I give mental exclusivity to someone, as soon as I can read serious interest, hope, and the same exclusivity in his mails. Anything else is foul play with the feelings of someone else.
But anyhow, this comes easy and automatically to me, because somehow I am not capable to focus serious hopes on more than one correspondent at the same time.
if you want serious scientific answers, go and ask your questions at the JREF forum or the homepage of Randi. There are a lot of qualified people. This is a dating site.
My personal quick answer is that I see no need to assume a beginning of time nor any creation of matter. The most logical explanation is eternity and an eternal transformation of matter. The Big Bang is a theory that makes no claims about what had there been before.
sorry, my mistake, I did not mean 13 million, but 13 Billion lightyears. Therefore you can enjoy the journey even more, your soul nicely folded in an envelope. Or how are souls packed for longterm space travel?
your heaven can only be beyond our universe ... so to reach your heaven, you have to spend at least 13 million years of travelling at the speed of light, if you get beamed, and much longer at the speed of any rocket, just to reach the boundery of our universe. At that point, how do you know how farther it is?
Could any heaven be worth such a long boring journey?
I did not mean that someone would sincerely attempt to improve someone else, while this would be bad enough if not explicitly asked for. It is even worse to manipulate a person to beleive improving herself as a pretence for the goal of exploiting and abusing her in any way which is not in her own best interest, especially not long term.
there are people, who use negative expressions calling a person/woman 'oldfashioned', 'prude', 'closed minded' and so on as a strategy of manipulation.
They attempt to take advantage of a gullible person by making her think that to gain the positive self-concept of being open-minded etc., she would need to succumb to the abusive wishes.
I personally prefer to be a proud prude with self-respect rather than a victime of manipulation being rewarded with the attribute of open-mindedness.
to dress slobby and to overeat is not the same at all.
I admit that I feel most comfortable in slobby clothes, when I am alone. But this is completely temporary. I can change into better things in a few minutes if there is good reason to do so. My clothes are an outside protection and not my body.
But even when I a alone and lonely, I restrict my calorie intake to a reasonable amount, because gaining weight has long term effect that cannot be easily undone.
only COMMITMENT for the rest of the life or with mutual effort for as long as possible would get me into bed. Any guy, who does not offer commitment, is not good enough to waste any time with.
if you are in the statistical sense of the word normal and average than you have a good probability to find someone compatible nearby.
But for people, whose traits, attitudes and wishes are statistically rare like me, OVERCOMING ANY GEOGRAPHIC DISTANCE IS EASIER THAN OVERCOMING THE MENTAL DISTANCE of incompatible attitudes and values.
Therefore my search is worldwide in all languages that I speak. A relationship can begin with a long distant contact, but a relationship meaning a partnership means living together. I am 56 and a guy in my age group can be retired or early retired or unemployed and he could relocate, or if there is no other way, we could live like nomads alternating between two locations.
analyzing after being discarded does not change a thing, but learning something gives a secondary value to any unpleasant experience which without learning would make me feel the victim of someone bad manners. And learning means learning anything about people, even comprehending a tiny bit about the working of the brain of the weird ones.
yes, exactly, I prefer any explanation, as insulting or hurting it ever could sound. I helps to comprehend, what is going on. And if somebody tells me something very negative, this does not mean that I would automatically accept it as being true. I might see it as an indication of his distorted perception and thus his problem.
Knowledge gives strength, ignorance gives irritation and confusion.
I interpreted this sentence as telling me that this guy should make a sigh of relief to be rid of such a horrible person as me, even though you do not even know me, and I felt mocked.
Have I misunderstood you? As English is not my native language, I am prone to misunderstand sometimes.
I can take any reply from someone, even someone saying that he does not like my picture. I would even take it, if ever anybody were to bluntly tell me I am ulgy. The main point is to KNOW that there is nothing more to wait for. Waiting in ignorance is so much more unpleasant than any truth.
To write very nice mails and then suddenly stop without an explanation is a very cruel game. I spent more than 24 hours waiting for mail before I posted here. I am indeed very gratefull that he finally made it clear that the correspondence is over. Even though I wanted to continue the contact, I do feel relief to know the truth.
If I contact someone and there is no reply, that is no problem, but no reply after an exchange of several long and meaningfull mails is a different situation.
As far as I know, according to german law I am entitled to 10% of the value, if the owner would claim it. If not, after a certain time the whole amount would be mine. I once found a piece of jewelry and I got it back after two years.
Would I keep the money, I could not spend it, because spending a lot of money all of a sudden is suspicious, and I would risk to be prosecuted as keeping such a find is a criminal act. So handing in to the police is much wiser.
There is a lot more, especially novels, on the project gutenberg to download. And with a voice synthetizer program, the computer is reading it out to me. D.H.Lawrence, Jane Austen, Thomas Hardy, Joseph Conrad and many more.
1. natural and unchangable aspects 2. deliberate aspects as a consequence of behaviour
All that comes in 1. should not influence the choice of a partner, when there is compatibility with the personality. What is in 2. is an expression of the person's trait or state and therefore a part of compatibility.
An example: If someone is bald, he is like this and I would not make the least issue of it. If someone would shave a head of beautiful curls off, or shave his beard off, he would deliberately make himself ugly, refusing to be attractive for me, so this is a point to consider.
Being overweight is also the consequence of the deliberate act of eating too much. I admit that heavy obesity to me is repulsive. So if someone is really fat I would stay away. If someone has moderate overweight and is motivated to loose it, I would support him and help him to reduce his weight. If he prefers to stay fat then it is his choice.
when I read that a man wants an 'openminded woman', I translate it into : He wants a stupid woman, who allows him any (ab)use of her body while denying her any commitment.
maybe they should ask for the BMI instead of all those confusing words........... what exactly means proportionate? I took this literally, but then I noticed that so many guys exclude this from their search. So I am wondering if proportionate is a nice word for overweight? It would be stupid to be taken for what I am not. I changed my profile to slim/slender but I still do not know if this is more correct - my BMI is 20.
thanks adj4u for your cooperation. I am not usually getting blocked, so that was helpfull.
When I tried to send you a message, there was the following error message:
_______________________ Your email has been blocked:
You may not reply to this message. Mail to this member has been blocked _______________________
So now I know that that guy did not block me. Anyhow, after pestering him with several emails and greeting cards he finally had the civility to reply and make the excuse that I am too far away as the reason why he does not want to continue the contact.
Fact is that he is in the USA, Ma, and I am in Germany. But then, it was his initiative, he contacted me first and he seemed to be quite interested in getting to know me and the distance did not seem a problem at all.
The distance is just a stupid excuse, I think he is just a coward not capable to tell the truth bluntly. He maybe did not like my photo, which I had send to him on his request, or I just happened to be the first reacting with a positive reply to his initiative, and then someone else replied, whom he likes more.
In both cases, it is very bad manners to keep silent, not open my messages and make me wait for a reply. Well, I know now, so I can calmly shake the sand off my feet and move on. I hate uncertainty.
this site does no help with problems - I have a problem with advanced search not working, I used the 'give feedback' option and I never got a reply, nor did I get any help on a thread asking the question to the admins.
since yesterday, someone has been connected several times, but he does not read my messages any more. Is it possible that he has blocked me without any explanation? Would I get notified, when I am being blocked or not?
so now I am back with a new profile. I am still unable to get any results using the ADVANCED SEARCH. So nothing gained. When cancelling my maruli-profile, I was asked, why I were leaving the site and I mentioned my problem. No reaction whatsoever from the admins. It seems I am invisible to them.
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RE: Is it ok. to talk to, more than one person at the time (in the dating site), meaning with romantic i
I give mental exclusivity to someone, as soon as I can read serious interest, hope, and the same exclusivity in his mails. Anything else is foul play with the feelings of someone else.But anyhow, this comes easy and automatically to me, because somehow I am not capable to focus serious hopes on more than one correspondent at the same time.