IF A GUY SPLITS THE BILL ONN THE FIRST DATE, IS HE-DATEABLE???? (411)
Ethos: If I'm on a first date with a guy, then he better NOT try to pay my share of the bill! When men spend money on me, whether it's for gifts or a dinner, it gives me the feeling that I'm in his debt. Or it leaves the possibility that *HE* thinks I'm in his debt.
On the first date, we should meet as equals and each pay our own share. I might consider letting my guard down after the tenth date, if we get that far.
On the first date, we should meet as equals and each pay our own share. I might consider letting my guard down after the tenth date, if we get that far.
Agree to a point but also disagree to a point.
Not all guy's feel that if they pay you are indebted to them; some are still a bit old fashioned and would just love to have a good time at their expense and think nothing of it.
LadyBlahBlah100: It depends on whether I invited him or he invited me. The one who invites should offer to pay.
good answer my dear friend...yeah...that's exactly what i mean...
NoordZee: Has anybody noticed: european answers are different from the rest! I would say, all the Europeans prefer Dutch way!
yeah!!, i can see the differ opinion...fine...but I brought up that way, that the man/men would pay the tab/(s)....
Danny48: Very Old Fashioned. Always paid. Woudnt ask a girl out if skint.
English, NOT European!
English, NOT European!
thank goodness!!!
there's still someone follow the old rules (S)...PandoraX: Especially if he asks you to pick a nice restaurant to go to! Frankly, I don't have the entertainment budget to be going out to fancy meals every weekend... I wouldn't do that on my own and he shouldn't ask me somewhere like that and expect me to then pay for myself.So far, the European men I've gone out with always paid and seemed to take that as a given. I've heard Dutch men may not see things that way and am a bit curious about my first date with a Dutch man this Saturday.
that is the nicest thing you ever post on my topic...I don't know you!, but at least we're on the same page...
StillOfTheNight: This is why I don't date. Can't afford it
You still date but just pay in another services...hehehehe
it depends in the negotition...maybe you're a good handy man, a plumber, or a foot massager...it works for me...Johnwain: I think there's some confusion here and you should clear up to yourselves if you women want equality or privileges cos you cant have both. If you want equality as you claimed till yesterday night,this means both rights and responsibilities, hence you should pay for your own bills as much as man do and have always done.
Equality--only covers on serious business such as,(RIGHT TO VOTE, EQUALITY FOR PAY RAISE, EQUALITY IN EDUCATION,,,AND BLAH, BLAH...)..BUT not equality on someone's pleasures...Nope, unless I know the man for quite sometime...I would pick the tab..maybe ones
Actractorguy: Agree to a point but also disagree to a point.
Not all guy's feel that if they pay you are indebted to them; some are still a bit old fashioned and would just love to have a good time at their expense and think nothing of it.
Not all guy's feel that if they pay you are indebted to them; some are still a bit old fashioned and would just love to have a good time at their expense and think nothing of it.
good answer Mr. Attact...cincity: No big deal to me..but that is something that should be discussed before going out...
The apple of my eye.
The woman of my dreams who is very smart
brendoncourday: in a way its being polite for a guy to pay the bill in a restuarant but not some women i know prefer to go halves in paying there way too
that's exactly true!!too..but when you just meet a girl nad You happen to like her, and get to her better..of course you have to empress her...on the other hand if you know the girl for sometime, then she can offer to split the bill/bills...
lovelyliza: yeah!!, i can see the differ opinion...fine...but I brought up that way, that the man/men would pay the tab/(s)....
And I was not brought up that way that a woman worked,and took my job away from me,and goes half naked all the time in public places,and women new there place,and stayed in it. But however this is 2011 ,and women do what they want to do cause that is the new american way;world wide way,and in case you are not up to current affairs'? We are in a recession Lady! Most men dont have good jobs anymore. It's called the 21st centry
mmanika: i also believe the person who invites should pay the bill.but if it happens that he asks me out again, i will definitely offer to pay.
I agree, I have had it both was. I offer to pay and 9 out of 10 times they won't let you. I happen to have a very good job and i always offer on the second date. If I ask him out, then I expect to pay for it.
I think it's at least the right thing to offer. That way it is a mutual thing, and yeah we live in a new world and I love to wined and dined but the reality is, a lot just can't afford it. I f I like him enough to go out again, I don't have a problem offering to pay. If we make it to the third date, then if he won't let me pay , I can at least fix him dinner.
LadyBlahBlah100: It depends on whether I invited him or he invited me. The one who invites should offer to pay.
exactly....
but not on my rules....Ethos: If I'm on a first date with a guy, then he better NOT try to pay my share of the bill! When men spend money on me, whether it's for gifts or a dinner, it gives me the feeling that I'm in his debt. Or it leaves the possibility that *HE* thinks I'm in his debt.
On the first date, we should meet as equals and each pay our own share. I might consider letting my guard down after the tenth date, if we get that far.
On the first date, we should meet as equals and each pay our own share. I might consider letting my guard down after the tenth date, if we get that far.
girl...why?? do you think that way???...are you living the same country as I am???...Don't you know that in school/class, that when men likes a girl..they asks them out..and spend money on us!!! that's a part of their satisfaction that they convence US/women...to do something with them...have your self-esteem....I was asked out on a date and she insisted to pay. I felt awkward and told her how I felt. She insisted on paying for the dinner. I ordered the cheapest thing on the menu and took care of the rest of the evening. I really had to be insistent. Why did I feel that way? We went out for a few more months...I paid. We still talk.
initially - I thought it said "If a guy spits on the Bill "
jvaski: initially - I thought it said "If a guy spits on the Bill "
back to you JVASKI...i thought you're the only one that is "SPECIAL TREATMENT"hehehheehe...I can understands you...I worked with ppl that has behavior problem...so ok...you can spit the bill..when I leave the place...
lovelyliza: IF A GUY SPLIT YOUR BILL WHEN YOU GO OUT TO EAT IN A RESTAURANT, TO MOVIES, OR GOING TO A CONCERT, WOULD YOU WANT TO DATE AGAIN THAT GUY?. FOR THE GUYS, I THINK IT'S NO BIG DEAL FOR A MAN, CUZ IT'S A FAVOR TO THEM.
depend to the deal before we meet.
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On the first date, we should meet as equals and each pay our own share. I might consider letting my guard down after the tenth date, if we get that far.