Care. You are the victim of jealous "alledged friends". Why do you let strangers make your desicions for you? Odds are that they are jealous of you. Ever hear of "misery loves company"?
She has some time-waising notion that she needs to get to know the Cooldude first. Well the best way is drive up North to visit the Cooldude. He will put you up and wine and dine you. No strings attatched.
I love you. But you dont recipricate....
You have to leave a message.! No wonder why there are so many men alone.!