It takes a strong and self-aware person to know when and how to ask forgiveness. Forgiveness is healing. Humility builds character. Character builds strength and confidence. These are characteristics that are "outward" focused, not inward-focused.
I am not one to do these things you have mentioned. In fact, I am traditional in that I prefer the man to take the initiative at the beginning stage of a relationship. And my days of using anyone for my own self-satisfaction disappeared a long time ago.
I have gone on dates with a couple of gentlemen who I enjoy their company immensely, and we have an incredible connection, but not of the romantic kind. That "zing" didn't happen for either one of us. But, we are now wonderful friends. Fantastic friends in fact.
Zing = chemistry, the heart skipping a tiny bit when you see that person for the time, the way his smile makes me smile, my heart jumping for joy when I receive a text message and see that it is from him...just little things at the beginning.
I know it is different for everyone. I just know for me, that "zing" is either there or not, almost from the beginning. It doesn't usually grow into a zing, if it isn't there within the 1st date or two.
You've probably met a guy who would make a great friend, but probably not a romantic connection, it sounds to me. If that pitter-pat isn't there at this point, it probably won't be. JMO.
RE: Anonymous message.....anyone?
Not about me? Waddaya mean not about me?? I thought the world revolved around me.