@Shabiu, maybe you should try using skype first so you at least know what they look like before meeting. I find this way they cannot hide who they are by appearance, however, they can deceive based on personality; so take your time and get to know the real person.
@lovetodance, it can get tricky when you only chat online or on the phone without meeting because you don't know if he feels the same way as you. If you were to meet in person you can always tell by their reaction towards you.
@bebinn, yes it is an opportunity to meet and learn of each other personality. I guess if we meet someone online that don't get us mad to end conversation then the door is open for them to win our heart.
@summer, I guess it will probably happen to more women than man since we are emotional creatures. Guys needs to see us to fall in love, and we just need to read the words or hear the words to become emotionally attached.
@sleeping, well maybe it is a bubble that people create when they meet someone online, who knows, but once feelings get involved no one can tell where it will lead.
@takemetofrance, so you experience love and loss online through chat. So when your fellow told you he loved you and you did not return that love right away, did you treat him any differently?
@kasih, but love can make us happy or it can make us sad. True it is about the other person. We give that person control, because how that person react to us then can lead us to be either happy or sad.
@weeping, I will have to disagree with you on this one, love does not all make us stronger, because if love is not returned and it is trumpled on it make us feel so weak; but in a happy world when it is returned then yes it makes us strong.
@Rob, yes we do get that adrenaline rush to do a lot more and take more chances when we are in love. We have someone that care about us the way we care about them, it is a nice feeling. I guess that is why we always seek to find someone who we hope will feel the same way we do, so that we can have that feeling again.
@bambina, you have a point in that when you let your heart take over you might run into problems and this can cause a shock to our emotional being. In that case we become weak. Could this situation be prevented?
@weeping and Morgen, well you guys are sticking to your guns and that is alright. You guys are really old school, there is not many of you guys around much anymore.
@yash, I agree with you, it is best to know how they come to be in that financial predicament, so at least you know what you are getting yourself into and therefore better able to think things through and decide if this person is someone you can work with to build a future.
@edi, I started this blog because I am interested to know what others think. I have not found anyone in this situation, I however am that person currently without a permanent job. So please don't assume that you know the reason for my blog!!!!! Thanks.
oh, and do remember that financial problems is the number 1 reason for divorce, so it must have some kind of relevancy when thinking about entering into a relationship.
ok, so I get that everyone will get with someone because they love that person; but I never said anything about loving the person, you have not reached that stage of the game of life yet.
Would you continue to try and know this person enough to offer your heart, or do you pause and look at the situation of how you will survive financially on just one salary?
Personally, I think I would proceed with caution; but hey that is just me.
@weepingmist, what if you have not fallen in love as yet, but you found out about her finances. Would that give you moment to pause and think things through?
@10k, I ask for a serious answer and this is the response I get really!! hmmm. I guess for you then you don't expect someone to have their own place and such. I am not talking about those who look to others to support them, but I am asking a question, will this impact how you feel about a person.
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You guys are really old school, there is not many of you guys around much anymore. 
that is much better. Thanks for your honest answer.
RE: Net Dating vs OLD STYLE
@Shabiu, maybe you should try using skype first so you at least know what they look like before meeting. I find this way they cannot hide who they are by appearance, however, they can deceive based on personality; so take your time and get to know the real person.