in a relationship what do expect/hope for? ( Archived) (70)

Personally I dont value marraige, I dont need a piece of paper or a big day out to know Im in love. I would be totally content with being engaged permanently, also Im realistic and sometimes things just dont work out........being married makes it more difficult to walk away.

im skeptical on marriage myself.. on my mams side of the family.. theres 5 of them 2 sisters and brothers and only 1 marriage worked out.. does that mean only 1/5 last

i totally agree with the sense of paper.. doesnt make you any more in love.. id love the big day but what it entails after i dont really know if i want it as it complicates things with so many couples..

im not 1 4 working at the reltionship either if it doesnt work.. it doesnt work.. cant force it..

dunno.... i think i would have to be in the relationship to see what way i would like to go in, the forever bit be that in a relationship or in marriage is the important bit. the cool bit

I met my partner on here and we got married earlier this year. The "piece of paper" IS necessary, if you want legal security for yourself - especially if children are involved.. The "big day out" is not necessary, no, and some couples do seem to do it to simply impress others. I personally had two witnesses, the local Judge and a large amount of very reasonably priced wine, and I had a ball!

Why be engaged permanently? That, to me, would be like being in limbo, emotionally...Going to the step of getting engaged, with a ring I assume, is no different than that piece of paper.

Being married certainly doesnt make it any harder to walk away that if you are not - especially if you are in a long term relationship. The only difference is, that if you are married it makes it EASIER to obtain what is rightfully yours out of the relationship.

In answer to the OP, I would say that if one never goes into a relationship with expectations, you are more likely to find what you are looking for. Thats exactly what happened to me.

i'm a marriage person. it's a nice day out for you, your partner and those close to you. fair enough if both people don't want to get married that's personal choice at the end of the day whatever makes you happy

it is true though that marriage also makes sense from a financial point of view

id disagree.. my father had to give my mother a few hundred thousand.. i dont see that as a good finalcial move..

typo financial

thats why they now have pre-nups. for a long time guys have got screwed financially from divorces

and they are still getting screwed... if tiger ends up getting a divorce, he will have to pay her about 200 million