To be honest I don't think there is much you CAN do..
if he does he does.. it just shows what a scumbag he is then really doesn't it.
I'm sure he will try to make it sound worse than it was.. (by the sound of his pathetic threat already).. so half of what he says will probably be a load of crap anyway.. You get on well her with lots of people.. I really wouldn't worry about what some lowlife has to say about you. Stuff him..
Don't be blackmailed.. nip it in the bud.. if he's going to do it he will.. instead of threatening it... which makes you panic and still have contact with him. (which is what he WANTS)
And if he does blab.. its over and done with.. no more *hold* on you.
It was terrifying, (!!) I swam out.. pulled the *drowning* one in first, gave him to a lady on the beach, then went back for the one doing a dead man's float. (yanno the face down thing)
I pulled him up onto the beach and gave him to my mum( who had by then came running over) and this other lady..
They gave him mouth to mouth and heart massage etc.. I remember loads of white foam coming out of his nose and mouth.. then ambulance man (who had arrived by then).. said it was was the reaction between the oxygen and salt water in his lungs.
anywayy.. he DID live in the end.. but it scared the pants off me.
Five (on school trip) school boys got washed off the cliffs here years ago.. (when I was about 15)..
one by one there bodies got washed up on the beaches around here.. My friend Lucy and I found the torso of one of them about a month after he had been washed away.
Actually.. I could tell you loads of things Gilly.. but they aren't very present reading. I have seen a lot of yukky things in my job. (if that's counts too).. but I don't want to upset anyone or freak them out.
Oh I know a different one.. Watching my 2yr old children fall part way down a cliff .. that was the most heart stopping moment of my life.. he landed at my feet, with his eyes open and his teeth through his tongue. (sirens ambulances etc.. but he is okay now) It makes me feel sick when I even think of it now.
Exactly.. in a relationship communication is vereee important.
Being free to speak and be HEARD.. and not feeling like you are talking to the side of someone's head.. or that they are listening with one ear.. or that they don't seem even slightly interested in what YOU have to say. Why do they bother then? I think my ex husband only got to know me after we were divorced.
I used to date a chap who talked about himself non-stop.. It drove me nuts in the end.. I actually used to watch out for it.. and noticed how he cut me off and interrupted me every time I wanted to say something..
By the time it ended.. (I got bored out of my mind!).. I think I knew everything about him.. and he knew virtually about me.
Talking and *Listening* are great qualities in a relationship.
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I think my ex husband only got to know me after we were divorced. 
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RE: what should be done?
Hey Music..To be honest I don't think there is much you CAN do..
if he does he does.. it just shows what a scumbag he is then really doesn't it.
I'm sure he will try to make it sound worse than it was.. (by the sound of his pathetic threat already).. so half of what he says will probably be a load of crap anyway.. You get on well her with lots of people.. I really wouldn't worry about what some lowlife has to say about you. Stuff him..
Don't be blackmailed.. nip it in the bud.. if he's going to do it he will.. instead of threatening it... which makes you panic and still have contact with him. (which is what he WANTS)
And if he does blab.. its over and done with.. no more *hold* on you.