Is it too much to ask?? (199)
I'd dump him if that's how he is.
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Ccincy: I'd dump him if that's how he is.
Couldnt agree more, she desreves so much better than treatment like that.------ This thread is Locked ------
Dump him
If he's cheated before, he may be with someone else while with his family
If he's cheated before, he may be with someone else while with his family
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He sounds like a right selfish person.
Plenty of time for facebook but not for you ? I guess you know where you stand on his list of priorities.
Plenty of time for facebook but not for you ? I guess you know where you stand on his list of priorities.
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In response to: I have been with a guy for 3yrs now, He is Jewish and I recentky finished my conversion to Judaism to make my relationship with him easier. I love being jewish its not about that what it is about is the way he treats me still as a person and as his supposed to be his better half!!
its been a long haul with him of lots of downs than ups.
He has cheated on me 3 times twice over the net and once with an actual person sent over by his family to see if he really does want me or a real jewish woman, in that time he nastily dumped me and broke my heart and told me to wait for him for 4wks till he decided my fate if i was the one for him or not!!!
well he made his decision in the end and came back to me. but every year at passover time and high holidays and yom kippur he does the same thing of saying he doesnt have time to speak to me at all and he really doesnt make that much of an effort to either! he has his family over from israel to america where he lives and i live here for now in UK. so he lives breathes and sleeps and eats for 4wks with his family but never has time to call via skype his girlfriend back home in England, he always says " i hope you understand i have the whole family here and i have to entertain and at some point i shall try and say hello to you but you know i am busy with them" so really i have to wait and i feel so worth less and not wanted by him when he says that to me that he can barely give me 2mins to say hello i miss you but he has plenty of time for facebook which he is always on.!!
what shall i do? is he honest and does he respect and want me? I am on here as i thought maybe i should keep myself open to the possibility that there maybe someone out there for me if he doesnt want me.
its been a long haul with him of lots of downs than ups.
He has cheated on me 3 times twice over the net and once with an actual person sent over by his family to see if he really does want me or a real jewish woman, in that time he nastily dumped me and broke my heart and told me to wait for him for 4wks till he decided my fate if i was the one for him or not!!!
well he made his decision in the end and came back to me. but every year at passover time and high holidays and yom kippur he does the same thing of saying he doesnt have time to speak to me at all and he really doesnt make that much of an effort to either! he has his family over from israel to america where he lives and i live here for now in UK. so he lives breathes and sleeps and eats for 4wks with his family but never has time to call via skype his girlfriend back home in England, he always says " i hope you understand i have the whole family here and i have to entertain and at some point i shall try and say hello to you but you know i am busy with them" so really i have to wait and i feel so worth less and not wanted by him when he says that to me that he can barely give me 2mins to say hello i miss you but he has plenty of time for facebook which he is always on.!!
what shall i do? is he honest and does he respect and want me? I am on here as i thought maybe i should keep myself open to the possibility that there maybe someone out there for me if he doesnt want me.
This happened to me with my last boyfriend. I changed my relion to suit him, left it in his hands to decide if our relationship is oing to continue...just about everything you say here sounds EXACTLY the way it was with my ex.
If he is cheating on you with 'real' Jewish girls, stop leaving it in his hands about your relationship and tell him to ship out. You don't deserve to be treated so badly. Everyone has time to communicate with their partner no matter where they are and what they're doing, if he's on facebook all the time when he's away how hard is it to write you an inbox? You need to take several long hard looks at what you've written in your post here over a few days, then come back and tell me, is it worth it? If this was your sister, best friend or daughter, would you advocate she stay in a relationship where she is treated so badly?
I feel your pain because I know exactly what you're going through and if I can make it stop after four years of his ignorance, disreagrd and contempt, so can you.
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Faithe: Couldnt agree more, she desreves so much better than treatment like that.
She sure does alot better.
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MISSEY8: I have been with a guy for 3yrs now, He is Jewish and I recentky finished my conversion to Judaism to make my relationship with him easier. I love being jewish its not about that what it is about is the way he treats me still as a person and as his supposed to be his better half!!
its been a long haul with him of lots of downs than ups.
He has cheated on me 3 times twice over the net and once with an actual person sent over by his family to see if he really does want me or a real jewish woman, in that time he nastily dumped me and broke my heart and told me to wait for him for 4wks till he decided my fate if i was the one for him or not!!!
well he made his decision in the end and came back to me. but every year at passover time and high holidays and yom kippur he does the same thing of saying he doesnt have time to speak to me at all and he really doesnt make that much of an effort to either! he has his family over from israel to america where he lives and i live here for now in UK. so he lives breathes and sleeps and eats for 4wks with his family but never has time to call via skype his girlfriend back home in England, he always says " i hope you understand i have the whole family here and i have to entertain and at some point i shall try and say hello to you but you know i am busy with them" so really i have to wait and i feel so worth less and not wanted by him when he says that to me that he can barely give me 2mins to say hello i miss you but he has plenty of time for facebook which he is always on.!!
what shall i do? is he honest and does he respect and want me? I am on here as i thought maybe i should keep myself open to the possibility that there maybe someone out there for me if he doesnt want me.
its been a long haul with him of lots of downs than ups.
He has cheated on me 3 times twice over the net and once with an actual person sent over by his family to see if he really does want me or a real jewish woman, in that time he nastily dumped me and broke my heart and told me to wait for him for 4wks till he decided my fate if i was the one for him or not!!!
well he made his decision in the end and came back to me. but every year at passover time and high holidays and yom kippur he does the same thing of saying he doesnt have time to speak to me at all and he really doesnt make that much of an effort to either! he has his family over from israel to america where he lives and i live here for now in UK. so he lives breathes and sleeps and eats for 4wks with his family but never has time to call via skype his girlfriend back home in England, he always says " i hope you understand i have the whole family here and i have to entertain and at some point i shall try and say hello to you but you know i am busy with them" so really i have to wait and i feel so worth less and not wanted by him when he says that to me that he can barely give me 2mins to say hello i miss you but he has plenty of time for facebook which he is always on.!!
what shall i do? is he honest and does he respect and want me? I am on here as i thought maybe i should keep myself open to the possibility that there maybe someone out there for me if he doesnt want me.
Get a life, says I.
If you do it once to me, it is shame on you. If you do it twice to me, then it is shame on me. Three times?.....
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ltlredcorvette: This happened to me with my last boyfriend. I changed my relion to suit him, left it in his hands to decide if our relationship is oing to continue...just about everything you say here sounds EXACTLY the way it was with my ex.
If he is cheating on you with 'real' Jewish girls, stop leaving it in his hands about your relationship and tell him to ship out. You don't deserve to be treated so badly. Everyone has time to communicate with their partner no matter where they are and what they're doing, if he's on facebook all the time when he's away how hard is it to write you an inbox? You need to take several long hard looks at what you've written in your post here over a few days, then come back and tell me, is it worth it? If this was your sister, best friend or daughter, would you advocate she stay in a relationship where she is treated so badly?
I feel your pain because I know exactly what you're going through and if I can make it stop after four years of his ignorance, disreagrd and contempt, so can you.
If he is cheating on you with 'real' Jewish girls, stop leaving it in his hands about your relationship and tell him to ship out. You don't deserve to be treated so badly. Everyone has time to communicate with their partner no matter where they are and what they're doing, if he's on facebook all the time when he's away how hard is it to write you an inbox? You need to take several long hard looks at what you've written in your post here over a few days, then come back and tell me, is it worth it? If this was your sister, best friend or daughter, would you advocate she stay in a relationship where she is treated so badly?
I feel your pain because I know exactly what you're going through and if I can make it stop after four years of his ignorance, disreagrd and contempt, so can you.
Can i ask what religion did you convert too? if you dont mind me asking? Thanks for your words they are very much appreciated.
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MISSEY8: I have been with a guy for 3yrs now, He is Jewish and I recentky finished my conversion to Judaism to make my relationship with him easier. I love being jewish its not about that what it is about is the way he treats me still as a person and as his supposed to be his better half!!
its been a long haul with him of lots of downs than ups.
He has cheated on me 3 times twice over the net and once with an actual person sent over by his family to see if he really does want me or a real jewish woman, in that time he nastily dumped me and broke my heart and told me to wait for him for 4wks till he decided my fate if i was the one for him or not!!!
well he made his decision in the end and came back to me. but every year at passover time and high holidays and yom kippur he does the same thing of saying he doesnt have time to speak to me at all and he really doesnt make that much of an effort to either! he has his family over from israel to america where he lives and i live here for now in UK. so he lives breathes and sleeps and eats for 4wks with his family but never has time to call via skype his girlfriend back home in England, he always says " i hope you understand i have the whole family here and i have to entertain and at some point i shall try and say hello to you but you know i am busy with them" so really i have to wait and i feel so worth less and not wanted by him when he says that to me that he can barely give me 2mins to say hello i miss you but he has plenty of time for facebook which he is always on.!!
what shall i do? is he honest and does he respect and want me? I am on here as i thought maybe i should keep myself open to the possibility that there maybe someone out there for me if he doesnt want me.
its been a long haul with him of lots of downs than ups.
He has cheated on me 3 times twice over the net and once with an actual person sent over by his family to see if he really does want me or a real jewish woman, in that time he nastily dumped me and broke my heart and told me to wait for him for 4wks till he decided my fate if i was the one for him or not!!!
well he made his decision in the end and came back to me. but every year at passover time and high holidays and yom kippur he does the same thing of saying he doesnt have time to speak to me at all and he really doesnt make that much of an effort to either! he has his family over from israel to america where he lives and i live here for now in UK. so he lives breathes and sleeps and eats for 4wks with his family but never has time to call via skype his girlfriend back home in England, he always says " i hope you understand i have the whole family here and i have to entertain and at some point i shall try and say hello to you but you know i am busy with them" so really i have to wait and i feel so worth less and not wanted by him when he says that to me that he can barely give me 2mins to say hello i miss you but he has plenty of time for facebook which he is always on.!!
what shall i do? is he honest and does he respect and want me? I am on here as i thought maybe i should keep myself open to the possibility that there maybe someone out there for me if he doesnt want me.
K...let me get this straight...You actually convert to Judaism, when you live on different continents and I take it, have no plans for marriage?...He cheats repeatedly, treats you like a door-mat, Makes YOU wait for HIM to decide YOUR fate??? And youv'e already WASTED 3 years of your life on this looser...and now your asking what to do??? Goodness!!! HELLO!!! You need to wake the hell up is what you need to do. Like now...today!
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And your headline is..."is it too much too ask"???? Good god almighty
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MISSEY8: Can i ask what religion did you convert too? if you dont mind me asking? Thanks for your words they are very much appreciated.
Islam.
And I also forgot to add, men like him DON'T change, because we ALLOW them to treat us in this way. When you stand strong and stop enabling him to treat you like this, then it will end. My break-up is recent, I'm still very raw about it and miss him all the time, but at the end of the day, my life is better without him in it.
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You answered your own question sweety
He makes you feel worthless you said
No one should be with anyone who makes them feel worthless
Good luck
He makes you feel worthless you said
No one should be with anyone who makes them feel worthless
Good luck
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ltlredcorvette: Islam.
And I also forgot to add, men like him DON'T change, because we ALLOW them to treat us in this way. When you stand strong and stop enabling him to treat you like this, then it will end. My break-up is recent, I'm still very raw about it and miss him all the time, but at the end of the day, my life is better without him in it.
And I also forgot to add, men like him DON'T change, because we ALLOW them to treat us in this way. When you stand strong and stop enabling him to treat you like this, then it will end. My break-up is recent, I'm still very raw about it and miss him all the time, but at the end of the day, my life is better without him in it.
Wow I am sorry about that.
Its a horrid thought to be left in a religion that you convert to for love of another man. It seems to me that alot of men use their religion as a means to cheat and treat people badly.
my problem is i love him very much and find it hard to let him go when i know what people are telling me is right but to do it is very hard.
I waited all day today and he knew it was my day off work but i didnt get anything from him as usual.
I know i am throwing my life away here and it wont get any better and no he has not asked me to marry him either so there is no wedding on the cards at all.
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Sometimes people get "stuck" on stupid.
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What to do now..? Well if your gut isn't sending you a clear message by now, look at this way; if love is a sweet dream, marriage is the alarm clock!! By then, it will be too late.
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MISSEY8: Wow I am sorry about that.
Its a horrid thought to be left in a religion that you convert to for love of another man. It seems to me that alot of men use their religion as a means to cheat and treat people badly.
my problem is i love him very much and find it hard to let him go when i know what people are telling me is right but to do it is very hard.
I waited all day today and he knew it was my day off work but i didnt get anything from him as usual.
I know i am throwing my life away here and it wont get any better and no he has not asked me to marry him either so there is no wedding on the cards at all.
Its a horrid thought to be left in a religion that you convert to for love of another man. It seems to me that alot of men use their religion as a means to cheat and treat people badly.
my problem is i love him very much and find it hard to let him go when i know what people are telling me is right but to do it is very hard.
I waited all day today and he knew it was my day off work but i didnt get anything from him as usual.
I know i am throwing my life away here and it wont get any better and no he has not asked me to marry him either so there is no wedding on the cards at all.
I know you're throwing your life away and by the sounds of it, so do you.
I know exactly how much you love him, how much you want him to love you back but in the end, he doesn't really love you. You're at his disposal at all times because you're sitting there waiting for him to want you and he doesn't. You're a convenience to him, nothing more and nothing less. You need to wake up and smell the coffee before it is too late.
And as far as I'm concerned, you're never stuck with a religion, you said you were happy to be a Jew, if you're not happy with being a Jew, don't be one. We are humans and as such, have been given concious choice.
And for the record, he proposed to me, but told me just before we broke up that he had NO intention of ever marrying me, because he has already had two failed marriages.
Please, for your own sake, cut this man out of your life. I KNOW how hard it is, but the emotional cost to you will be far greater than the emotional cost of leaving him in your past and moving on with your life.
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MISSEY8: what shall i do? is he honest and does he respect and want me? I am on here as i thought maybe i should keep myself open to the possibility that there maybe someone out there for me if he doesnt want me.
Are you honest? (to yourself about WHY you let him treat you that way)
Do you respect yourself? (obviously not or you wouldn't let him treat you that way. Why should HE respect you when you don't respect yourself. Why should he respect you MORE than you respect yourself?)
Do you really think that anyone here should want to be with you ONLY because your last boyfriend doesn't want you? (the question shouldn't be about whether HE wants YOU... but WHY do YOU still want HIM? knowing now what you know about his attitude towards you)
It takes a lot of courage to be honest with oneself and learn to love oneself more!!!
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MISSEY8: Wow I am sorry about that.
Its a horrid thought to be left in a religion that you convert to for love of another man. It seems to me that alot of men use their religion as a means to cheat and treat people badly.
my problem is i love him very much and find it hard to let him go when i know what people are telling me is right but to do it is very hard.
I waited all day today and he knew it was my day off work but i didnt get anything from him as usual.
I know i am throwing my life away here and it wont get any better and no he has not asked me to marry him either so there is no wedding on the cards at all.
Its a horrid thought to be left in a religion that you convert to for love of another man. It seems to me that alot of men use their religion as a means to cheat and treat people badly.
my problem is i love him very much and find it hard to let him go when i know what people are telling me is right but to do it is very hard.
I waited all day today and he knew it was my day off work but i didnt get anything from him as usual.
I know i am throwing my life away here and it wont get any better and no he has not asked me to marry him either so there is no wedding on the cards at all.
I can't believe this.You sat all day waiting for a man who you said cheated on you more then once?
He wouldn't be in my cards either.
I don't believe that all men use their religion to cheat and treat people badly.I know my b/f doesn't.
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its been a long haul with him of lots of downs than ups.
He has cheated on me 3 times twice over the net and once with an actual person sent over by his family to see if he really does want me or a real jewish woman, in that time he nastily dumped me and broke my heart and told me to wait for him for 4wks till he decided my fate if i was the one for him or not!!!
well he made his decision in the end and came back to me. but every year at passover time and high holidays and yom kippur he does the same thing of saying he doesnt have time to speak to me at all and he really doesnt make that much of an effort to either! he has his family over from israel to america where he lives and i live here for now in UK. so he lives breathes and sleeps and eats for 4wks with his family but never has time to call via skype his girlfriend back home in England, he always says " i hope you understand i have the whole family here and i have to entertain and at some point i shall try and say hello to you but you know i am busy with them" so really i have to wait and i feel so worth less and not wanted by him when he says that to me that he can barely give me 2mins to say hello i miss you but he has plenty of time for facebook which he is always on.!!
what shall i do? is he honest and does he respect and want me? I am on here as i thought maybe i should keep myself open to the possibility that there maybe someone out there for me if he doesnt want me.