How many love letters should a person write, before mentioning they're married? (37)
jac379: Yeah, I get that saying you're a widow, or divorced when you're not is a big-red-flag-run-away-as-fast-as-you're-legs-can-carry-you-lie, but I was just wondering how men, or women were viewed by you, or anyone else, if their marital relationship was most definitely over?
I've known people who, disillusioned with the "'til death do us part" thing have realised that their vows were meaningless, (for example if their spouse cheated on them). As divorce can be a costly and stressful, sometimes people may not bother making a fuss over legally cancelling vows that have been cancelled emotionally a long time ago. There are others who maybe in process of divorce, but this can take some time. Would you, or anyone else view these people as still married and so off limits, assuming they had told you the truth about their situation?
Jac xxx
PS. I've never been married, so I'm not asking out of personal interest.
I think married is married - get a divorce, costly or not. I don't know about America but there are organisations here (like your Public Defenders I suppose) who can get a divorce through the courts much cheaper than private lawyers. You may not get all you want but so what. Let him keep the tables and the pots. I would just want out - legally.I've known people who, disillusioned with the "'til death do us part" thing have realised that their vows were meaningless, (for example if their spouse cheated on them). As divorce can be a costly and stressful, sometimes people may not bother making a fuss over legally cancelling vows that have been cancelled emotionally a long time ago. There are others who maybe in process of divorce, but this can take some time. Would you, or anyone else view these people as still married and so off limits, assuming they had told you the truth about their situation?
Jac xxx
PS. I've never been married, so I'm not asking out of personal interest.
bittersweet28467: Hmmm good point here. When I moved out and didn't live with my ex husband anymore I considered myself to be "single" however in NC you MUST wait a year before filing for divorce and so even though I was available, I was technically still married and I would have said single...
That's crazy. Has anyone ever questioned that law? Why do they have it?
amahlala: If they've not put married or separated on their profile and you discover after you have both exchanged mail that they are still married, then I would suggest that you politely tell them that you are not interested in playing games and wish them a wonderful life and get on with your life.
I agree...
From the side View, Maybe this was their way of dumping You????
I dont know, But only something we can wonder about?????
I have seen Many thing said, to Break ties....
Just a thought???
I dont know, But only something we can wonder about?????
I have seen Many thing said, to Break ties....
Just a thought???
moodyblues: That's crazy. Has anyone ever questioned that law? Why do they have it?
In Italy it usually takes three years for a divorce to go through. Can you imagine to be chained to someone, you've fallen out of love with a long time ago, for such an extended period of time?
Also, in theory it's always easy to have very strict principles such as never to date a married person, but I've learnt from experience that life is rarely straighforward, and people can find themselves in all sorts of strange situations for a number of weird reasons.
I'd listen to the other persons' stories very carefully and judge afterwards, they might have had very valid reasons for doing what they were doing.
JMO.
invinciblemuse: In Italy it usually takes three years for a divorce to go through. Can you imagine to be chained to someone, you've fallen out of love with a long time ago, for such an extended period of time?
Also, in theory it's always easy to have very strict principles such as never to date a married person, but I've learnt from experience that life is rarely straighforward, and people can find themselves in all sorts of strange situations for a number of weird reasons.
I'd listen to the other persons' stories very carefully and judge afterwards, they might have had very valid reasons for doing what they were doing.JMO.
Also, in theory it's always easy to have very strict principles such as never to date a married person, but I've learnt from experience that life is rarely straighforward, and people can find themselves in all sorts of strange situations for a number of weird reasons.
I'd listen to the other persons' stories very carefully and judge afterwards, they might have had very valid reasons for doing what they were doing.JMO.
So True...
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Over the course of the last year, two out of three women who have shown serious interest in me online, turned out to be married! One woman claimed to be a widow, one claimed to be divorced; they both wrote me love letters, and called me, we began making plans together.... eventually, two of them, told me they were married!I was wondering since my personal experience is 2 out of 3... how common is this sort of thing?
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