Hello Mimi, You don't know me, but decided to contribute because you remind me a lot of myself; (except you are easier on the eyes.) Not everyone is the same so those who don't entirely understand someone like you or I, can only offer ideas which worked for them but may not work for you. So I am not going to tell you what to do, or that you should just forget about your guy or anything like that. If you are not having any luck finding someone on here or near you the traditional way there are some proactive but simple things you could try. You are quite intelligent so you have already thought about this. The trouble is, when someone is heartbroken and missing the person they want to be with it is difficult to make yourself do it. When you feel strong enough to do it, have the energy; that is are having a "good day", why not look into joining a club or activity in which you have a big interest? Join a "badminton league, or volleyball league, bowling league, etc." Become involved in a charitable organization, take dance lessons; whatever YOU like. It's possible you will meet someone with interests similar to yours. Like you said, you don't have an urgent need to be with someone, but it would be sad to see a lovely girl losing some of the best years of her life to loneliness. I take this very personally because that is exactly what happened to me. If you try this idea and meet someone you like a lot, go slow and be friends for as long as you need to. If feelings grow can still go slow. If he has feelings for you and you are open with him, he will go along with your wishes and go slow if you want. It's okay to look for the qualities in new male friends that you saw in your "crocodile." Just don't expect them to be exactly like him. Sorry if this isn't quite what you were looking for, but just wanted to try and help. Good luck to you.
It depends upon the specifics. Did YOU pay for the house? And, WHO is the family member? Is it a mother, father, sibling, or just a boyfriend?
If YOU paid for the house and it is a gentleman friend living with you, one should put the home up for sale and inform him that he should start to look for another place to live. When the home is sold you can choose any of your options or buy another home.
If it is a literal family member, i.e., parent or sibling, knowing where you are in life, it may be best for you to choose option 3. Lending rates, (at least in U.S.), are still quite low so if employed should be able to manage that, and you'd have some privacy.
Lastly, no one should ever combine bank accounts or co own major items with someone who is just gentleman or lady friend. Your rights are not protected adequately, (at least in U.S.), as they are if you are married.
You showed a lot of class the way you responded to this womans mean spirited message to you. Keep in mind he may be using her too, as some men enjoy watching women fight over them. By using your intelligence you may have deprived him of this.
Consider what the others advise you and walk away. He is trying to damage your self respect. It hurts to give up on someone you've loved and invested in, but there is someone better out there for you.
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How about "Mahal Kita!"Know that must sound familiar to you young lady!