New relationships can't be clear-cut, everyone has baggage. (40)
JustCappySkopje, Macedonia12 PostsRUN!
VivianLee: So, you met someone, and he's lovely, and things are better than seemed possible but - he has emotional scars, baggage. A manipulative ex who won't quit, and he reacts. He's potty about me, and I'm potty about him, but ... it's very new. How would you want your new lover to react? One of the options I listed, or did I miss a better one?
Well I would think he was potty reacting to the wife if acted potty with me also,
And I think that couples are potty over one another at the start as its the honeymoon period and sometimes it even tells you he loves you,
.If he can't stand up to a so called manipulating ex that he claims then I'd leave them to it,
Of course I'd make an allowance where children are concerned give him some space to sort things out,children come first bi put not when used as pawns,
everyone has baggage,,just sometimes the cases are to heavy to carry,thats my 5 cents of wisdom,,well 4 maybe
VivianLee: yup, I didn't realize how manipulative the ex was until she reacted to us getting together! Poison spew. But people with no baggage at all, my age, that's almost as unnerving. I just wondered how others in this situation have reacted.
It's perhaps likely that she's angry, hurt and grieving for her loss. Her reaction, rightly, or wrongly is simply her process. She may never have learned healthier ways to deal with loss.
I realise when someone says, or does mean things it's hard not to react emotionally, especially when it's important to you, but her process is actually nothing to do with you as a person, or your partner as a person.
If you can't avoid her intrusions, perhaps view them compassionately, but remember they are separate from you.
padraa: alcohol and dancing helps,,
Oh yea it's a riot , In the end.
.lolWelcome back!
The past is our cornerstone to build a future, without that expect cracks in the foundation. Talking is the best way to get it out of the system, sooner rather than later. Good luck!
The past is our cornerstone to build a future, without that expect cracks in the foundation. Talking is the best way to get it out of the system, sooner rather than later. Good luck!
Lots of really good comments and more advice than I expected to back off - which was my knee-jerk reaction anyway.
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