Hmm GOOD question Riya.. firstly for me.. it's my fear of losing of ME.. my freedom. (again) and in close second place the trust.
And I don't mean the freedom to go out with the girlies on the pull.. not THAT kind of freedom.
But the kind of freedom that allows me to do anything at any time I chose, without having to consider what someone else may think about it, and judge me for.
That's one of the reasons I just stopped *looking* because the more I thought about it.. the more I preferred being single. So meeting someone that makes my *untouchable armour* wobble.. is scary for me.
I chose to keep MYSELF out of relationships for the last few years.. and I've LOVED it really. I've had a huuuuge amount of *Me time* and it's been one of the best things I've ever done.
I THINK (but im not sure)... that being UNmarried.. would keep you both on your toes a little more.. instead of falling into the *Secure boring marriage* trap.
I think for me, my marriage was soooo bad.. and not what I had always envisioned at all.. It was a complete nightmare, where I totally lost myself ... it reeeeally reeeeeeeeeally put me off..
It's left me with a bad taste in my mouth I think.. I STILL look at newly-weds having their pictures taken outside the church.. and think *Another lamb to the slaughter*
Oh I dunno.. it's just FEAR isn't it. I think I just fear a *Repeat performance* .. and frankly I'd rather be six foot under than go throo THAT again.
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RE: marriage matters ?
Well.. it WAS :::drinks it ::::