I totally agree Stacy. When my daughter was growing up, I got a lot of flack from other parents about me not allowing her to do certain things I thought she was not mature enough to handle or that I felt put her at risk. But I call it parenting. And Adj was right about it being our duty to make sure our children are productive members of society and not burdens. Today my daughter is in her 2nd semester of college, does not drink, does not do drugs, and is a very productive member of society, a true blessing. I don't know if that was "tough" love, but it was defininately unconditional love.
He needs to move back into his house now before she gets it out of logistics. It's the only way to claim possession. There is no law that says he has to move out. And until she has a court order, he should remain in his house. If she doesn't like it, she can move. This is not the time for him to be nice. That is what she is counting on. And he should make her file all the paperwork. If she wants a seperation, make her file it, if she wants a divorce, make her file for it. She is also counting on him paying all the filing fees. And he should close all bank accounts, credit cards, anything she has knowledge of or use of. Because until there is a court order, she can do whatever she wants, but so can he. Men tend to forget that it is their's too until a judge says otherwise. As far as the insurance, again, until a judge says otherwise, he can put on and take off whomever he wants. He can't let her run the show, she will bury him. I've seen it personally a hundred times. She is banking on him not taking control of the situation. Of him doing the "right thing." When she has all intentions of doing the wrong thing. A good lawyer will tell him the same thing.
Ron, in my experience I have found that the only person concerned with someone's nationality is the person who puts a lot of importance on what others think of them personally. If you are such a person, then your dating life will be miserable anyhow, no matter who she is or where she is from. Go with the flow, be yourself, and let her be herself. If you click, great, if you don't, it's not because of her skin color. Good Luck.
I too have done my own taxes since I was 16. I use TaxAct throught the IRS website. It's free and remembers your info from the previous year. Last year I had my direct deposit refund in 8 days. It does not however, file your state taxes free. It will prepare them, but not send them.
Me too. I can't stand him. Missed a lot of great movies because he was in them, but still won't watch anything he is in since that stupid teenage movie "Risky Business". And I don't know why it has taken the rest of world to realize what a freak he is, he has always been like that, total loser.
Being a supervisor and trainer myself in the past for a telecenter and a phone operator for a huge dept. store, I would say she has had enough time to learn the protocol. Customer service is not for employees who are unorganized or do not pay attention to details. Not everyone can do it. Hopefully you will not be held responsible for her errors if your manager decides she is ready to take unsupervised calls. Voicing your concerns is one way to avoid that. Be sure to note your concerns in an evaluation form too, if your company uses one for trainees. Good Luck.
My 19 year old daughter is moving out April 1st. She is an only child and I keep going between being happy for her and dreading not knowing she is ok all the time.
I have decided that she has earned the right to live her life. She has never been a bad child, no trouble at all, she goes to college full time, works, can pay her bills, so there is no reason she should not be living her dream and her life. I am comforted in knowing she has a lot of support family wise in our city and will not be abandoned to sink or swim.
I know how you are feeling. Just be proud of the wonderful person you raised and trust that she will be ok making decisions with the knowledge you taught her. And you will be ok not making them for her, I promise.
I too, do not think you are uncaring. I think you are very funny, intelligent, and nice to have in forums. And you are right, this is a site to meet people, hopefully friendly, intelligent, maybe partner material people, not for the rantings of anyone. Some people just have to crash and burn. I suspect that very soon more of the ranters will crash and burn and this will be a better site for it in the end. Even it they re-incarnate themselves, at least they learned a lesson and hopefully will behave in a dignified manner the next time they are here... Cracked myself up with that wishful thinking...LOL
On the negative side of that same coin, some funny, intelligent, and nice people have been banned that didn't deserve it in my opinion. I won't mention names, but we all know who they are. Now that did affect the intelligence level in forums and should be rectified for the benefit of the site.
I say go with your instincts on this guy. It is fun to have someone to chat with, but not if you are uncomfortable. How can that be fun...??? Good Luck.
Well Nina, that's a whole different thread. His behavior has little to do with IM itself. I don't like it when people keep ALL their options open and cannot converse with just one person they are interested in. The multiple handles leads me to believe he may have been having private conversations with more than just you, I hope not, you're sweet.
I like IM because you can have more than one person in on the conversation and also have a private conversation if you want to. You can say whatever you want, and not be worried about it being public or being zapped. It's fun to have all my friends in one place expressing themselves and just hanging out.
I started watching it the other day, but it was half way through so decided I needed to see it from the beginning. Hopefully they will replay it soon so I can watch from the beginning. Seemed interesting.
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RE: tough love
I totally agree Stacy. When my daughter was growing up, I got a lot of flack from other parents about me not allowing her to do certain things I thought she was not mature enough to handle or that I felt put her at risk. But I call it parenting. And Adj was right about it being our duty to make sure our children are productive members of society and not burdens. Today my daughter is in her 2nd semester of college, does not drink, does not do drugs, and is a very productive member of society, a true blessing. I don't know if that was "tough" love, but it was defininately unconditional love.