Could you date some one with a disabled child???? ( Archived) (76)

Some people are puddles whilst others are oceans
I'm a ocean so deep and i also have a disabled son but please don't hang me for this next comment.......

It depends on the severity of the disability ........

If i told someone i was disabled and didn't disclose that i was deaf in one ear would they accept it if i turned up with no lower limbs or...........

If i said i had a problem with my head would they know i have headaches or that i was a psycho and i killed my parents??

Does this make sense it depends on the severity ......

Or do i need a stout oak tree a length of rope

no u have made perfect sence...only thing u left out was this...

no matter what the disablity is as a parent i can enjoy a normal ( i hate that word so much) life too but it does have some limits to it....i cant just go out when i want i have to have sitters in or respite, but im now at that age where ok i do party when my son is not here but thats my blow out valve....we all need to a blow out....me more than most coz im a single parent...that i dont need to be clubbing all the time....most of the time im up the local or ponty or just singing in my other local coz i love to sing...

I agree with what u have said...apart from needing rope....il let ya off that one....

still im sure someone will with time see us as a package and not judge me just coz people say im pretty.....i dont think that i am...thats a whole another poll....trust me...

I don't think someone can be accused of being shallow for saying No. Its just not that black and white. What if the person has been through as great deal of suffering already in their lives and they just can't face it?

it is for me....coz when ive been talking to someone and i dont say about my son they are like ok fine meet up etc

i mention my son...

they are gone...no reason as to why they decide to go they stop all contact...

so with some of the ones ive spoken too

yes it is.....

we live in a world where people are judge by what they look like not what they do in the real world.....


sad but true....

Thats awful


I agree that most will actually just be shallow and not even be worthy absolutely. I just meant that just because someone wouldn't want to get involved doesn't automatically mean they are being shallow. There could be a very good reason.

Some serious comments angel I'm glad there's not a posse or lynch mob out for me so i live to fight another day

Give me a inch and i will take a mile maybe it's not just your son that's the problem i cant say because we have never met but could some of this be paranoia?

Try it the next time don't mention your son till the second or third date see if this one makes a difference

Don't assume anything have you tried contacting past conquests and actually asking them upfront what the problem was or have you just assumed

Give people some leeway like what's been said it might not be shallow people there's always the other facts like the person just didn't like you or he went back to his ex or even got caught by his wife look for the good in people and ask them direct it's always nice to get a text saying that was a great night when can we do it again or something

I post the same poll about 3 days ago. Being a parent of a disabled child I have never had that happen. I have only had 2 boyfriends in the last 10 years that been around and they embrassed my girl like she was theirs. However, I had not dated seriously in the last 2 years and I am starting to think what if I started dating someone serious would they accept my child. So I kinda shyed away from.

tried it all....to not talking about him nothing works..im not paranoid...ive lived with this for 13 years....and trust me soon as i say i even have a son of 13 let alone whats what...off they run...mind u its so bloody funny reading excuses as to why there is no contact...i pmsl at u men and how u try to lie ....

as for past men in my life...theres only been 4 of them sweetie...unlike some i dont sleep around....well id have to PM to tell u that...but is never been a problem....

leeway u say...mmmmm and im gonna kiss a frog and my prince will come...i dont think so....

ive already done it, when i was younger,the reason we stoped wasnt becouse of the child or anything,didnt bother me,

i meen for some people the thort of it does seam like hard work, but the girl who im still good friends with shes used to it , its like an everyday thing and she'd probally feel lost if she wasnt looking after her disabled child

Well your here to date another day don't sell yourself too short and if you have a laugh at the excuses then it was worth the effort it's better to smile/laugh than cry and hopefully you go forward a stronger person when you do meet your prince charming don't be to adam ant

Don't go around kissing frogs you might get a name for bed hopping

that made me smile after a sh**y day......

bed hoppng...............

let it be said....ANGEL............cant hop she dont know how too......

there ya go mr pink rig man.............

count yer self lucky today........

by the by where have u been all day??????

Glad you had a smile if you somedays haven't got any left i will give you one............of mine

i will hop to it for you......

Kermit

thanks kermit!!!!!!!!!!!!!

well ur late for yer tea.....

so i ate it all................