I think you don't need any Dr. Phill or anything else. I think you are right on!
You love you and thats what needs to happen.
Last year I could have written your blog. I took a "dating-sabottical". I refused to date for one whole year--no matter what. For just one year, I promised myself that I would focus on everything about me and my relations with non-suitors.
I learned a lot about myself and I changed how I felt about dating, men, myself, my job, my family, married people, single people, divorce, kids, EVERYTHING.
I don't know if that sort of thing would be right for you; but it taught me to pitty the people that give me flack for wanting my life a way I wanted it.
They need the help. They have their own life to live.
As for me? I've given myself permission to date again, (leave my sobatical) but I'm not in a hurry to do so. When it comes up and is right, I will. But I'm certainly not going to go looking. (I come here to blog and make friends-first and foremost. Note I don't even post a picture). The big lesson that I needed to learn was s that I am Extreemely happy being single (although I never wanted to be single).
There may not be a cinderellas castle; but I made a JAM castle. There might be a amber-castle in the making......
Don't isolate yourself from folks that support YOU. I'll be in your corner.
The are the thicker girls, they are the ones with the not so shiney hair, they are the ones with shoes that fit.
They are the guys with glasses, they are the bald and have the wrong 6-pack attached to their waste.
Go to the club, or resturaunt, park, or whatever; notice this-- the real ones aren't even noticed. the ones that are fake from their hair to their fingernails are the ones that get the attention.
It makes everyone want to be fake (better fake than alone, right?)
Absolutely nothing. I'm doing without pretty darn fine. (I just want one around every now and then).
If you are truely alone you are taking care of yourself and want one as well. Give yourself credit.
Incidentially, I find men confused. They want to be desired (just like we do), and NEEDED. But if you ask the single ones in my age group. The first thing they look for (past the chest glance) is "a woman who can take care of herself". The irony is that the more self-sufficient a person is...... the more they are passed over for damsels in distress.
Anyway, chin up. Settling for less than you are is wrong and you are the hero in your life....
Well, one would have to ask the question................
Why would a nice girl want to date a guy who gets into fights at work, buys drugs from the policewoman's live in lover, (presumably buys them to use them), has issues with women family members, and can't respect women?
It's the girls fault because they have opportunity to be a bad girl?
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RE: women who enjoy fishing wanted
love to fish. you will find one a little closer, though. Keep trolling.