Is it too much to ask?? (199)
MISSEY8: I have been with a guy for 3yrs now, He is Jewish and I recentky finished my conversion to Judaism to make my relationship with him easier. I love being jewish its not about that what it is about is the way he treats me still as a person and as his supposed to be his better half!!
its been a long haul with him of lots of downs than ups.
He has cheated on me 3 times twice over the net and once with an actual person sent over by his family to see if he really does want me or a real jewish woman, in that time he nastily dumped me and broke my heart and told me to wait for him for 4wks till he decided my fate if i was the one for him or not!!!
well he made his decision in the end and came back to me. but every year at passover time and high holidays and yom kippur he does the same thing of saying he doesnt have time to speak to me at all and he really doesnt make that much of an effort to either! he has his family over from israel to america where he lives and i live here for now in UK. so he lives breathes and sleeps and eats for 4wks with his family but never has time to call via skype his girlfriend back home in England, he always says " i hope you understand i have the whole family here and i have to entertain and at some point i shall try and say hello to you but you know i am busy with them" so really i have to wait and i feel so worth less and not wanted by him when he says that to me that he can barely give me 2mins to say hello i miss you but he has plenty of time for facebook which he is always on.!!
what shall i do? is he honest and does he respect and want me? I am on here as i thought maybe i should keep myself open to the possibility that there maybe someone out there for me if he doesnt want me.
its been a long haul with him of lots of downs than ups.
He has cheated on me 3 times twice over the net and once with an actual person sent over by his family to see if he really does want me or a real jewish woman, in that time he nastily dumped me and broke my heart and told me to wait for him for 4wks till he decided my fate if i was the one for him or not!!!
well he made his decision in the end and came back to me. but every year at passover time and high holidays and yom kippur he does the same thing of saying he doesnt have time to speak to me at all and he really doesnt make that much of an effort to either! he has his family over from israel to america where he lives and i live here for now in UK. so he lives breathes and sleeps and eats for 4wks with his family but never has time to call via skype his girlfriend back home in England, he always says " i hope you understand i have the whole family here and i have to entertain and at some point i shall try and say hello to you but you know i am busy with them" so really i have to wait and i feel so worth less and not wanted by him when he says that to me that he can barely give me 2mins to say hello i miss you but he has plenty of time for facebook which he is always on.!!
what shall i do? is he honest and does he respect and want me? I am on here as i thought maybe i should keep myself open to the possibility that there maybe someone out there for me if he doesnt want me.
You have already invested far too much time, emotion, and energy on this man.
Do not doubt that there will be a decent man out there who will treat you with the dignity and respect you deserve.
My advice to you is to cut your losses and move on.
Good luck. x
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ooh dear..Looks like someone showed their true colors?
BB is beautiful, her soul is genuine Missey (suitable name)
She was concerned over the thread being a replica, she did not insult you personally! But you did!
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Envy51: To be honest i had my doubts about whether you were real or not because i could not get my head around the fact that any woman would give a man that much control of their life
I was doing almost the exact same thing up until a couple of months ago myself and I'm as real as they come.
Theres kind of situations are EXTREMELY hard to overcome and there are women out there who have fallen into an abusive relationship like this and struggled really hard to get out of it, it's very emotionally exhausting. After something like this happens to you, you don't really have a sense of who you are anymore and you struggle to come to terms with how you let yourself get so sucked in.
It took me a long time to wrap my head around my relationship being very unhealthy and emotionally draining, I had actually come to the point where I thought it was NORMAL to be treated that way, and not just by this man but quite a few before him. You feel stupid and tricked as well, even if it really is hard to accept.
So I reckon she's real, because this is a real situation that happens to real people.
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Sorry for your" lose" of 3 years ie 1095 days...hate to say it...but" another one bites the dust"....Another beauty is ravaged and left to bleed.....OMB.....I welcome my afterlife..!
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ltlredcorvette: I was doing almost the exact same thing up until a couple of months ago myself and I'm as real as they come.
Theres kind of situations are EXTREMELY hard to overcome and there are women out there who have fallen into an abusive relationship like this and struggled really hard to get out of it, it's very emotionally exhausting. After something like this happens to you, you don't really have a sense of who you are anymore and you struggle to come to terms with how you let yourself get so sucked in.
It took me a long time to wrap my head around my relationship being very unhealthy and emotionally draining, I had actually come to the point where I thought it was NORMAL to be treated that way, and not just by this man but quite a few before him. You feel stupid and tricked as well, even if it really is hard to accept.
So I reckon she's real, because this is a real situation that happens to real people.
Theres kind of situations are EXTREMELY hard to overcome and there are women out there who have fallen into an abusive relationship like this and struggled really hard to get out of it, it's very emotionally exhausting. After something like this happens to you, you don't really have a sense of who you are anymore and you struggle to come to terms with how you let yourself get so sucked in.
It took me a long time to wrap my head around my relationship being very unhealthy and emotionally draining, I had actually come to the point where I thought it was NORMAL to be treated that way, and not just by this man but quite a few before him. You feel stupid and tricked as well, even if it really is hard to accept.
So I reckon she's real, because this is a real situation that happens to real people.
Thank you itriedcorvette.
I have to say you are very nice as you know what it is lie this situation.
And yes I am real very much so who does get hurt and upset by peoples actions and yes i have been upset and angry and screamed and shouted at him too but for what?? for him to hang up and say he will speak with me tomorrow? thats what i get.
so I know the answer to my question but like you know it is so very hard to walk away when your heart pines for them and you really love them but you know its bad and it wont work.
I hate the feeling of being sick and crying and lying awake at night. But the answer lies there and i know what i need to do.
I just cant bare people who say hurtful things who dont know whats happening in your life an dhow you feel and how close to falling apart you really are and all they want to do is pick at you and put you down even more for sticking up for who i am that these people on here are saying i am not.
I am glad to have met you itriedcorvette as you know who i really am and what i am going through.
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In response to: EXCUSE ME???
i dont think i have been on here with the same thing last year!!
i dont think i have been on here with the same thing last year!!
So it wasn't you who posted that thread?
Same content...exactly the same incorrect location on the profiles?
Do me a favour, you must think we are stupid!!!
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bodleing: So it wasn't you who posted that thread?
Same content...exactly the same incorrect location on the profiles?
Do me a favour, you must think we are stupid!!!
Same content...exactly the same incorrect location on the profiles?
Do me a favour, you must think we are stupid!!!
Glad you said it.
Im pretty disgusted at whats been spilled out about a lovely genuine lady.
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Is it just me, or has the writing style changed from the OP to the last post, especially since it was raised by someone.
Only a minor difference, but they've started to capitalise "I" when they're referring to themselves
Only a minor difference, but they've started to capitalise "I" when they're referring to themselves
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Hey Missy, hang in there, you have at least taken the first step and are talking about it. Don't get dismayed about any negative feedback that you have received. That is just the nature of the beast, and it has the potential to lash out in any communication. Much of the feedback here is good. My opinion is that he has a very unacceptable way of being in a relationship with you and yes, there is someone out there that will treat you much better. A good relationship has no room for ????'s with no answers. Good Luck and I know you will make the right decision, you are already half way there. Ken!! 
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Well this just sucks..I wasted meaningful advice on a troll..why I never!! 
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bodleing: So it wasn't you who posted that thread?
Same content...exactly the same incorrect location on the profiles?
Do me a favour, you must think we are stupid!!!
Same content...exactly the same incorrect location on the profiles?
Do me a favour, you must think we are stupid!!!
Gotta love CS with ALL its characters. Hello, Gra
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ltlredcorvette: I was doing almost the exact same thing up until a couple of months ago myself and I'm as real as they come.
Theres kind of situations are EXTREMELY hard to overcome and there are women out there who have fallen into an abusive relationship like this and struggled really hard to get out of it, it's very emotionally exhausting. After something like this happens to you, you don't really have a sense of who you are anymore and you struggle to come to terms with how you let yourself get so sucked in.
It took me a long time to wrap my head around my relationship being very unhealthy and emotionally draining, I had actually come to the point where I thought it was NORMAL to be treated that way, and not just by this man but quite a few before him. You feel stupid and tricked as well, even if it really is hard to accept.
So I reckon she's real, because this is a real situation that happens to real people.
Theres kind of situations are EXTREMELY hard to overcome and there are women out there who have fallen into an abusive relationship like this and struggled really hard to get out of it, it's very emotionally exhausting. After something like this happens to you, you don't really have a sense of who you are anymore and you struggle to come to terms with how you let yourself get so sucked in.
It took me a long time to wrap my head around my relationship being very unhealthy and emotionally draining, I had actually come to the point where I thought it was NORMAL to be treated that way, and not just by this man but quite a few before him. You feel stupid and tricked as well, even if it really is hard to accept.
So I reckon she's real, because this is a real situation that happens to real people.
I agree - and I am glad I was able to put my heart into the relationship I had even tho it was not the best for me. I finally realized that I could not "wait" for my ex BF to change and got out - that he was NOT going to change
even so - even tho he really didn't want me -he would still periodically try to contact me fully expecting I'd want to see him. This is how deluded this man was - and it worked a few times because every time he called I hoped that this would be the time he'd treat me right. Eventually I ended up feeling really stupid - what I was in love with was being in the relationship - not him -
now, I'd rather be single than settle ever again...I think sometimes we do settle for less than what we want as part of learning what it is we do want.
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Laura25: Gotta love CS with ALL its characters. Hello, Gra
Hi Laura, did you get 'nice' mail as well?
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MISSEY8:
what shall i do? is he honest and does he respect and want me? I am on here as i thought maybe i should keep myself open to the possibility that there maybe someone out there for me if he doesnt want me.
what shall i do? is he honest and does he respect and want me? I am on here as i thought maybe i should keep myself open to the possibility that there maybe someone out there for me if he doesnt want me.
You know the answer to that because otherwise you would not keep your potions open.
At least he is consistent! Do you find yourself constantly making excuses to yourself for how he treats you?
I have only the barest little bit of sympathy for you op. If you allow yourself to be treat like a door mat then your encouraging him and only have yourself to blame.
I bet that you have quite old fashioned views on what a man should be?
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felixis99: it's just wrong to portray a professional diagnosis of any kind on here
Not a diagnosis Felixis...just listing the symtoms...don't need to get your undies in an uproar......
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Damn. She has suddenly left.
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ColonelBogey: You know the answer to that because otherwise you would not keep your potions open.
At least he is consistent! Do you find yourself constantly making excuses to yourself for how he treats you?
I have only the barest little bit of sympathy for you op. If you allow yourself to be treat like a door mat then your encouraging him and only have yourself to blame.
I bet that you have quite old fashioned views on what a man should be?
At least he is consistent! Do you find yourself constantly making excuses to yourself for how he treats you?
I have only the barest little bit of sympathy for you op. If you allow yourself to be treat like a door mat then your encouraging him and only have yourself to blame.
I bet that you have quite old fashioned views on what a man should be?
Potions??
Oh how a simple spelling error can make a post something completely different. Jolly good post
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ColonelBogey: Damn. She has suddenly left.
She probably went off to answer her email from all the sympathetic, hungry men!!
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ya, the whole thing is pretty odd