Mr Right (17)

Sorry to hear that LF! To a degree that spans lesser years, I know where you are coming from, but to each individual resides their own pain so I will not say that I know how YOU feel. Do not avoid the need to feel the hurt, to sense the loss, to cry, to get mad,to ask "why?", for they are all necessary steps. I know that nothing I can say will immediately make everything right, but I will put to you this - there will come a time when the opportunity for happiness will present itself. The old saying that time heals does indeed hold merit (but healing does indeed take time). Embrace each day with a smile and as a new opportunity to live life to its fullest. What else?

What I learned a long time ago, was that by holding onto something that was no longer that I was only robbing myself .... while it hurts like hell there are times one needs to let go and move forward.

Nice to meet you, spirittalk!

Really? Not to question the "why"? Of course no one wants to live in a "bad relationship", but is there not a reason as to "why" the relationship has "soured"? If one does not ask "why", for there are always multiple components that arise from both sides, how can a person learn. How can a person correct possible future errors is one does not no why the relationship failed. You say you walked away from your relationship because he did not "why", yet you stated the reason "why" was because he was too busy controlling his life that was out of control. To understand "why" can be crucial in making the decision to walk away or to work on a relationship.

I totally agree with you in your statement that communication is an extremely important facet in a healthy relationship and that a lack of communication is to blame for the failure of many a relationship. But is not failing to ask "why" things are not working out an example of "failing to communicate"? And is not asking yourself "why", a failure to even begin to communicate with yourself and begin to try and understand what your role in the "breakdown of the realationship was? JMHO.

Da Moose

I sort of agree with Moose. Then again, sometimes is best just to kick them to the curb

Yup,...never is easy! But like dad used to say,....GET THE HELL OFF THE COUCH AND DO YOUR CHORES!!! (Bet you thought I was going to accredit my father with something far more prophetic,..didn't ya! )