Is it too much to ask?? (199)
Envy51Meath, Ireland66 Threads 4 Polls 1,631 Postsvenusenvy: Right now Cagey, this girl doesnt need a bunch of fluffy stuff...Thats what got her into this mess. She doesnt need tea and sympathy or someone to rub her tummy. She truly needs to give herself a shake. I raised 4 girls with straight-up common sense. If they came to me with a story like this I would shake them by the scruff ...just like Im trying to do here. She has got to leave the land of "what if" behind, its ruining her life. She is beautiful young and has a good heart. Shes just lost. The only way to see in the dark is with a very bright light. All the other vague fluff and stuff wont be remembered. My words I bet went straight to the heart. And will stick. Common sense goes a long way in this life...she needs to free herself with it now. If I didnt see hope for her, believe me, I wouldnt bother.
I am really having doubts about this thread because it just goes aginst the grain to believe that this could be happening or that someone out there is allowing it to happen, more to the point 
I know the world we live in has all sorts of stuff going on in it, but this is beyond me......... common sense has to kick in at some point no matter how loved up we are ............ 
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nanners2863: I hope she reads this and finds ways to become a stronger woman who knows her worth.
yeah...she could come and do my dishes/laundry...
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nanners2863: I hope she reads this and finds ways to become a stronger woman who knows her worth.
Me too Nans I really hope hope some of the words on here are sharp enough to penetrate the fluff. I also hope she realizes she is the only one who has the power to free herself
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cgedvr: yeah...she could come and do my dishes/laundry...
ohhhhh...you're on the right path to a smacked bottom..
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At the risk of repeating myself this is the second time this thread has been posted.The last one was some time ago but exactly the same details re this man.
Unless there is a doppleganger on this site,this thread is the same "s--t" ,different year.
Why is she still complaining.Forgive me if I'm wrong ,but one thing in my dotage that I don't suffer with is loss of memory.
Unless there is a doppleganger on this site,this thread is the same "s--t" ,different year.
Why is she still complaining.Forgive me if I'm wrong ,but one thing in my dotage that I don't suffer with is loss of memory.
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bestbefore: At the risk of repeating myself this is the second time this thread has been posted.The last one was some time ago but exactly the same details re this man.
Unless there is a doppleganger on this site,this thread is the same "s--t" ,different year.
Why is she still complaining.Forgive me if I'm wrong ,but one thing in my dotage that I don't suffer with is loss of memory.
Unless there is a doppleganger on this site,this thread is the same "s--t" ,different year.
Why is she still complaining.Forgive me if I'm wrong ,but one thing in my dotage that I don't suffer with is loss of memory.
Really BB? Wow! just Wow!
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bestbefore: At the risk of repeating myself this is the second time this thread has been posted.The last one was some time ago but exactly the same details re this man.
Unless there is a doppleganger on this site,this thread is the same "s--t" ,different year.
Why is she still complaining.Forgive me if I'm wrong ,but one thing in my dotage that I don't suffer with is loss of memory.
don't tell me i'm wasting my feelings on a troll...Unless there is a doppleganger on this site,this thread is the same "s--t" ,different year.
Why is she still complaining.Forgive me if I'm wrong ,but one thing in my dotage that I don't suffer with is loss of memory.
this only happens every 10 years or so...
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bestbefore: At the risk of repeating myself this is the second time this thread has been posted.The last one was some time ago but exactly the same details re this man.
Unless there is a doppleganger on this site,this thread is the same "s--t" ,different year.
Why is she still complaining.Forgive me if I'm wrong ,but one thing in my dotage that I don't suffer with is loss of memory.
Wow..really?!?! I guess a cry for help can occur several times before the person gets it. Unless there is a doppleganger on this site,this thread is the same "s--t" ,different year.
Why is she still complaining.Forgive me if I'm wrong ,but one thing in my dotage that I don't suffer with is loss of memory.
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venusenvy: Really BB? Wow! just Wow!
Hi lovely lady, I've been on and off this site for quite a few years so am unable to check the history,but this thread is identical to one that was posted when I lived in Spain and that was two years ago!!!!!!!!!!
Just saying!
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bestbefore: Hi lovely lady, I've been on and off this site for quite a few years so am unable to check the history,but this thread is identical to one that was posted when I lived in Spain and that was two years ago!!!!!!!!!!
Just saying!
meaning...history repeat itself?just post this again for what?Just saying!
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MISSEY8: I have been with a guy for 3yrs now, He is Jewish and I recentky finished my conversion to Judaism to make my relationship with him easier. I love being jewish its not about that what it is about is the way he treats me still as a person and as his supposed to be his better half!!
its been a long haul with him of lots of downs than ups.
He has cheated on me 3 times twice over the net and once with an actual person sent over by his family to see if he really does want me or a real jewish woman, in that time he nastily dumped me and broke my heart and told me to wait for him for 4wks till he decided my fate if i was the one for him or not!!!
well he made his decision in the end and came back to me. but every year at passover time and high holidays and yom kippur he does the same thing of saying he doesnt have time to speak to me at all and he really doesnt make that much of an effort to either! he has his family over from israel to america where he lives and i live here for now in UK. so he lives breathes and sleeps and eats for 4wks with his family but never has time to call via skype his girlfriend back home in England, he always says " i hope you understand i have the whole family here and i have to entertain and at some point i shall try and say hello to you but you know i am busy with them" so really i have to wait and i feel so worth less and not wanted by him when he says that to me that he can barely give me 2mins to say hello i miss you but he has plenty of time for facebook which he is always on.!!
what shall i do? is he honest and does he respect and want me? I am on here as i thought maybe i should keep myself open to the possibility that there maybe someone out there for me if he doesnt want me.
its been a long haul with him of lots of downs than ups.
He has cheated on me 3 times twice over the net and once with an actual person sent over by his family to see if he really does want me or a real jewish woman, in that time he nastily dumped me and broke my heart and told me to wait for him for 4wks till he decided my fate if i was the one for him or not!!!
well he made his decision in the end and came back to me. but every year at passover time and high holidays and yom kippur he does the same thing of saying he doesnt have time to speak to me at all and he really doesnt make that much of an effort to either! he has his family over from israel to america where he lives and i live here for now in UK. so he lives breathes and sleeps and eats for 4wks with his family but never has time to call via skype his girlfriend back home in England, he always says " i hope you understand i have the whole family here and i have to entertain and at some point i shall try and say hello to you but you know i am busy with them" so really i have to wait and i feel so worth less and not wanted by him when he says that to me that he can barely give me 2mins to say hello i miss you but he has plenty of time for facebook which he is always on.!!
what shall i do? is he honest and does he respect and want me? I am on here as i thought maybe i should keep myself open to the possibility that there maybe someone out there for me if he doesnt want me.
'Yes' - he is honest with you,
judging by your two threads, he doesn't hide the way he feels about you, doesn't sneak around - pretty open and for a very long time,
and 'no' - he does not respect or want you.
Isn't it an old news, MISSEY?
Fri Aug 20, 2010
lindsey1651: ...
He has broken my heart and only shows me now that Jews are very unreasonable people and they dont care how they hurt peoples feelings and also very money orientated as he said my job isnt good enough for us to live a great lifestyle so he needs someone compatible. ...
Thank you.
He has broken my heart and only shows me now that Jews are very unreasonable people and they dont care how they hurt peoples feelings and also very money orientated as he said my job isnt good enough for us to live a great lifestyle so he needs someone compatible. ...
Thank you.
:) Now that you converted to Judaism,
are you also unreasonable and don't care how you hurt people's feelings and also very money orientated?
Besides,
what happened to 3 sides of the story?
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Laura25: 'Yes' - he is honest with you,
judging by your two threads, he doesn't hide the way he feels about you, doesn't sneak around - pretty open and for a very long time,
and 'no' - he does not respect or want you.
Isn't it an old news, MISSEY? Fri Aug 20, 2010
:) Now that you converted to Judaism,
are you also unreasonable and don't care how you hurt people's feelings and also very money orientated? Besides,
what happened to 3 sides of the story?
judging by your two threads, he doesn't hide the way he feels about you, doesn't sneak around - pretty open and for a very long time,
and 'no' - he does not respect or want you.
Isn't it an old news, MISSEY? Fri Aug 20, 2010
:) Now that you converted to Judaism,
are you also unreasonable and don't care how you hurt people's feelings and also very money orientated? Besides,
what happened to 3 sides of the story?
Thanks so much Laura,I knew I was right from memory alone.You've just made an old lady very happy to know that she is not going senile.
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ok...back to the batcave robin...foiled again
where the hell is batwoman...
hi laura...
where the hell is batwoman...
hi laura...
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MISSEY8: I have been with a guy for 3yrs now, He is Jewish and I recentky finished my conversion to Judaism to make my relationship with him easier. I love being jewish its not about that what it is about is the way he treats me still as a person and as his supposed to be his better half!!
its been a long haul with him of lots of downs than ups.
He has cheated on me 3 times, twice over the net and once with an actual person sent over by his family to see if he really does want me or a real jewish woman, in that time he nastily dumped me and broke my heart and told me to wait for him for 4wks till he decided my fate if i was the one for him or not!!!
well he made his decision in the end and came back to me.
but every year at passover time and high holidays and yom kippur he does the same thing of saying he doesnt have time to speak to me at all and he really doesnt make that much of an effort to either! he has his family over from israel to america where he lives and i live here for now in UK.
so he lives breathes and sleeps and eats for 4wks with his family but never has time to call via skype his girlfriend back home in England, he always says " i hope you understand i have the whole family here and i have to entertain and at some point i shall try and say hello to you but you know i am busy with them" so really i have to wait and i feel so worthless and not wanted by him when he says that to me that he can barely give me 2mins to say hello i miss you but he has plenty of time for facebook which he is always on.!!
what shall i do? is he honest and does he respect and want me? I am on here as i thought maybe i should keep myself open to the possibility that there maybe someone out there for me if he doesnt want me.
its been a long haul with him of lots of downs than ups.
He has cheated on me 3 times, twice over the net and once with an actual person sent over by his family to see if he really does want me or a real jewish woman, in that time he nastily dumped me and broke my heart and told me to wait for him for 4wks till he decided my fate if i was the one for him or not!!!
well he made his decision in the end and came back to me.
but every year at passover time and high holidays and yom kippur he does the same thing of saying he doesnt have time to speak to me at all and he really doesnt make that much of an effort to either! he has his family over from israel to america where he lives and i live here for now in UK.
so he lives breathes and sleeps and eats for 4wks with his family but never has time to call via skype his girlfriend back home in England, he always says " i hope you understand i have the whole family here and i have to entertain and at some point i shall try and say hello to you but you know i am busy with them" so really i have to wait and i feel so worthless and not wanted by him when he says that to me that he can barely give me 2mins to say hello i miss you but he has plenty of time for facebook which he is always on.!!
what shall i do? is he honest and does he respect and want me? I am on here as i thought maybe i should keep myself open to the possibility that there maybe someone out there for me if he doesnt want me.
OK
You've known him 3 years.
His family wants him to marry a Jew so much the sent him a Jewish girl to entice him away. Was that recent or early on in your relationship?
Your feelings for his family and theirs toward you are a little bit strained, perhaps?
Once a year he spends a month with them leaving you alone. This isn't totally unusual behavior. Has he been doing this for many years? Have you ever met them?
You think he's cheating when he talked to two women on the internet and there was that young lady his parents sent him to meet. That's it?
You don't know what he's doing while he's with his parents, maybe they know other nice Jewish girls they want him to meet?
You live in the IK and he's living in the US? Long distance relationship... can you move to be with him or can he?
So much for that aspect. I mean you get the family if you get the guy. And his religious beliefs came from them. Maybe the religion thing (your conversion) is a big deal for him too.
I think you need to decide if its OK for him to take his once-a-year family visit. You might also try to improve your relationship with his parents. Someday you may be surprised to find yourself going with him for the Holidays.
In the mean time, being apart for a month could be a good time for you both. Some freedom, a chance to miss each other a little.
Seems to me it's time to move in together. What you have now isn't good. Seems to make you untrusting and communication is a little lacking. Time for a change.
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Laura25: 'Yes' - he is honest with you,
judging by your two threads, he doesn't hide the way he feels about you, doesn't sneak around - pretty open and for a very long time,
and 'no' - he does not respect or want you.
Isn't it an old news, MISSEY? Fri Aug 20, 2010
:) Now that you converted to Judaism,
are you also unreasonable and don't care how you hurt people's feelings and also very money orientated? Besides,
what happened to 3 sides of the story?
judging by your two threads, he doesn't hide the way he feels about you, doesn't sneak around - pretty open and for a very long time,
and 'no' - he does not respect or want you.
Isn't it an old news, MISSEY? Fri Aug 20, 2010
:) Now that you converted to Judaism,
are you also unreasonable and don't care how you hurt people's feelings and also very money orientated? Besides,
what happened to 3 sides of the story?
Brrrr.... I swear, I thought I'd seen it all
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Lillym: Brrrr.... I swear, I thought I'd seen it all
Here's the old thread... I read it after posting above.
lindsey1651: I have been seeing this Jewish guy for over 2yrs and he last night decided after 2yrs he doesnt want me anymore as I am not obediant enough for him. His excuses were that Jewish women have to be house proud and cook and care for family,never answer the man back even if he starts the fight I have to shut up.
I always apologise for his fights he never does. He said he didnt like the way i used a blanket and although i made the bed he didnt like it when he opened the cupboard and the blanket fell out and he had to fold it properly to make it fit. then I forgot to eat 2 corn on cob kernels as he shouted me to go out so i forgot them in the pan and they rotted.
he said i dont think enough and although i am good i am not good enough.
i caught him in march on a dating site ... and he was arranging to meet women we talked about this i was devestated and i forgave him but always doubted his commitment to me after that. now i feel so stupid and unattractive and used and know now that i was wasting my time
he has been married 4 times and last two marriages only lasted 1yr each then divorced.
He is jewish i am christian and was converting and changing my whole life to be with him and not expecting anything back in return.
please tell me am i a bad person is all of it my fault that i didnt think carefully enough about putting things away?
He has broken my heart and only shows me now that Jews are very unreasonable people and they dont care how they hurt peoples feelings and also very money orientated as he said my job isnt good enough for us to live a great lifestyle so he needs someone compatible.
Please help me feel better and to stop myself from crying and make me feel this is for the best.
please no nasty negative comments cos my heart is broken into a thousand peices right now.
Thank you.
I always apologise for his fights he never does. He said he didnt like the way i used a blanket and although i made the bed he didnt like it when he opened the cupboard and the blanket fell out and he had to fold it properly to make it fit. then I forgot to eat 2 corn on cob kernels as he shouted me to go out so i forgot them in the pan and they rotted.
he said i dont think enough and although i am good i am not good enough.
i caught him in march on a dating site ... and he was arranging to meet women we talked about this i was devestated and i forgave him but always doubted his commitment to me after that. now i feel so stupid and unattractive and used and know now that i was wasting my time
he has been married 4 times and last two marriages only lasted 1yr each then divorced.
He is jewish i am christian and was converting and changing my whole life to be with him and not expecting anything back in return.
please tell me am i a bad person is all of it my fault that i didnt think carefully enough about putting things away?
He has broken my heart and only shows me now that Jews are very unreasonable people and they dont care how they hurt peoples feelings and also very money orientated as he said my job isnt good enough for us to live a great lifestyle so he needs someone compatible.
Please help me feel better and to stop myself from crying and make me feel this is for the best.
please no nasty negative comments cos my heart is broken into a thousand peices right now.
Thank you.
Well I retract my thoughts above. Moving in with him is out. Too late. I'm surprised you are still together. You don't like his style of argueing and his controlling manner. Or do you? Some folk are built to be You've hung in there three years and so has he. doormats in life.
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If this guy is really interested in you and your future, you should come first before his family.I thought you should be considered as a member of family to be.But alas,once you are out of his sight, you are out of his mind too.If i was in your situation, i would walk away.It may not be easy considering you know the sweet part of him.But again, don't let your love for him cage your life today and future life.
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If its a broken part
Then replace it.
If its a broken arm then Brace it.
If its a broken heart then face it...
Hold your own.
Know your name.
And go your own way.
And everything will be fine.
Then replace it.
If its a broken arm then Brace it.
If its a broken heart then face it...
Hold your own.
Know your name.
And go your own way.
And everything will be fine.
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DjWabbet: If its a broken part
Then replace it.
If its a broken arm then Brace it.
If its a broken heart then face it...
Hold your own.
Know your name.
And go your own way.
And everything will be fine.
Then replace it.
If its a broken arm then Brace it.
If its a broken heart then face it...
Hold your own.
Know your name.
And go your own way.
And everything will be fine.
Nice, very nice...I break my own rule to respond...know your own name...own it!! ....... 
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You deserve alot better, infact you deserve me...
Tell him to meet me in the main street at high noon!, he'd better show that yella belly cotton picking varment!
Tell him to meet me in the main street at high noon!, he'd better show that yella belly cotton picking varment!
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