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Is it just me??

Thanks again for all the replies.. I don't know how to individually quote posts on here, But I've agreed with all I've read so far.

I think I feel guilty for enjoying being single.. It's only the TINIEST little times when I actually MISS having someone and believe it or not.. its not for the obvious reason I've forgotten what that IS!

It's silly little things, Like last week I was in Las Vegas.. walking about on my own at night on the strip. I walked the watch the water fountains show at the Bellagio (My fave place in Vegas) and as I stood there watching it again I thought how lovely it would be to there with a 'partner'.. and I had a wave of loneliness..

Until I went and got myself a few margaritas and found a great band.

I really do think that it must be about 99% of the time, I prefer to be single. A few years ago that figure was totally the other way around.

I think the bit that sets me thinking is that the clock is ticking and I worry (abit) that IF and when I do eventually find *The one* I will be well past my sell by date.. falling apart and past my prime.

I tell you what else has changed for me too.. I'm sooo much more attracted to personality humour and kindness than I ever was before.. You know, almost like I see the inside of someone before I pay much attention to the outside of them.

Crikey! listen to me.. waffle waffle waffle.. (gab?)

Is it just me??

**and leave the toilet seat up till eternity**



** i too see my friends having fights with their partners and they often seem so unhappy. there's loads to be said about being single**

Yup there certainly is



(Oo this is hard without being able to do 'quotes')

Is it just me??

Thanks for the replies everyone, It's so good to see im not the only one who thinks like that, and also that people do think its 'normal' ...

I was beginning to think I was going to turn into a gnarly bitter old spinster..

Is it just me??

haha noo Im not a babe (truly).. PLENTY of pics went in the recycle bin before I got those

But thank you

Is it just me??

Haha Awww thanks you two, you've made me smile (through my coughing and nose blowing)

Is it just me??

I've been single for about 3-4 yrs now, At first I hated it.. and had a huge *woe is me* meltdown.. thinking WHO is EVER gonna want to be with me? I have three children and stretch marks!

I have been out for dinner with a few people, and almost started a relationship with someone who panicked at the idea of three children. :: rolls eyes :: But as someone said on one of the other posts I seem to only attract the people (for whatever reason) I'm not attracted too.. and the people I like (in real life too) don't seem to be interested in me.

Some times I wonder if im just too fussy and expect too much. (but maybe I don't )

The thing I wanted to say was that I have realised over these years that I have become incredibly selfish with MY time. I like to do what I want when *I* want.. and wont be told what to do by anyone. (anymore)

*I* like the TV control (haha).. I like to stay on the beach until 10pm (having a BBQ with the kids) and not have someone calling me going.. 'I'm home.. where the hell are you? wheres my dinner??' grrrrr. I like to travel often, and do anything I want.

I sit back and watch my friends having problems in their relationships, and think phew! thank god that's not me... I just cant be bothered by all the hassle of having to consider anyone else other than my children.

I was 'bottom of the list' to my husband during my marriage.. and after my children I LIKE being top of MY list.

For a long time I joined every dating site I could find, but I think I made myself look completely desperate to prospective 'dates/ partners' (which I do understand, as that would put ME off too haha)..

Im not even sure why I'm writing this.. I got an email the other day saying someone had messaged me and it reminded me I was 'signed up' here.. so I came for another 'half hearted' look.

Why have I become so selfish? Is it just me? I just think I've totally given up now.. not defeated and 'poor old me' ... I just don't think I will ever find anyone to put up with all of that.. so now I just don't even let myself get into a situation where I may get hurt...

I think if anything I've become quite cold and spikey towards potential partners, and tend to slam the door shut before anything even gets off the ground. Do you think if I DID meet the right person I would become 'unselfish' again?

haha gawdd listen to me.. I just re read that. I've just come back from a holiday.. my body clock is all messed up AND I have a stinking cold.. so I suppose im not in the best frame of mind at the moment..

So if you managed to read down this far.. well done you!

RE: What turns you off

hahaha :o)

RE: do men have to go first?

Noo nooo.. really.. I wasnt.. <haha> I just have two boys.. a father.. and an ex husband.. It just kind of sounded *familiar*... hahaha

RE: the days I miss you..

Jonathan.. Wooo you are goood! I have no idea what you do.. But have you thought of adding all your poems to an online journal/blog? .. (i have one.. but mines boring.. haha) :o) .. Hmm.. tho it did get put in the AOL journals Editors *Six pack pick*.. (whatever that is :shrugs: haha)..

RE: The Irish

Well.. I can't speak for my fellow USA buddies.. haha.. But personally.. I Love the Irish.. im one too mostly.. all my family are from Ireland.. (Dingle Co kerry mostly).. I just dont have the accent haha..

Speeeaking of the Irish accent ::swooons::

RE: do men have to go first?

hahahaha ... great minds! :o)