do I get to know, when I am blocked? ( Archived) (37)

ok you are blocked my dear

I just remember last summer that there was someone (not mentioning names) that was misrepresenting herself with a photo and insisting it was her. I found proof it wasn't. A couple good souls who gave her the benefit of the doubt blocked me. My e-mail to them would just disappear like nothing was ever sent. I couldn't even see them.

thanks adj4u for your cooperation. I am not usually getting blocked, so that was helpfull.

When I tried to send you a message, there was the following error message:

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Your email has been blocked:

You may not reply to this message. Mail to this member has been blocked
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So now I know that that guy did not block me. Anyhow, after pestering him with several emails and greeting cards he finally had the civility to reply and make the excuse that I am too far away as the reason why he does not want to continue the contact.

Fact is that he is in the USA, Ma, and I am in Germany. But then, it was his initiative, he contacted me first and he seemed to be quite interested in getting to know me and the distance did not seem a problem at all.

The distance is just a stupid excuse, I think he is just a coward not capable to tell the truth bluntly. He maybe did not like my photo, which I had send to him on his request, or I just happened to be the first reacting with a positive reply to his initiative, and then someone else replied, whom he likes more.

In both cases, it is very bad manners to keep silent, not open my messages and make me wait for a reply. Well, I know now, so I can calmly shake the sand off my feet and move on. I hate uncertainty.

you are welcome my dear and unblocked

glad to be of service

lol

Good lord. A sigh of relief is in order for that man.

one day you might feel irritated about someone not answering your mails without an explanation, I wish you that then someone else mocks you.

I dont understand why people take not being replied toso personally.You dont even know the person.I would rather they didnt reply than say oh your too ugly or fat. People get busy and sometimes lose interest and thats that.At least he made an attempt at a reply so be grateful for that. If he has read your very bitter posts then i can see why he changed his mind.Lighten up a wee bit. :)

I stand by my reply. That man dodged a bullet. And ulike you, i wish u the best.

I can take any reply from someone, even someone saying that he does not like my picture. I would even take it, if ever anybody were to bluntly tell me I am ulgy. The main point is to KNOW that there is nothing more to wait for. Waiting in ignorance is so much more unpleasant than any truth.

To write very nice mails and then suddenly stop without an explanation is a very cruel game. I spent more than 24 hours waiting for mail before I posted here.
I am indeed very gratefull that he finally made it clear that the correspondence is over. Even though I wanted to continue the contact, I do feel relief to know the truth.

If I contact someone and there is no reply, that is no problem, but no reply after an exchange of several long and meaningfull mails is a different situation.

Just let this go. No one deserves this much of ur time when they're being this inconsiderate. I've had this happen to me a few times and it doesn't really bother me that communication suddenly stopped as much as he thinks it's ok to treat someone this way and i'm glad i didn't get involved with him. It's their loss and that's all u can say about it. You can't change it nor stop it from happening again. That's why dating sucks whether it's on the computer or in person. You always have to weed thru the losers to find that one special person. Stay hopeful but don't give this guy another min of ur time.