How do you do it... (65)
derrywoman: I personally would rather it the way it is,,,but in saying that,we can have discussions,and i kind of enjoy them too,with out anyone taking it personal.As to its to nice,,maybe we r all just nice people and i rahter people being nice,,but not in a false way,,,than fighting and acting like children jmo
That what I mean about being "so nice"..it seemed too good to be true,its not possible for people to be nice all of the time..against human nature
I find it amazing that some take it on here so personal that folks get their feeling hurt
TurkishDelight: I agree with the exception of the highlighted part..unless you give the ammunition to another how do they really and truly push anothers buttons If anyone is to survive the dating game, they need to loose some of that sensivity and get on with life. Goodness if folks were as senstive in life as they are on here, there would be no point in leaving the house.
Well they don't know but if someone says something offensive, someone else is bound to react. Its hard not to sometimes.
Maybe we do need to adopt thicker skins and be less sensitive or maybe we need to be a bit more considerate and sensitive to other people's feelingss. Just a thought......
TurkishDelight: That what I mean about being "so nice"..it seemed too good to be true,its not possible for people to be nice all of the time..against human nature
I find it amazing that some take it on here so personal that folks get their feeling hurt
yes i know wot u mean about that maggie,,things shud,nt be taken so personal,,as it is the net,,and also people r entitled to their opinions,whether rite r wrong,,but in saying that, then,some people,,believe strongly in a thing enuff,,they unfortunately do take offence,me personally,ok mite annoy me,,and i wud give my views,,but at end of the day,i remind my self,,that this is the net,,and if the person that has annoyed me,,is,nt a close friend r someone that who views i respect on here, then i say to hell with it,its only a person on the net,,who is,nt in my every day life,,and who knows nothing about me as a person.I find it amazing that some take it on here so personal that folks get their feeling hurt
Thedeise: I think events of late, have put an end to anyone posting a joke in case someone takes it up the wrong way, forums are supposed to be fun, its not going to be much fun if you have to start watching every word you type for fear of being attacked.
Where is all the humour gone.
Where is all the humour gone.
That is a good point to though
derrywoman: yes i know wot u mean about that maggie,,things shud,nt be taken so personal,,as it is the net,,and also people r entitled to their opinions,whether rite r wrong,,but in saying that, then,some people,,believe strongly in a thing enuff,,they unfortunately do take offence,me personally,ok mite annoy me,,and i wud give my views,,but at end of the day,i remind my self,,that this is the net,,and if the person that has annoyed me,,is,nt a close friend r someone that who views i respect on here, then i say to hell with it,its only a person on the net,,who is,nt in my every day life,,and who knows nothing about me as a person.
Well said, DW
DUBLINGUY1973: Well they don't know but if someone says something offensive, someone else is bound to react. Its hard not to sometimes.
Maybe we do need to adopt thicker skins and be less sensitive or maybe we need to be a bit more considerate and sensitive to other people's feelingss. Just a thought......
Maybe we do need to adopt thicker skins and be less sensitive or maybe we need to be a bit more considerate and sensitive to other people's feelingss. Just a thought......
treat others,,the way we would like to be treated ourselves.derrywoman: treat others,,the way we would like to be treated ourselves.
Yeah thats exactly how it should be. Respect other people's opinions even if you don't necessarily agree with them. The world would be a much better place if we could all just do that.
derrywoman: yes i know wot u mean about that maggie,,things shud,nt be taken so personal,,as it is the net,,and also people r entitled to their opinions,whether rite r wrong,,but in saying that, then,some people,,believe strongly in a thing enuff,,they unfortunately do take offence,me personally,ok mite annoy me,,and i wud give my views,,but at end of the day,i remind my self,,that this is the net,,and if the person that has annoyed me,,is,nt a close friend r someone that who views i respect on here, then i say to hell with it,its only a person on the net,,who is,nt in my every day life,,and who knows nothing about me as a person.
Exactly!!!derrywoman: I don,t think the humour has went anywhere robert,,,i know the last few nites,,has been good craic in here,,well i enjoyed them
The humour hasn't totally gone, but when creating a thread, it looks like we will have to be more careful and think should we or shouldn't we, for fear of being attack, on the other hand, posting in an already created thread seems easier for some reason. I know i for one wont be creating a humourous thread for a while.
Thedeise: The humour hasn't totally gone, but when creating a thread, it looks like we will have to be more careful and think should we or shouldn't we, for fear of being attack, on the other hand, posting in an already created thread seems easier for some reason. I know i for one wont be creating a humourous thread for a while.
well if i wanted i would,,and if it offended anyone,,i would then appologize,,and tell who ever it was,,that was,nt personal,,,then that would be my part done robert,up to the other person then to deal with it,in mature manner,,and either ignore the thread,,r give her/his tuppence worth,in an non abusive way
and keep the craic going then for every bodyDUBLINGUY1973: Yeah thats exactly how it should be. Respect other people's opinions even if you don't necessarily agree with them. The world would be a much better place if we could all just do that.
As adults are we not capable of doing just that
When I joined here many many moons ago..long before many of you here where on this site, we had the same problems as you are experiencing now...we ignored them and when they finally got the message they went on their merry way.We argued and debated, change the world from our PC's yet were able to remain as adults in how we treated each other. We had many a row about differing opinions, and believe me when I say it got heatyed in here many a night, some threads were even locked, yet we could still continue on conversing with minimum personal digs at each other.
Something comes to mind...is it possiblt that familiarity breeds contempt here at times
Thedeise: The humour hasn't totally gone, but when creating a thread, it looks like we will have to be more careful and think should we or shouldn't we, for fear of being attack, on the other hand, posting in an already created thread seems easier for some reason. I know i for one wont be creating a humourous thread for a while.
Jaysus Deise, do you walk on egg shells in your life outside of Cs
If not..please, I beg of you , dont do it here, for then you compromise the man that you are if you do.Has the world gone mad that we have to be politically correct and live in fear of having an opinion that differs from others
TurkishDelight: As adults are we not capable of doing just that When I joined here many many moons ago..long before many of you here where on this site, we had the same problems as you are experiencing now...we ignored them and when they finally got the message they went on their merry way.
We argued and debated, change the world from our PC's yet were able to remain as adults in how we treated each other. We had many a row about differing opinions, and believe me when I say it got heatyed in here many a night, some threads were even locked, yet we could still continue on conversing with minimum personal digs at each other.
Something comes to mind...is it possiblt that familiarity breeds contempt here at times
No any threads i have seen where it turn out nasty,,where usually ones thats not familiar on the site and the threads,meaning,the ones that started the threads,i believe where in to stir it,,and not regulars,,r ids that i was familiar with.(Something comes to mind...is it possiblt that familiarity breeds contempt here at times)so i don,t think it to be this.We argued and debated, change the world from our PC's yet were able to remain as adults in how we treated each other. We had many a row about differing opinions, and believe me when I say it got heatyed in here many a night, some threads were even locked, yet we could still continue on conversing with minimum personal digs at each other.
Something comes to mind...is it possiblt that familiarity breeds contempt here at times
derrywoman: well if i wanted i would,,and if it offended anyone,,i would then appologize,,and tell who ever it was,,that was,nt personal,,,then that would be my part done robert,up to the other person then to deal with it,in mature manner,,and either ignore the thread,,r give her/his tuppence worth,in an non abusive way and keep the craic going then for every body
I dont see the point in putting yourself in the position of having to apolofise, and then provoke a disappearance from another member. If someone have a problem with someone, they should talk it over, until it got sorted.
I even felt i had to choose my words carefully in the creation of this post. Thats how sensitive things have got.
TurkishDelight: Jaysus Deise, do you walk on egg shells in your life outside of Cs If not..please, I beg of you , dont do it here, for then you compromise the man that you are if you do.
Has the world gone mad that we have to be politically correct and live in fear of having an opinion that differs from others
Has the world gone mad that we have to be politically correct and live in fear of having an opinion that differs from others
No i dont, but i have become friends with alot of people in here lately, and i dont want anything to mess it up.
TurkishDelight: Jaysus Deise, do you walk on egg shells in your life outside of Cs If not..please, I beg of you , dont do it here, for then you compromise the man that you are if you do.
Has the world gone mad that we have to be politically correct and live in fear of having an opinion that differs from others
Has the world gone mad that we have to be politically correct and live in fear of having an opinion that differs from others
I agree. Not creating threads won't solve the problem because even if someone else posts a thread, you are always going to get one idiot who says something to provoke or stir things up or even just making a tasteless joke not meaning offence but causing it anyway. Like someone said something about the special olympics the other night that i took exception to. I don't think we need to walk on eggshells. We just need to use a bit of common sense and good judgement sometimes. Otherwise we will just keep going around in circles. One person saying something, another person taking offence, someone apologising and another person taking something you said the wrong way and before you know it, things turn nasty.
As for familiarity breeding contempt, i don't know about that. There are a few people on here i am quite familiar with and I don't feel contempt for any of them. Well most if not all.
We are all going to have different points of view and thats healthy because if we didn't, that would be very boring. We just need to convey those opinions in a respectful way i think.
Thedeise: No i dont, but i have become friends with alot of people in here lately, and i dont want anything to mess it up.
Fair point but i think if they are really friends then they will know you know you mean no harm
DUBLINGUY1973: I agree. Not creating threads won't solve the problem because even if someone else posts a thread, you are always going to get one idiot who says something to provoke or stir things up or even just making a tasteless joke not meaning offence but causing it anyway. Like someone said something about the special olympics the other night that i took exception to. I don't think we need to walk on eggshells. We just need to use a bit of common sense and good judgement sometimes. Otherwise we will just keep going around in circles. One person saying something, another person taking offence, someone apologising and another person taking something you said the wrong way and before you know it, things turn nasty.
As for familiarity breeding contempt, i don't know about that. There are a few people on here i am quite familiar with and I don't feel contempt for any of them. Well most if not all.
We are all going to have different points of view and thats healthy because if we didn't, that would be very boring. We just need to convey those opinions in a respectful way i think.
As for familiarity breeding contempt, i don't know about that. There are a few people on here i am quite familiar with and I don't feel contempt for any of them. Well most if not all.
We are all going to have different points of view and thats healthy because if we didn't, that would be very boring. We just need to convey those opinions in a respectful way i think.
well said DG.you do have a brain there i see DUBLINGUY1973: Fair point but i think if they are really friends then they will know you know you mean no harm
Exactly.
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