is the way it usually is.
kidatheart: I like my life for the most part, and what I don't like I'm changing. If I could meet someone that could appreciate and fit in to my life without wanting to change everything, I'd give it a try.
One g/f I had many years ago was a great lady and enjoyed the time we spent together, but it was also nice when she went home. I have to admit there were days I couldn't wait for her to leave so I could breathe.
All it takes is that one special lunatic to come along, and maybe, just maybe it'll work.
One g/f I had many years ago was a great lady and enjoyed the time we spent together, but it was also nice when she went home. I have to admit there were days I couldn't wait for her to leave so I could breathe.
All it takes is that one special lunatic to come along, and maybe, just maybe it'll work.
Fit in with your life? does she have to change her life? Are we talking compromise?
hiya honey hows it hanging 
kidatheart: Who says you have to be married to have a committed relationship?
Although generally I do feel that the way you described it is the way it usually is.
Although generally I do feel that the way you described it is the way it usually is.
Thank God, no one says it has to be marriage - personally never going there again
but if that is the definition of marriage, what is the definition of a committed relationships?
Ecoprincess: Fit in with your life? does she have to change her life? Are we talking compromise? hiya honey hows it hanging
No, I don't see why she would have to change her life either. What do you mean by compromise? Like surrender?
It's getting cold here, so it's not really hanging.
kidatheart: No, I don't see why she would have to change her life either. What do you mean by compromise? Like surrender?
It's getting cold here, so it's not really hanging.
It's getting cold here, so it's not really hanging.
- not hanging - get insulation installed Ahh, compromise not sure really never do it
ahm I think its like when one person meets another half way on a decision.Like I say to you - honey I want a new Harley, you say we can't afford it, and then I get a moped instead
I dont get what I want and we spend money on something you didnt want to Hell, I'm bad at this relationship stuff - is there a "dummies guide"
In over my depth I think
what are ya giving out about now woman
Surrender - no not that
I like playing that game we can play later - if you like 
I like playing that game we can play later - if you like mrwright1: what are ya giving out about now woman
Hiya
give me your words of wisdom -
Ecoprincess: Surrender - no not that I like playing that game we can play later - if you like
surrender
ya mean submit
mrwright1: surrender
ya mean submit
ya mean submit
na thats a different one 
hey I have a job for ya, digging out 20 sq foot f muck and putting down drains, concrete n building a block wall round two side one abut 3 foot the other about 5 foot - whats the best deal
Ecoprincess: na thats a different one hey I have a job for ya, digging out 20 sq foot f muck and putting down drains, concrete n building a block wall round two side one abut 3 foot the other about 5 foot - whats the best deal
i watch you do it and offer my experience for free
hope you've got the fridge full of cans
mrwright1: i watch you do it and offer my experience for free
hope you've got the fridge full of cans
hope you've got the fridge full of cans
Should have mentioned the allover suntan is coming along well
After all this time daren't do it myself, too close to my house and greenhouse, need both. Might break a fingernail blocking
but want to have a go on digger to put in a couple of fence posts - away from my house and greenhouse- what ton have you got?
Oh happy days
Ecoprincess: Should have mentioned the allover suntan is coming along well
After all this time daren't do it myself, too close to my house and greenhouse, need both. Might break a fingernail blocking
but want to have a go on digger to put in a couple of fence posts - away from my house and greenhouse- what ton have you got?
Oh happy days
After all this time daren't do it myself, too close to my house and greenhouse, need both. Might break a fingernail blocking
but want to have a go on digger to put in a couple of fence posts - away from my house and greenhouse- what ton have you got?
Oh happy days
no tones just two stones
and a pile driver
mrwright1: no tones just two stones
and a pile driver
and a pile driver
Ah, off thread and back on your fav. subject,
well I'm off out now to enjoy the sunshine, do some work and enjoy my day
for soon too soon its back to Ireland and work
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So do we have to give up independence in a relationship?
Can two people lead independent lives and still be in a committed relationship, bringing their lives together to make that relationship, or do we have to melt into each others lives, make concessions to the others life - does this mean we loose something of ourselves, and is it important.
I know I'm not the run of the mill type of girl, but we all have our own precious individualities that we should value and keep?