The best way I've found to 'regroup' and gain a broader perspective, is to go and do something for someone else - like community work. Takes you right out of where you're at for a bit, pulls you out of your own headspace and balances things up a little ? when you ar thinking more about others and less about yourself, you don't feel so intensely about whats happening to you... (that is a general statement not specific to any poster or their particular situation)
Love is most often a projecton of the person who presents it, from their perspective at the time. And doesn't always include genuine caring. I think that control, ego, needy, etc would be a cause of pain - but doubt that unconditional, caring 'love' would ever be a cause of pain.
All hangs on your perspective and definition (and maybe intent/agenda) at the time... the same person can be 'saint' to one person and a 'sinner' to another at the same time
Is it for anyone else to judge him ? he can equally have been a complete beeeeeep to one person and a fantastic friend to another. Every dynamic is its own.
If he had capacity, then its his choice who he leaves his wordly goods to. If someone wanted me to have something of theirs when they died I'd respect thet intent. I'd also respect due process and if it was contested work with whatever decision was made. Important thing would be the caring behind him giving in the first place, not so much whether you actually get the item ?
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RE: Why are you still single?
The best way I've found to 'regroup' and gain a broader perspective, is to go and do something for someone else - like community work. Takes you right out of where you're at for a bit, pulls you out of your own headspace and balances things up a little ? when you ar thinking more about others and less about yourself, you don't feel so intensely about whats happening to you... (that is a general statement not specific to any poster or their particular situation)