WVM and First Contact.... (20)
If someone has viewed my profile and not made contact I take it to mean they are not interested in doing so and wouldnt make contact with them.
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Glatlol: If someone has viewed my profile and not made contact I take it to mean they are not interested in doing so and wouldnt make contact with them.
Yep, they're just sniffin'. I do a lot of that too so can't condone that.
About_Blank: WVM...
Sure, we all use it, and many of us "look back" either live or logged out...
So, just for the sake of a survey...
What gets you responding, Is it the persons looks primarily, is it there foruming, the detail of there profile, would you consider someone with a limited sidebar (ya know, the box on the right with there site contributions and details)...
And that old chestnut, the lack of photo, Really, is it such a big deal if everything else is solid...
Does what you use WVM for partialy define your reason for being on site or is it just a bit of fun and a boost to your morale?...
OK, have your say, Vote, Whatever...
Regards...A_B......
Sure, we all use it, and many of us "look back" either live or logged out...
So, just for the sake of a survey...
What gets you responding, Is it the persons looks primarily, is it there foruming, the detail of there profile, would you consider someone with a limited sidebar (ya know, the box on the right with there site contributions and details)...
And that old chestnut, the lack of photo, Really, is it such a big deal if everything else is solid...
Does what you use WVM for partialy define your reason for being on site or is it just a bit of fun and a boost to your morale?...
OK, have your say, Vote, Whatever...
Regards...A_B......
What gets me responding to a mail or a flower is a combination of things. Showing up on my WVM, age, height, location, turn of phrase and the (more than necessary) addition of a profile pic.
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Glatlol: If someone has viewed my profile and not made contact I take it to mean they are not interested in doing so and wouldnt make contact with them.
I guess this is where we find out the "protocols" of WVM, For me its by and large the use of language in the profile and how well the person "Sells themselves" (humour trumps serious), though there have been a handfull of exceptions...
Pics cant always be relied on, but language seldom lies...
And yes, foruming is key, thats where you get a pretty good idea of what makes someone tick (no, not thick)...
So, for my reasoning on site (networking), those two are the buying signs...
A_B...
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About_Blank: I guess this is where we find out the "protocols" of WVM, For me its by and large the use of language in the profile and how well the person "Sells themselves" (humour trumps serious), though there have been a handfull of exceptions...
Pics cant always be relied on, but language seldom lies...
And yes, foruming is key, thats where you get a pretty good idea of what makes someone tick (no, not thick)...
So, for my reasoning on site (networking), those two are the buying signs...
A_B......
Pics cant always be relied on, but language seldom lies...
And yes, foruming is key, thats where you get a pretty good idea of what makes someone tick (no, not thick)...
So, for my reasoning on site (networking), those two are the buying signs...
A_B......
When it comes to contacting someone yes the pic is the first thing that catches the eye, then I read the profile, after that it is as you say the way a person sells themselves, and I think most of us like humour.
The majority of the guys I have contacted have rarely even realised that there are forums on the site, I think most of the actual dating goes on between people who dont use the forums.
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Usually age and location would get me to look at their profile. Then once there to see if we have much in common or not.
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Glatlol: When it comes to contacting someone yes the pic is the first thing that catches the eye, then I read the profile, after that it is as you say the way a person sells themselves, and I think most of us like humour.
The majority of the guys I have contacted have rarely even realised that there are forums on the site, I think most of the actual dating goes on between people who dont use the forums.
The majority of the guys I have contacted have rarely even realised that there are forums on the site, I think most of the actual dating goes on between people who dont use the forums.
Your point is well made, If were honest (and i like to think we are), looks do matter coming here with a anything of a "dating agenda", and truth is that was my groove at first, untill i got into the forums and (over time) reviewed my reasons for being here...
I kinda feel mean not responding to WVMs who have little or no profile and no forum activity, but theres no point starting something thats a non runner from the get go...
And bless my soul, Libra mentioned "location location location", how could I have forgotten that one?....not dating I guess!...
...A_B...
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I think a photo helps...after all a picture paints a thousand words. However, a handsome face wouldn't really help a badly worded profile for me.
Wit isn't always what it's cracked up to be either. I have mailed some very witty profilers and got dull as dishwater replies.
Being a forum poster would be a positive as well for me as it's another way of viewing that persons personality. I would definitely mail someone whose forum posts I liked.
Wit isn't always what it's cracked up to be either. I have mailed some very witty profilers and got dull as dishwater replies.
Being a forum poster would be a positive as well for me as it's another way of viewing that persons personality. I would definitely mail someone whose forum posts I liked.
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About_Blank: Your point is well made, If were honest (and i like to think we are), looks do matter coming here with a anything of a "dating agenda", and truth is that was my groove at first, untill i got into the forums and (over time) reviewed my reasons for being here...
I kinda feel mean not responding to WVMs who have little or no profile and no forum activity, but theres no point starting something thats a non runner from the get go...
And bless my soul, Libra mentioned "location location location", how could I have forgotten that one?....not dating I guess!......
A_B...
I kinda feel mean not responding to WVMs who have little or no profile and no forum activity, but theres no point starting something thats a non runner from the get go...
And bless my soul, Libra mentioned "location location location", how could I have forgotten that one?....not dating I guess!......
A_B...
You see thats I dont understand, why would you feel you would have to respond to someone who viewed you? I dont see someone viewing me as an invitation to get in touch, rather, as I said earlier, that they had a look and decided not to make contact. I view profiles and if I like what I see I make contact, if I dont then I dont.
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Glatlol: If someone has viewed my profile and not made contact I take it to mean they are not interested in doing so and wouldnt make contact with them.
I am sorry to hear that Glatlol,I'm interested in getting making contact with you if that's ok with you? 
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karllark: I am sorry to hear that Glatlol,I'm interested in getting making contact with you if that's ok with you?
Then why dont you?
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LadyBlackAdder: I think a photo helps...after all a picture paints a thousand words. However, a handsome face wouldn't really help a badly worded profile for me.
Wit isn't always what it's cracked up to be either. I have mailed some very witty profilers and got dull as dishwater replies.
Being a forum poster would be a positive as well for me as it's another way of viewing that persons personality. I would definitely mail someone whose forum posts I liked.
Wit isn't always what it's cracked up to be either. I have mailed some very witty profilers and got dull as dishwater replies.
Being a forum poster would be a positive as well for me as it's another way of viewing that persons personality. I would definitely mail someone whose forum posts I liked.
Evenin' Lady B...
I guess if IM was a runner, the witty profilers would be seperated from the "fast on there feet thinkers", I can be guilty of that one myself on occasions...
Another buying sign is the thread quality, as an aside, I know this is beginning to sound like im in love with a thinker, but looks fade while a sharp brain keeps things ticking along nicely...JMHO...
BTW, Hope your feeling better...
A_B...
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Glatlol: You see thats I dont understand, why would you feel you would have to respond to someone who viewed you? I dont see someone viewing me as an invitation to get in touch, rather, as I said earlier, that they had a look and decided not to make contact. I view profiles and if I like what I see I make contact, if I dont then I dont.
Well, thats a question worth answering...
Who is to know weather the person viewing you likes what they have seen or read but may feel intimidated, overwhelmed or shy at the prospect of making the next step to initiate contact...
There may be confidence issues as well, Sure, in the early days of being here (early 2010) i had reservations about open viewing other people, would say i had confidence issues of my own...I guess im never so far away from remembering what it felt like responding to others, so perhaps that is where a form of empathy come into play...But then that may be a whole other subject and far removed from this thread / poll...
A_B...
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About_Blank: Evenin' Lady B...
I guess if IM was a runner, the witty profilers would be seperated from the "fast on there feet thinkers", I can be guilty of that one myself on occasions...
Another buying sign is the thread quality, as an aside, I know this is beginning to sound like im in love with a thinker, but looks fade while a sharp brain keeps things ticking along nicely...JMHO...
BTW, Hope your feeling better...
A_B......
I guess if IM was a runner, the witty profilers would be seperated from the "fast on there feet thinkers", I can be guilty of that one myself on occasions...
Another buying sign is the thread quality, as an aside, I know this is beginning to sound like im in love with a thinker, but looks fade while a sharp brain keeps things ticking along nicely...JMHO...
BTW, Hope your feeling better...
A_B......
A sharp brain and a sense of humour. Someone accepting, non-judgemental and FUN
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About_Blank: Well, thats a question worth answering...
Who is to know weather the person viewing you likes what they have seen or read but may feel intimidated, overwhelmed or shy at the prospect of making the next step to initiate contact...
There may be confidence issues as well, Sure, in the early days of being here (early 2010) i had reservations about open viewing other people, would say i had confidence issues of my own...I guess im never so far away from remembering what it felt like responding to others, so perhaps that is where a form of empathy come into play...But then that may be a whole other subject and far removed from this thread / poll...
A_B......
Who is to know weather the person viewing you likes what they have seen or read but may feel intimidated, overwhelmed or shy at the prospect of making the next step to initiate contact...
There may be confidence issues as well, Sure, in the early days of being here (early 2010) i had reservations about open viewing other people, would say i had confidence issues of my own...I guess im never so far away from remembering what it felt like responding to others, so perhaps that is where a form of empathy come into play...But then that may be a whole other subject and far removed from this thread / poll...
A_B......
Fair comment, I will still go with the, he isnt interested theory though lol
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About_Blank: Well, thats a question worth answering...
Who is to know weather the person viewing you likes what they have seen or read but may feel intimidated, overwhelmed or shy at the prospect of making the next step to initiate contact...
There may be confidence issues as well, Sure, in the early days of being here (early 2010) i had reservations about open viewing other people, would say i had confidence issues of my own...I guess im never so far away from remembering what it felt like responding to others, so perhaps that is where a form of empathy come into play...But then that may be a whole other subject and far removed from this thread / poll...
A_B......
Who is to know weather the person viewing you likes what they have seen or read but may feel intimidated, overwhelmed or shy at the prospect of making the next step to initiate contact...
There may be confidence issues as well, Sure, in the early days of being here (early 2010) i had reservations about open viewing other people, would say i had confidence issues of my own...I guess im never so far away from remembering what it felt like responding to others, so perhaps that is where a form of empathy come into play...But then that may be a whole other subject and far removed from this thread / poll...
A_B......
There is also the angle for the ladies of whether or not they should make the first contact. Maybe it is old fashioned, but there are still some that think it should be the man that makes the first move, while the man they could fancy might not have the confidence to contact them.
There is also the angle for the ladies of whether or not it would be better to be the one pursued or
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About_Blank: WVM...
Sure, we all use it, and many of us "look back" either live or logged out...
So, just for the sake of a survey...
What gets you responding, Is it the persons looks primarily, is it there foruming, the detail of there profile, would you consider someone with a limited sidebar (ya know, the box on the right with there site contributions and details)...
And that old chestnut, the lack of photo, Really, is it such a big deal if everything else is solid...
Does what you use WVM for partialy define your reason for being on site or is it just a bit of fun and a boost to your morale?...
OK, have your say, Vote, Whatever...
Regards...A_B......
straight up, first thing i look at is her pic/sSure, we all use it, and many of us "look back" either live or logged out...
So, just for the sake of a survey...
What gets you responding, Is it the persons looks primarily, is it there foruming, the detail of there profile, would you consider someone with a limited sidebar (ya know, the box on the right with there site contributions and details)...
And that old chestnut, the lack of photo, Really, is it such a big deal if everything else is solid...
Does what you use WVM for partialy define your reason for being on site or is it just a bit of fun and a boost to your morale?...
OK, have your say, Vote, Whatever...
Regards...A_B......
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LadyBlackAdder: There is also the angle for the ladies of whether or not they should make the first contact. Maybe it is old fashioned, but there are still some that think it should be the man that makes the first move, while the man they could fancy might not have the confidence to contact them.
There is also the angle for the ladies of whether or not it would be better to be the one pursued or
There is also the angle for the ladies of whether or not it would be better to be the one pursued or
Meant to delete the last line above but posted it instead
Anyway, it's all about what people perceive their role in the "dance" to be. Some women wouldn't dream of being the pursuer and therefore making first contact, believing it's her job to accept or reject the suitors. Other women have moved into the 21st Century and taken their place with the risk takers, willing to risk rejection.....let me tell you....you get used to it....NEXT
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LadyBlackAdder: Meant to delete the last line above but posted it instead
Anyway, it's all about what people perceive their role in the "dance" to be. Some women wouldn't dream of being the pursuer and therefore making first contact, believing it's her job to accept or reject the suitors. Other women have moved into the 21st Century and taken their place with the risk takers, willing to risk rejection.....let me tell you....you get used to it....NEXT
Anyway, it's all about what people perceive their role in the "dance" to be. Some women wouldn't dream of being the pursuer and therefore making first contact, believing it's her job to accept or reject the suitors. Other women have moved into the 21st Century and taken their place with the risk takers, willing to risk rejection.....let me tell you....you get used to it....NEXT
Yes, you had me scratching the head there for a moment with the last post...
Its very likely true that a generational aproach to dating determines weather a woman is comfortable making the first move post WVM, (says he with no scientific evedence to back it up!) It will be interesting to view the polling stats to see where the votes are aportioned...
I wonder how many men here have been in reciept of "the first message"?....(and yes I have....Twice!
)...A_B...
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About_Blank: WVM...
Sure, we all use it, and many of us "look back" either live or logged out...
So, just for the sake of a survey...
What gets you responding, Is it the persons looks primarily, is it there foruming, the detail of there profile, would you consider someone with a limited sidebar (ya know, the box on the right with there site contributions and details)...
And that old chestnut, the lack of photo, Really, is it such a big deal if everything else is solid...
Does what you use WVM for partialy define your reason for being on site or is it just a bit of fun and a boost to your morale?...
OK, have your say, Vote, Whatever...
Regards...A_B......
Sure, we all use it, and many of us "look back" either live or logged out...
So, just for the sake of a survey...
What gets you responding, Is it the persons looks primarily, is it there foruming, the detail of there profile, would you consider someone with a limited sidebar (ya know, the box on the right with there site contributions and details)...
And that old chestnut, the lack of photo, Really, is it such a big deal if everything else is solid...
Does what you use WVM for partialy define your reason for being on site or is it just a bit of fun and a boost to your morale?...
OK, have your say, Vote, Whatever...
Regards...A_B......
I have no problem making the first move if I see a profile that I like, not if someone has viewed me though lol. Like a lot of people on here though I rarely get a response, more often then not I dont anyway. But as was said earlier NEXT.
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About_Blank: WVM...
Sure, we all use it, and many of us "look back" either live or logged out...
So, just for the sake of a survey...
What gets you responding, Is it the persons looks primarily, is it there foruming, the detail of there profile, would you consider someone with a limited sidebar (ya know, the box on the right with there site contributions and details)...
And that old chestnut, the lack of photo, Really, is it such a big deal if everything else is solid...
Does what you use WVM for partialy define your reason for being on site or is it just a bit of fun and a boost to your morale?...
OK, have your say, Vote, Whatever...
Regards...A_B......
Sure, we all use it, and many of us "look back" either live or logged out...
So, just for the sake of a survey...
What gets you responding, Is it the persons looks primarily, is it there foruming, the detail of there profile, would you consider someone with a limited sidebar (ya know, the box on the right with there site contributions and details)...
And that old chestnut, the lack of photo, Really, is it such a big deal if everything else is solid...
Does what you use WVM for partialy define your reason for being on site or is it just a bit of fun and a boost to your morale?...
OK, have your say, Vote, Whatever...
Regards...A_B......
I had never been obsessed to find a boyfriend or friends through dating sites until one day a man wrote a light email to me and later he said he had "a connection" with my profile. And my profile has had no picture and I stated clearly that I looked for friends only. It ends up with
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WVM and First Contact....(Vote Below)
Sure, we all use it, and many of us "look back" either live or logged out...
So, just for the sake of a survey...
What gets you responding, Is it the persons looks primarily, is it there foruming, the detail of there profile, would you consider someone with a limited sidebar (ya know, the box on the right with there site contributions and details)...
And that old chestnut, the lack of photo, Really, is it such a big deal if everything else is solid...
Does what you use WVM for partialy define your reason for being on site or is it just a bit of fun and a boost to your morale?...
OK, have your say, Vote, Whatever...
Regards...A_B...