3 dates & not feeling it, more time? (53)
You've probably met a guy who would make a great friend, but probably not a romantic connection, it sounds to me. If that pitter-pat isn't there at this point, it probably won't be. JMO.
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outdoorgirlsun: I have 3 dates with this gentleman and should have the 4th this weekend.
He's very nice, we have good conversation, but I'm just not feeling it.
Is it me? Should I give this more time, or stop now and not waste his time.
I was just thinking maybe I don't give relationships enough time.\
Then, I think, If you don't feel it right away, then don't linger?
Advice here?
He's very nice, we have good conversation, but I'm just not feeling it.
Is it me? Should I give this more time, or stop now and not waste his time.
I was just thinking maybe I don't give relationships enough time.\
Then, I think, If you don't feel it right away, then don't linger?
Advice here?
If its there,maybe you would have felt something by now,even a feeling that this was someone worth waitng for.You cannot force your feelings,no matter how much of a gentleman he is,its a chemistry,and only you will know if and when you feel it.
To continue,if you cant see it heppening for you,could give false hope to him,and make it more difflecult for you both.
Maybe the date this weekend will help you decide.
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What exactly are you looking to feel?
If you are going for love at a first sight and on the 3rd date you don't have it then it's not there!
If you are looking for something more mature then give it some time. But don't just go out on another date. Do something challenging. For both of you. Something that can reveal a side of each other that normally you wouldn't see (in a regular date).
If for instance you are looking for a lifetime partner, take him to a volunteer visit to sick kids in a hospital. See him outside the usual context. Sometimes we fall for people that we would never feel something when we see them in this instant that just clicks with everything that makes sense to us. It's hard to put in words but I am really hoping you can understand what I try to say here.
Best of luck in whatever decision you make :-)
If you are going for love at a first sight and on the 3rd date you don't have it then it's not there!
If you are looking for something more mature then give it some time. But don't just go out on another date. Do something challenging. For both of you. Something that can reveal a side of each other that normally you wouldn't see (in a regular date).
If for instance you are looking for a lifetime partner, take him to a volunteer visit to sick kids in a hospital. See him outside the usual context. Sometimes we fall for people that we would never feel something when we see them in this instant that just clicks with everything that makes sense to us. It's hard to put in words but I am really hoping you can understand what I try to say here.
Best of luck in whatever decision you make :-)
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outdoorgirlsun: I have 3 dates with this gentleman and should have the 4th this weekend.
He's very nice, we have good conversation, but I'm just not feeling it.
Is it me? Should I give this more time, or stop now and not waste his time.
I was just thinking maybe I don't give relationships enough time.
Then, I think, If you don't feel it right away, then don't linger?
Advice here?
He's very nice, we have good conversation, but I'm just not feeling it.
Is it me? Should I give this more time, or stop now and not waste his time.
I was just thinking maybe I don't give relationships enough time.
Then, I think, If you don't feel it right away, then don't linger?
Advice here?
People need time to get known better each other. If we speed up that... we can damage something, that could have some chance...
hi girlsun
not my words, by the way... give him chance and give chance to you and time as well
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Crystal1984: What exactly are you looking to feel?
If you are going for love at a first sight and on the 3rd date you don't have it then it's not there!
If you are looking for something more mature then give it some time. But don't just go out on another date. Do something challenging. For both of you. Something that can reveal a side of each other that normally you wouldn't see (in a regular date).If for instance you are looking for a lifetime partner, take him to a volunteer visit to sick kids in a hospital. See him outside the usual context. Sometimes we fall for people that we would never feel something when we see them in this instant that just clicks with everything that makes sense to us. It's hard to put in words but I am really hoping you can understand what I try to say here.Best of luck in whatever decision you make :-)
If you are going for love at a first sight and on the 3rd date you don't have it then it's not there!
If you are looking for something more mature then give it some time. But don't just go out on another date. Do something challenging. For both of you. Something that can reveal a side of each other that normally you wouldn't see (in a regular date).If for instance you are looking for a lifetime partner, take him to a volunteer visit to sick kids in a hospital. See him outside the usual context. Sometimes we fall for people that we would never feel something when we see them in this instant that just clicks with everything that makes sense to us. It's hard to put in words but I am really hoping you can understand what I try to say here.Best of luck in whatever decision you make :-)
I say bungee jump after eating a big bowl of soup beans.
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outdoorgirlsun: I have 3 dates with this gentleman and should have the 4th this weekend.
He's very nice, we have good conversation, but I'm just not feeling it.
Is it me? Should I give this more time, or stop now and not waste his time.
I was just thinking maybe I don't give relationships enough time.
Then, I think, If you don't feel it right away, then don't linger?Advice here?
He's very nice, we have good conversation, but I'm just not feeling it.
Is it me? Should I give this more time, or stop now and not waste his time.
I was just thinking maybe I don't give relationships enough time.
Then, I think, If you don't feel it right away, then don't linger?Advice here?
I agree with you. I wouldn't expect to feel love on the first few dates but if you're not feeling lust for him, then you're not connecting with him. I'm surprised that you would be going into the fourth date if you don't have some kind of connection with him. Maybe you're hoping that it will turn into what you want it to be and I truly wish it would for you but sometimes, it's just not meant to be.
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It don't mean a thing, If it ain't got that swing ! . . . . .
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outdoorgirlsun: I have 3 dates with this gentleman and should have the 4th this weekend.
He's very nice, we have good conversation, but I'm just not feeling it.
Is it me? Should I give this more time, or stop now and not waste his time.
I was just thinking maybe I don't give relationships enough time.\
Then, I think, If you don't feel it right away, then don't linger?
Advice here?
hi......O/D/S......i just read both gomments..by....K...and T.....good replys.....is it the guy..or your own denial....been there and done it...and cart afford to be hurt again...or does this guy...do something ,that you dont like.....is it you....??....or him....think hard....because...no one is ...100%..perfect....three/four dates..is,t that many....why the rush......it takes time .if he treats you right...give him that time.........only you can decide that.....jmo.......He's very nice, we have good conversation, but I'm just not feeling it.
Is it me? Should I give this more time, or stop now and not waste his time.
I was just thinking maybe I don't give relationships enough time.\
Then, I think, If you don't feel it right away, then don't linger?
Advice here?
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Crystal1984: What exactly are you looking to feel?
If you are going for love at a first sight and on the 3rd date you don't have it then it's not there!
If you are looking for something more mature then give it some time. But don't just go out on another date. Do something challenging. For both of you. Something that can reveal a side of each other that normally you wouldn't see (in a regular date).
If for instance you are looking for a lifetime partner, take him to a volunteer visit to sick kids in a hospital. See him outside the usual context. Sometimes we fall for people that we would never feel something when we see them in this instant that just clicks with everything that makes sense to us. It's hard to put in words but I am really hoping you can understand what I try to say here.Best of luck in whatever decision you make :-)
If you are going for love at a first sight and on the 3rd date you don't have it then it's not there!
If you are looking for something more mature then give it some time. But don't just go out on another date. Do something challenging. For both of you. Something that can reveal a side of each other that normally you wouldn't see (in a regular date).
If for instance you are looking for a lifetime partner, take him to a volunteer visit to sick kids in a hospital. See him outside the usual context. Sometimes we fall for people that we would never feel something when we see them in this instant that just clicks with everything that makes sense to us. It's hard to put in words but I am really hoping you can understand what I try to say here.Best of luck in whatever decision you make :-)
Well, I'm not sure. But, I'm not looking for a lifetime friend, I have plenty of those. I would have expected some sort of spark by now and I'm not feeling it. However, I do know that a long time friendship can also turn into something else, given time. This is my problem here. I don't want to lead him on or waste his time, but we do have things in common.
To tell you the truth, I really don't even look forward to the dates, yet once I go, I have a good time. I think I might need a therapist!
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trueheart1941: hi......O/D/S......i just read both gomments..by....K...and T.....good replys.....is it the guy..or your own denial....been there and done it...and cart afford to be hurt again...or does this guy...do something ,that you dont like.....is it you....??....or him....think hard....because...no one is ...100%..perfect....three/four dates..is,t that many....why the rush......it takes time .if he treats you right...give him that time.........only you can decide that.....jmo.......
I know it is different for everyone. I just know for me, that "zing" is either there or not, almost from the beginning. It doesn't usually grow into a zing, if it isn't there within the 1st date or two.------ This thread is Archived ------
trueheart1941: hi......O/D/S......i just read both gomments..by....K...and T.....good replys.....is it the guy..or your own denial....been there and done it...and cart afford to be hurt again...or does this guy...do something ,that you dont like.....is it you....??....or him....think hard....because...no one is ...100%..perfect....three/four dates..is,t that many....why the rush......it takes time .if he treats you right...give him that time.........only you can decide that.....jmo.......
It very well could be me. I'm just not feeling comfortable on the dates, I'm outside my comfort zone, so to speak. Maybe i should just talk to him about the way I'm feeling and give him the option to try (continue) or not.
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for me slow n steady wins the race
every relationship i ever had that was just wow from the get ended just as drastically
the ones i dated and within 2 weeks really liked them and knew them some ....that became real connection and passion for me
i had to skip having a type
i had to abandon wanting that instant vibe
i had to learn there is a better pace than the one i was used to
but only you know if you even like him
which is really important
and only you know if there are red flags
if there arent ...consider a bit more time maybe?
good luck
every relationship i ever had that was just wow from the get ended just as drastically
the ones i dated and within 2 weeks really liked them and knew them some ....that became real connection and passion for me
i had to skip having a type
i had to abandon wanting that instant vibe
i had to learn there is a better pace than the one i was used to
but only you know if you even like him
which is really important
and only you know if there are red flags
if there arent ...consider a bit more time maybe?
good luck
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Crystal1984: What exactly are you looking to feel?
If you are going for love at a first sight and on the 3rd date you don't have it then it's not there!
If you are looking for something more mature then give it some time. But don't just go out on another date. Do something challenging. For both of you. Something that can reveal a side of each other that normally you wouldn't see (in a regular date).
If for instance you are looking for a lifetime partner, take him to a volunteer visit to sick kids in a hospital. See him outside the usual context. Sometimes we fall for people that we would never feel something when we see them in this instant that just clicks with everything that makes sense to us. It's hard to put in words but I am really hoping you can understand what I try to say here.Best of luck in whatever decision you make :-)
I definitely have to agree with you on this one. The good things in life take time.If you are going for love at a first sight and on the 3rd date you don't have it then it's not there!
If you are looking for something more mature then give it some time. But don't just go out on another date. Do something challenging. For both of you. Something that can reveal a side of each other that normally you wouldn't see (in a regular date).
If for instance you are looking for a lifetime partner, take him to a volunteer visit to sick kids in a hospital. See him outside the usual context. Sometimes we fall for people that we would never feel something when we see them in this instant that just clicks with everything that makes sense to us. It's hard to put in words but I am really hoping you can understand what I try to say here.Best of luck in whatever decision you make :-)
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I think I'll just discuss with him and see what he wants to do. I'll check back in with you on Monday, see how things go.
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Kaybee50: I know it is different for everyone. I just know for me, that "zing" is either there or not, almost from the beginning. It doesn't usually grow into a zing, if it isn't there within the 1st date or two.
hi....K....zing...??please explain....zing...no joking....i would like to understand that saying.....eyes meeting across the room when your heart misse,s a beat.....??or a short while in each others compny.or the man you hope to marry......??..remindsme of that song....it was just one of thos...zing,s........... ------ This thread is Archived ------
outdoorgirlsun: It very well could be me. I'm just not feeling comfortable on the dates, I'm outside my comfort zone, so to speak. Maybe i should just talk to him about the way I'm feeling and give him the option to try (continue) or not.
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i just read something you said...
you dont look fwd to the dates but you have a good time when you go
that sounds like fear?
i dunno about talking to him about it. this seems like your stuff.
be careful of sabotaging it by telling him too much too soon.
we are here for you- we will listen
just try to appear normal to him
you dont look fwd to the dates but you have a good time when you go
that sounds like fear?
i dunno about talking to him about it. this seems like your stuff.
be careful of sabotaging it by telling him too much too soon.
we are here for you- we will listen
just try to appear normal to him
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Hmmm..think three dates is enough time to know how you feel. If it's not there then it's not there.
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No.... 2 dates too many,if it isn't availible on the first..it ain't gonna happen on the third ! Feeling that is 
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He's very nice, we have good conversation, but I'm just not feeling it.
Is it me? Should I give this more time, or stop now and not waste his time.
I was just thinking maybe I don't give relationships enough time.\
Then, I think, If you don't feel it right away, then don't linger?
Advice here?