Is There A Stigma Attached To Online dating? (50)

I don't really see how online is any different from going out hoping to meet someone in a pub/club/wherever??
the difference here- is that you get a chance to talk to people first , see how they respond to you and others- sometimes about some touchy or interesting subjects-and base an impression of them before it moves further- you don't really have that opportunity in 'real life'.
in, say, a pub, you are kind of 'putting all your eggs in one basket'= if you KWIM, if you meet someone, seem to get on- you really know nothing about them till you go out on a date, and might find they really aren't your type at all- some of us don't get many nights out for that opportunity,. I would rather know a little about them first.

\yes- there will be a lot of chancers online, but aren't they out there anyway??

I'd say there still is a bit of stigma attached to it, i'm guilty of this myself, i always taught i'ld never try internet dating or join dating companies, as i thought it was only for people who either didn't go out or were too tied up with work to get out there and meet people!

This didn't apply2me as i was always out and then was in a 5year relationship. That finished this year, and i started going out again, but found that most people my age are already married, and it's near on impossible to meet single people my age.

My friend told me about internet sites, and being someone who's not afraid to try something new, here i am. I don't go out as much as i did in my 20's, am a firm believer in staying in is the new going out!!

I have found this to be a great way to meet people, although i wouldn't say it is very successful as a dating site, in my experience, people like to sit at home chatting to people rather than going out meeting someone. As i said though that's my experience, the friend who put me on to this was always going to dublin to meet people, and a friend i told about this has been going out with someone now for months (again from dublin!?)

Maybe dublin women are a lot more willing to go meet someone? (maybe due to the male/female ratio!



Saying all that, i'm always telling my friend's that im on a dating site, and whereas i can see their amused, i also see interest!! I believe it's a lot more socialably acceptable, especially for people over 30!!

I do still find it strange seeing people under 27 on here, and wonder why the hell they are not out meeting young single people their own age, so yes although I'm on here myself and proud of it, believing it to be a modern method, i am guilty of maintaining a stigmatism to it myself!!

good one smily ......

I am new to CS and have been on sites before and did date a few off them. If you check the Forus you will see many nice people on there many highly educated and very intelligent. We enjoy the chats and the threads. I thought the phrase Fresh Meat was only used in the Middle East as that is mostly aimed at westerners. I have University behind me of 6yrs and I spend time on here. I am a career Lady and need for nothing material wise. I come on here to have contact with real people. Some have very interesting things to chat about. Misfits who said that? They know nothing. I spend all day in an office with some of those looking down their nose at others, they are the people with major problems. I love the people on CS they are brilliant. You take no notice of those idiots and stay with us.
Merry Christmas.

Well put.

Hi all, never posted here before..but yes, I do feel people look down at me when I say I am exploring on-line dating. Maybe it IS because they associate it with desperate older people, but I just think that this is a better way because I can take my time and not be blinded by confusing feelings of Lust/misleading facial expressions, etc before-hand

I do get the odd guy that thinks maybe because I am on-line, I must be so desperate I'm going to let him into my life right away! Maybe they don't see that a lot more caution is needed here simply because it's the internet.....some have been pretty rude too when I don't give out my number or agree to meet right away....