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Oct 11, 2008 1:01 PM CST gutted
desia
desiadesiadublin, Dublin Ireland3 Threads 27 Posts
hi all need hugs i met a guy on here who contacted me gemin28 he is and he came all the way to meet me here in london where i live and we had a great two weeks togetehr making plans about our future he declaring he loves me and so on and then he went to go back to ireland and we planned to make a life together well what can i say we called each other every day e mailed every day called each other in the middle of the night passionately i thought in love and fool i am i believed him he met my family my children loved him all our friends at our local pub aaccepted us as a couple now and then he didnt call me for a day and a night and i called him after his phone wa on voice mail all the time and he was drunk and told me he was with anothe woman she then came on th ohone and said he has just been using me all along and was with her and told her he loved her all the time etc
why on earth would anyone in their right minds do that to a good sincere honest loving person like me never mind just to me but to do that to anyone is such a terrible cruel uneccessary thing to do if you want to have a fling be honest and just say so not make someon fall in love wiht you and then throw it all back in their faces
i am so sos o sincere in wanting to find a love of my own to grow old with and i believed this was it
hwo wrong i was and so now i find it is going otbe almost impossible to believe anyone from a date site again and that is sad as i ams ure there are good people on them but i am just so heartbroken and cant understand why anyone would want to hurt a good person like me in this way so guys if you read this please think twice before you take somone heart and life into your hands be honest and sincere im just so so so sad right now and my family are horrified anyone would want to hurt me in this manner kevin if you read this god forgive you becaue i never will love to all dee
Oct 11, 2008 1:23 PM CST gutted
rosara
rosararosarawexford, Wexford Ireland19 Threads 3 Polls 787 Posts
sad flower aw you opoor thing, what a w****r. you are very pretty, don't give up hope. xx
rosakiss
Oct 11, 2008 1:41 PM CST gutted
Elise39
Elise39Elise39Portumna, Galway Ireland21 Threads 667 Posts
You know what...something very similar to this happened to me about 6 years ago...only I actually came here, and he left his family...but had been telling me for a before I came that he was seperated for 7 years before he met me online. I came and found out he was still living with his family and had only moved out when I came to Ireland. Yet, here I am. Still looking one a dating site. I guess whats changed for me is that I now actually date, instead of jump in. I only date locally as well...and I take my time. I wouldn't distrust everyone...but at the same time..don't trust everyone either..but check them out...with time and alot of coffee and questions...hug comfort
Oct 11, 2008 1:42 PM CST gutted
Thats dreadful..what a waste of space he is...very mad.The woman who is with him has some prize sigh You'll find someone nice and sincere yet as you come across as so...Some guys just make you barf
Oct 11, 2008 1:53 PM CST gutted
Crystal29
Crystal29Crystal29Glasgow, Strathclyde, Scotland UK35 Threads 8,448 Posts
Sorry to hear your sad story Desia but sometimes its best to take it really slowly before jumping him...he hasnt been on here that long if i remember rightly........better luck next time.

comfort
Oct 11, 2008 2:31 PM CST gutted
jampet
jampetjampetwexford, Wexford Ireland28 Threads 1 Polls 2,549 Posts
sorry to hear that = what a w8nker! don't lose heart- just take it slowhug
Oct 11, 2008 5:02 PM CST gutted
sweetvelvet
sweetvelvetsweetvelvetdublin, Dublin Ireland37 Threads 1 Polls 6,258 Posts
hi sorry to read what this man put you through bouquet teddybear
Oct 12, 2008 3:51 AM CST gutted
Poor you..my heart goes out to you. While these sites are great fun and a good chance to meet people we would not normally meet, it is a great place for the cads of the world. I could write a book on them at this stage! Take time to lick your wounds and you will come back stronger and more aware of what you really want in your life. I wish you all the best and i hope love comes your way when your heart is ready..MWAH for now.
Oct 12, 2008 9:09 AM CST gutted
desia
desiadesiadublin, Dublin Ireland3 Threads 27 Posts
thanks finethng for the message i feel very sad and ye i have learned a lesson the thing is i am basically a very honest person and tend to believe in others honesty and inegrity is as strong as mine so we live and learn heh keep in touch t is nice tomake friends love dee
Oct 12, 2008 9:11 AM CST gutted
desia
desiadesiadublin, Dublin Ireland3 Threads 27 Posts
well she cant be very nice to know she has taken someone elses guy and to talk to me on the phone when she was with him and also to tell me to f@@@@@@@ off int he wayshe did very lady liek indeed so if he wants to be with a common strumpet instead of me well he lost a wonderful woman heh and yes i do not intend to let this make me bitter just very careful fromnow on love dee
Oct 12, 2008 9:12 AM CST gutted
desia
desiadesiadublin, Dublin Ireland3 Threads 27 Posts
thanks sweetvelvet nice to knwo you care i am very sad
Oct 12, 2008 9:14 AM CST gutted
desia
desiadesiadublin, Dublin Ireland3 Threads 27 Posts
thanks jampet im glad so many care it was a sad blow to me cos i really trusted him so did my family love dee
Oct 12, 2008 9:16 AM CST gutted
desia
desiadesiadublin, Dublin Ireland3 Threads 27 Posts
hi chrystal thanks no i dont htink he has but to come all the way here to meet me and then make plans and go back and call me eer day and so on and then i called him and he was drunk and said to me you know the woman i told you ias with before you well she is withme now and she is loving me and then this woman came on the phone and started swearing at me and so on i was so so so shocked being a lady and coming froma refined family we dont behave in that manner so i am very sad but i will get over it isuppose intime love dee
Oct 12, 2008 9:17 AM CST gutted
desia
desiadesiadublin, Dublin Ireland3 Threads 27 Posts
thanks crollydoll nice of you to care i was gutted especially as we spent so manyhappy hours together with family and friends here love dee
Oct 12, 2008 9:18 AM CST gutted
desia
desiadesiadublin, Dublin Ireland3 Threads 27 Posts
wow elise how bad was that for you thing is i really felt so much for him so did my family im sad but i guess there is a lid for every pot heh he lost a wonderful woman in me tho if he rather wants to be with a strumpet with a filthy mouth and who obviously drinks as much love dee
Oct 12, 2008 9:20 AM CST gutted
desia
desiadesiadublin, Dublin Ireland3 Threads 27 Posts
thanks rosara i fel not so alone now thanks for the message of comfort i really needed this i feel so lonely and rejected and sad and have spent many hours in tears oh dam my soft heart really wish i was hard as nails so i do love dee
Oct 12, 2008 9:46 AM CST gutted
Crystal29
Crystal29Crystal29Glasgow, Strathclyde, Scotland UK35 Threads 8,448 Posts
Hi Desia.....all I will say is be glad that you got rid of him when you did.....he is obviously not a nice man at all and I would say that the other women and him deserve each other.....some women are so desperate they would take any male..the only requirement being a pulse....I despair for some of them.
Anyway you are a lovely lady and deserve more so put him to the back of your mind, move forward and hopefully you will meet a gentleman soon...there are some out there I promise.

Cx bouquet
Oct 13, 2008 7:46 AM CST gutted
desia
desiadesiadublin, Dublin Ireland3 Threads 27 Posts
thanks for that chris lovely to hear so many of you care oh well maybe somewhere there is someon for me heh love deeheart1
Oct 13, 2008 10:48 AM CST gutted
Mummy
MummyMummyDrogheda, Louth Ireland177 Threads 1 Polls 2,380 Posts
ah no. well.....if i were you i'd be thinking, gosh, i'm glad i didn't get any further in the relationship, that you found out what a real sweetheart he really is.

what a piece of work. same thing happened to me before too....rotten liars alot of them, and you know what its guys like these that ruin it for the nice blokes, cause nice gals like us will find it hard to trust another person again.

You will get over it. big hug for ya hun.

xx
Oct 14, 2008 6:12 AM CST gutted
desia
desiadesiadublin, Dublin Ireland3 Threads 27 Posts
the thing is he had an affair with this woman for two years before he met me and as she is married he broke it offf apparantly she kept on promising she was going to leave her husabnd for him and didnt and the worst thing si instead of respectin the precious mometns we had togetehr and me as a lady and as the woman he spent some extroudanary mooments with call me and tell me in a decent way he jsut blurted out list4en dont call me anymore im with rita and i love her and she broke myheart but we are back togethr again and iw as supposed to deal with it ive done a lot of crying and soul searching and i know im silly to cry over someone who is so cruel and callous and obviously not worthy of me but hell we are human heh so if there is one really good guy who wants to patch up this angels broken wings and u really are a MAN please coem kisss it better im so so so sad rightnow
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