I don't think fears go away no matter how old we are. We are after all human. What I can tell you is try your best to be kind with yourself. In other words, don't beat yourself up because you have many fears. Think others have fears to but they live in denial and can't even see them! Sometimes these kinds of people blame others for their mistakes and make their partners miserable which may aliviate the stress they have but leave their partner miserable.
I don't know. It's a tough call. I've e-mailed one guy on this site and he didn't respond so would it have been better if he said thanks but no thanks? Now I don't know his reason mind you. It could be a)he didn't find me attractive or b)we lived to far away or c) some other reason. But I think thanks but no thanks is not going to give a reason either so maybe no reply is better?
Wow guy I'm sorry things have gone so badly for you, honestly. But if you don't open your heart you won't let in that person who might be the "right" one for you. Your guard is way up. I can understand though but not every woman is out for your assets as you call them.
Thanks Venusruled. You are right about loving yourself and not being emotionally dependent. Thanx for the hugs. Yeah and not being domestic is a nonissue. I can clean, do laundry, etc. Just not cook too much except simple things, LOL!
First of all, Mr. Smith I wouldn't propose to a guy. If he doesn't propose himself there must be a reason for it. And yes I believe in the Bible but where does it say that a woman cannot have her own opinion? I have spoken to many men who have this ridiculous notion that a woman must agree with them or simply be quiet. Doesn't work for me. I can be reasonable and will say I'm sorry if I was wrong. Some people can't do that especially men.
I don't know this lady and her MO so to speak but I think some of the comments were a little too sarcastic. She probably is genuinely frustrated but its important to remember that a lot of other people are too. Yeah and this is probably a good way to get noticed. Hell I say whatever works! But like another woman said its nice to meet other people as well. I agree totally.
To Mr. Thad Smith: What do you mean by that? I don't want to jump to conclusions but at least to me it doesn't sound very nice. If and when I meet the right guy? You are obviously (not that I'm interested) would ever be the right guy for me. Just to answer your ridiculous post. What right do you have to judge me?
To the other people who commented, thank you very much for your welcome. I really appreciate it.
I think I understand what he meant about sheep and shephards. I thought it was very wise and I guess it applies to me as well. Shephards are leaders and different from the crowd. I don't think its saying we are necessarily better but we don't follow the crowd just to fit in. So finding another person who is like us is hard. I think everyone is at a different place in terms of emotional and spiritual maturity. Don't feel so bad. Yes there are other people who feel exactly the same way as you. I do too. Sometimes, however we are attracted at least physically to people who are not good for us. And others who may be good for us we are not attracted to at all. It's very frustrating. However, I still believe that despite this the right one will come along. We have to be patient and wait. Who wants to be with the wrong person anyway?
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RE: advice me please
I don't think fears go away no matter how old we are. We are after all human. What I can tell you is try your best to be kind with yourself. In other words, don't beat yourself up because you have many fears. Think others have fears to but they live in denial and can't even see them! Sometimes these kinds of people blame others for their mistakes and make their partners miserable which may aliviate the stress they have but leave their partner miserable.