Ambrose2007 Forum Posts (8,881)

RE: i refuse to come back to the forums even though many people ask me to because i'm a man of integrity

I admire your integrity in not returning to the forums, Gilly.

RE: Good Looking..

Speak for yourself, girlfriend!

RE: What is your favorite beer?

Oh, you sophisticated women...

RE: What is your favorite beer?

Oh - you're trying to sway the vote! Seriously, Bud has fewer additives than Miller (according to an online analysis anyhow), and I've found Miller to be a tad "acidic" for lack of a better word.

So sorry, sister, had to vote Bud.

RE: Tatum O'Neal...Feel Sorry For Her ?

I agree she's behaving irrresponsibly, but I don't see anything positive being accomplished by throwing her in jail; also, I see her drug use as rightfully her decision to make rather than some government bureaucrat's.

RE: Randomly Post the First Thing That Pops Into Your Head Thread

Hey, brother!

RE: Randomly Post the First Thing That Pops Into Your Head Thread

I really don't like this idea for a thread!

RE: Decisions Decisions

Getting married. Still figuring out all the ramifications of that...

RE: Are we being a bit too picky , selective or cautious ?

Not sure I have the full measure of your question, Riya, but I don't think the problem is having too many expectations or being too picky. I would say the problem could be having the *wrong* expectations and being picky about the *wrong* things.

I've seen plenty of profiles where the person emphasizes the minutiae and largely irrelevant factors in a relationship - liking a particular board game comes to mind (and no, I'm not referring to you, GG!!) - which makes me think I'm not entirely off-base here.

Hi, Riya!

RE: If you had only 3 words to describe yourself..what would they be????

I AM GLAD!!!!!

RE: If you had only 3 words to describe yourself..what would they be????

WTF?

RE: unlucky

That VERY dark photograph of your countenance slowly wormed its way into her soul?

RE: Hi there ... everyone... I know... I am back to visit!

In too many ways to name!

RE: Hi there ... everyone... I know... I am back to visit!

They're pretty damn hard to miss, H!

Welcome back, Uli. I'd usually ask for a Bud Lite, but since you're buying, I'll take a regular Bud.

Thanks!

RE: Guys, what do you steer clear of in women's profiles??...

Out here in South Dakota it's not unusual to "dress" our "roadkill."

RE: Guys, what do you steer clear of in women's profiles??...

No - I'm actually one myself (I took a lot of grief for a grammar thread I posted awhile back).

RE: Guys, what do you steer clear of in women's profiles??...

Two of your exes are guys! I would never have guessed, Ship!

RE: Guys, what do you steer clear of in women's profiles??...

Dear lord, Portiea, you have a point!

RE: Guys, what do you steer clear of in women's profiles??...

I'm always amazed at how many people fail to capitalize the bible!

RE: Guys, what do you steer clear of in women's profiles??...

THere has to be an irony in there somewhere... You wanted to look especially dashing to make your ex suffer?

RE: Guys, what do you steer clear of in women's profiles??...

I would steer clear of women who *emphasize* their political or religious views and suggest a compatible mate would share them. "Very liberal and looking for same." "I love the lord, and am looking for a god-fearing man" - that kind of thing.

A long list of requirements that a prospective mate must live up to.

But when a profile is written intelligently, with wit and humor, you've got my attention. When a woman also takes the time to reveal something substantive about herself - as opposed to the usual vacuous stuff like "enjoys travel" or "is active" or is "nice" - that is very appealing to me.

RE: Guys, what do you steer clear of in women's profiles??...

Shockingly appealing, maybe...

RE: Do women have ...

Wow, that's pretty clever, Alabama. I suppose modeling the "ideal mate" inflexibly could be problematic, but one isn't required to attempt such extremes in order to consider in some depth the qualities one is looking for in a mate, no?

RE: Canadian forums

But why would anyone bother with the Canadian forums? (Not picking on you, X, just on Canadians in general)

Jeff

RE: Do women have ...

And there's no ifs, ands, or mcmaybes about that, I'm thinking, Claire...

RE: How did you get yours???

Chainsaw. Thank heavens I had some heavy thread and darning needles nearby...

RE: your signs best match

RE: your signs best match

Horniferous = Lovestarved?

Seems like a good sign matchup to me.

RE: Spent 2 days with my ex and now hurting :(

Holy shi#. I can relate to this on soooo many levels. An American with a Canadian girlfriend. A wife from whom I'm separated. Sheesh...it's all so deja vu except the part about the hitting and your being married at 18 (!!??) and the living with the parents thing...

Here's the short and simple: you cannot be with this guy now, and probably never. It's really that simple. You're both WAY too young and unsettled - and he clearly has years and years of growing up to do before he won't make some girl and himself absolutely miserable - and you need to free yourself of this crippling entanglement asap.

I know, I know, easier said than done. I'm 54, and allegedly somewhat mature, and it's been hell for me to parse all this stuff out. But you really have no choice here. You can pine for him until your heart breaks into tiny throbbing pieces for all eternity and it won't make a damn bit of difference except that you'll be one of walking wounded for the indefinite future. OR...you can accept that is not going to happen now, and move on as much as it is possible for you to do. You won't be able to do that overnight, but you can at least come to the intellectual understanding that it cannot work right now.

Some counseling might be an excellent idea at this point...

Best of luck, Mystical.

Jeff

RE: Do women have ...

"Hoping for Mr. Undefinable...." I think that says it all about the basic fallacy involved in some people's search for their ideal mate.

To the extent that you are looking for Mr. or Ms. Undefinable, you are, by definition, bound to find Mr. or Ms. Incompatible.