Net Dating vs OLD STYLE
i was talking to a gal on here and told her i thought i might post my thoughts on a blog...so i am doing just that
in the old days...60s,70s,80s.. i dated the old way...you saw a girl in public..got to know her a little and then asked her out..it usually took several dates to find out if you liked each other..mostly because going out..to movies,show,dancing,plays, whatever, gave you little chance to sit quiet and talk /get to know one another..
in that respect this net dating is kind of nice as you get to spend a lot of time on here getting to know someone..
my experiance ..and i do not get on the net all the time..just get on now and then..started in 08..
is that, at least for me has been ... that the women i have met on here do not tell the truth..they lie..reinvent themselves...make believe..misrepresent themselves...so that when you meet them in real time..they are nothing like what you think they should be..and you are a lot more trusting and accepting than you should be..i would think the men are a lot the same...
it does tend to make you ignore those red flags.. as you think you really know this person..can get you into a lot of trouble and cost a lot of $$$$$
i have yet to meet anyone who looks like there picture or /and who is what they have projected..maybe they are just all delusional what has been your experiance..??
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Why why I wonder. I know myself included now just use this site for cyber friends as I call them and they live all over the world so that is good. Maybe one day my prince will arrive
Wishing you luck too
I am an old gal myself , and id have always imagined that there would be no shame in being the age you are . But for some there obviously is. I went once to meet a guy in France, i thought he shared the same interests as I , he liked sailing he was age appropriate to me 59 and he loved food wine , animals travel etc. So i went to meet him at my own expense, of course. He was 72 , quite a nice man , but it was his illusion and the reality for me was that he was not who he said he was , simply because he led about his age.. I quite like whim and his little dog, but then I released if he lied about his age what else is a lie ? So i left , went away , he was devastated , did not understand .. but i understand myself , i know i need honesty , and respect , i need to respect the man i am with , without respect there in no trust, without trust there can never be love .
he respected me , truted me and loved me , because i was honest ... but that was not the same for me , now is that not a tragedy?
So after i asked him, why did you not tell me your real age , he said if i tole you i am 70 would you come to meet me ? I answered , it is for this lack of confidence you have in yourself that you have lost what you think you want.
This is an example from a womans perspective , an older woman such as myself , who is/was looking for real relationship.
if a person is fake he/she will get fake , if one is real one may get real, therein lies the problem... saskia guess of love
Unfortunately, we both live in separate cities 2 hours apart, but that hasn't stopped us and we are now married and still live in separate cities, but we love our weekends.
I wish people could be honest with who they are. I'm 47 and it took me all of those 47 years to make me the person I am. If everyone could be honest wouldn't it be easier to find someone. I don't have a picture of me on this site because of my job and the people I work with. That didn't mean I didn't send a picture to the person via email.
There is something to be said for the dating of old though. I like going on dates, having doors opened for me and just talking. Or going for a walk and holding hands. Like I said I must have been very fortunate since that is exactly what I found. An old fashioned guy with the same values who enjoys dating. Even now that we are married, we love our walks, date nights and just talking.
The ( less than truthful ) Evil Wievil . . .
PS: Don't worry about the spell check . I can't get it to work on this site either and being as dyslexic as I am it is sorely needed . You can however still be the Princess of Pilkunnussija for me. .