3 dates & not feeling it, more time? (53)
Kaybee50St. Louis, Missouri USA121 Threads 4 Polls 17,824 Poststrueheart1941: hi....K....zing...??please explain....zing...no joking....i would like to understand that saying.....eyes meeting across the room when your heart misse,s a beat.....??or a short while in each others compny.or the man you hope to marry......??..remindsme of that song....it was just one of thos...zing,s...........
Zing = chemistry, the heart skipping a tiny bit when you see that person for the time, the way his smile makes me smile, my heart jumping for joy when I receive a text message and see that it is from him...just little things at the beginning.------ This thread is Archived ------
Kaybee50: Freddy, I'm 50 years old and still feel the zaa-sing, and the catching of breath, and the nervousness, and anticipation, and all of that gushy, girly, romantic stuff.
That's good! (I guess)
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Kaybee50: Zing = chemistry, the heart skipping a tiny bit when you see that person for the time, the way his smile makes me smile, my heart jumping for joy when I receive a text message and see that it is from him...just little things at the beginning.
.....thanks ....K.....food for thought.......
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trueheart1941: .....thanks ....K.....food for thought.......
I have gone on dates with a couple of gentlemen who I enjoy their company immensely, and we have an incredible connection, but not of the romantic kind. That "zing" didn't happen for either one of us. But, we are now wonderful friends. Fantastic friends in fact.------ This thread is Archived ------
Kaybee50: Zing = chemistry, the heart skipping a tiny bit when you see that person for the time, the way his smile makes me smile, my heart jumping for joy when I receive a text message and see that it is from him...just little things at the beginning.
Little things....no Kaybee, maybe big things..this is not a size orientated answer,if that person whoever gets you" goin" and the other person feels the same...when he or she rings non stop for 3 or 4 days or longer..and when you wanna use that person for your own personal release....well, it's up to you !------ This thread is Archived ------
Kontikitact: Little things....no Kaybee, maybe big things..this is not a size orientated answer,if that person whoever gets you" goin" and the other person feels the same...when he or she rings non stop for 3 or 4 days or longer..and when you wanna use that person for your own personal release....well, it's up to you !
I am not one to do these things you have mentioned. In fact, I am traditional in that I prefer the man to take the initiative at the beginning stage of a relationship. And my days of using anyone for my own self-satisfaction disappeared a long time ago.------ This thread is Archived ------
I always know on the first date...either I feel attraction or not 
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Oh gosh, everyone has left, and didn't get the finale.
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Kaybee50: I have gone on dates with a couple of gentlemen who I enjoy their company immensely, and we have an incredible connection, but not of the romantic kind. That "zing" didn't happen for either one of us. But, we are now wonderful friends. Fantastic friends in fact.
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outdoorgirlsun: Well, I'm not sure. But, I'm not looking for a lifetime friend, I have plenty of those. I would have expected some sort of spark by now and I'm not feeling it. However, I do know that a long time friendship can also turn into something else, given time. This is my problem here. I don't want to lead him on or waste his time, but we do have things in common.
To tell you the truth, I really don't even look forward to the dates, yet once I go, I have a good time. I think I might need a therapist!
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To tell you the truth, I really don't even look forward to the dates, yet once I go, I have a good time. I think I might need a therapist!
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Research has determined that we feel the "spark" or "connection", or lack thereof, within the first few minutes of meeting someone. Be frank and honest with your feelings. You would be doing him more good than harm by communicating your feelings instead of intending to spare his feelings by not communicating and ultimately making him feeling like he has been led on.
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flpower: Research has determined that we feel the "spark" or "connection", or lack thereof, within the first few minutes of meeting someone. Be frank and honest with your feelings. You would be doing him more good than harm by communicating your feelings instead of intending to spare his feelings by not communicating and ultimately making him feeling like he has been led on.
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outdoorgirlsun: I have 3 dates with this gentleman and should have the 4th this weekend.
He's very nice, we have good conversation, but I'm just not feeling it.Is it me? Should I give this more time, or stop now and not waste his time.
I was just thinking maybe I don't give relationships enough time.\
Then, I think, If you don't feel it right away, then don't linger?
Advice here?
He's very nice, we have good conversation, but I'm just not feeling it.Is it me? Should I give this more time, or stop now and not waste his time.
I was just thinking maybe I don't give relationships enough time.\
Then, I think, If you don't feel it right away, then don't linger?
Advice here?
Do you not know where it is ??
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Ok, you guys, read my third from the last post, not counting this one.
You've missed something very important here.
You've missed something very important here.
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I've gone on dates with chaps that I didn't "click" with at first & thought I needed to at least give the guy a second chance. I did, & they were the worst disasters of my life.
I've learned to go with my first gut feeling. It's never been wrong.
I've learned to go with my first gut feeling. It's never been wrong.
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outdoorgirlsun: Ok, you guys, read my third from the last post, not counting this one.
You've missed something very important here.
You've missed something very important here.
From what you have said outdoor, I would give it a miss.
If after those few dates IT's not there......then It's not there.
Lots of other fish in the sea !!
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tallman51: From what you have said outdoor, I would give it a miss.
If after those few dates IT's not there......then It's not there.
Lots of other fish in the sea !!
If after those few dates IT's not there......then It's not there.
Lots of other fish in the sea !!
Even John West rejects half of those
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They definitely have not seen the post you made before this. Everyone, look back. I would have to do some research on this to see how it can affect a person. I guess you could also ask. I know-a little embarrasing.
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sherrierose: They definitely have not seen the post you made before this. Everyone, look back. I would have to do some research on this to see how it can affect a person. I guess you could also ask. I know-a little embarrasing.
Thank you for looking back. I'm not sure how to handle this.
He did give me information that he can give himself injections, which the thought of this is not a big turn on. I just don't know if I can handle this. But, I don't know if he can receive pleasure from anything.
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outdoorgirlsun: Thank you for looking back. I'm not sure how to handle this.
He did give me information that he can give himself injections, which the thought of this is not a big turn on. I just don't know if I can handle this. But, I don't know if he can receive pleasure from anything.
He did give me information that he can give himself injections, which the thought of this is not a big turn on. I just don't know if I can handle this. But, I don't know if he can receive pleasure from anything.
Sounds like you attracted what you had before.....a dependant man, who might need you more as a carer, than you need him. Your fears of a repeat performance, (in this case probably no performance), are warning you that you were unhappy last time.
End it! He is not for you. Your needs are different from his. He cannot please you. Your inner self has already worked this out. You are only looking for comfirmation and reassurance that you are doing, or thinking, the right thing for you, here.
You are obviously a vibrant woman, who has needs that it would take a healthy man to satisfy. You won't find it with this one. You have done enough sacrificing in your personal life. Time to get your best running shoes on......
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You say he is nice,and you enjoy talking to him.-I'll say give yourself more time.-
outdoorgirlsun: I have 3 dates with this gentleman and should have the 4th this weekend.
He's very nice, we have good conversation, but I'm just not feeling it.
Is it me? Should I give this more time, or stop now and not waste his time.
I was just thinking maybe I don't give relationships enough time.
Then, I think, If you don't feel it right away, then don't linger?
Advice here?
He's very nice, we have good conversation, but I'm just not feeling it.
Is it me? Should I give this more time, or stop now and not waste his time.
I was just thinking maybe I don't give relationships enough time.
Then, I think, If you don't feel it right away, then don't linger?
Advice here?
outdoorgirlsun: I have 3 dates with this gentleman and should have the 4th this weekend.
He's very nice, we have good conversation, but I'm just not feeling it.
Is it me? Should I give this more time, or stop now and not waste his time.
I was just thinking maybe I don't give relationships enough time.
Then, I think, If you don't feel it right away, then don't linger?
Advice here?
He's very nice, we have good conversation, but I'm just not feeling it.
Is it me? Should I give this more time, or stop now and not waste his time.
I was just thinking maybe I don't give relationships enough time.
Then, I think, If you don't feel it right away, then don't linger?
Advice here?
outdoorgirlsun: I have 3 dates with this gentleman and should have the 4th this weekend.
He's very nice, we have good conversation, but I'm just not feeling it.
Is it me? Should I give this more time, or stop now and not waste his time.
I was just thinking maybe I don't give relationships enough time.
Then, I think, If you don't feel it right away, then don't linger?
Advice here?
He's very nice, we have good conversation, but I'm just not feeling it.
Is it me? Should I give this more time, or stop now and not waste his time.
I was just thinking maybe I don't give relationships enough time.
Then, I think, If you don't feel it right away, then don't linger?
Advice here?
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