I think maybe reationships in todays culture, what we see on tv, hear on the radio, what hollywood tells us is normal. Really this plasticy, selfish , shallow minded, quick to anger, superficial culture that is being sold to us is not doing anybody any favors at all. Espechally the family unit, and the children.
Thats what they do when you ask to talk to a scammer in many cases. Did you see broken english in the emails. Thats a classic sign your dealing with a scammer. They are very good manipulators.
You say 'Ive been thru enuff crap in my life', I'm guessing that this means you have had this happen before, in past relationships.
People often repeat the same thing from relationship to relationship and never actually realise it. Maybe you come on to strong all the time, not allowing it to start in a slow way.
Slow it down. If that is the case, let him do the chasing a little bit more, next time...
I used to be one... till I realised where it was getting me... Basically a nice guy is not attractive to the girls because;
he has no backbone - weak! he don't have any self-respect - weak ! he has no confidence - weak ! he doesn't stand up to her - weak ! ( she actually need you to stand up to her once and a while in order for her to respect you ).
My main point is that.... she has already gone she fell out of love with him a while ago... She is just feeling guilty. Him selling the dope is just a convenient excuse so we say poor you, what a bad guy....
Dude I feel the need to enlighten you with some vital info you maybe missing.
If if a female leaves in a relationship - it's because she has lost romantic interest, she is no longer in love. NOT FIXABLE. Rather than leave straight away she will stay with someone she is not in love with, until she builds up enough resentment that she leaves. That's why by the time she leaves it's totally unfixable.
Once she is no longer in love. She will never be back, you only get one chance. This usually will usually take awhile to happen in a long-term relationship. You got to stay aware. Us as guys tend to look only at how much we are in love with them and totally forget about how she may feel about us. And we can take them for granted, and next thing ya know your out. So it's not really their fault you see.
The culture today is like you say, easy come easy go, anything goes culture.
BUT there are people who do have successful relationships. So they must be doing something right ? Right ? I think some people are just lucky, but also we do they picking, and one bad attitude can sink a relationship. Don't be in to much of hurry to get a relationship and overlook a bad attitude because that is out of your control, and it will cost you in the long-run.
But even if you manage to get a good one, you can still lose if you don't keep her in love. It's that simple. Stay aware - never take her for granted.
Remember if she is not in love - you have her mixed up with someone who cares.
well, you must feel it is a bit of a crime or you would not be asking.
It's not a crime - you just are not in love with him any more. Simple.
You must of known that we was a pot head and dealer. I'm sure this did not happen over night. We a re all assuming that you a the poor innocent one. This is your side of the story, it would be interesting to hear his. Anyway, I just think that people do walk away from relationships to easy these days. That's my point.
Why not communicate with him these thoughts you are telling us.
Not sure how long you have been with this dude weather it be 1month or 10 years. But I'm guessing due to you raising the subject here it would have to be more than couple years?
I bet the truth of the matter is just that you have fallen out of love with him ( which is something that can not be reversed, unfortunately ). And you don't want to break his heart. Well there is no easy way to deal with it you just have to leave.
I think the lesson here for the guys is when a girl is falling out of love. She never says it directly. You must stay aware or your going to be out.
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RE: PICK UP LINES....
im getting a drink, do you want one...