It sounds to me like you're just trying to fill a void in your life and she is the one whom you are most familiar with. The memories of what you two had are fine, but don't use this as a guide. You can have those same memories with a new love. You say the break up with humiliating - was that really necessary to break up like that? What about that memory, aren't you concerned if it will haunt you or her or both of you if you take a stab at it again? Who's to say it won't happen again the same way, if not worse?
Don't get me wrong; I do believe in second chances, especially after a significant amount of time has passed and it is possible for people to change. I had an ex try to get back in my life, I gave him a second chance. It didn't last no longer than 2 weeks before he was right back to the same disrespectful attitude, the same attitude that can't get him a date to save his life. He tried coming back again after some time; the answer was "no!"
So just be careful whatever you decide but make sure you decide wisely.
If I were you, I wouldn't say it yet. First, be sure this is love you're feeling and not infatuation with the idea of being in love. Big difference. Feel him out first (I don't mean physically). See where his head is at as far as his life is concerned, and how you may play a part in it. Wait until that initial giddy feeling of first meeting someone passes away, better known as "the honeymoon phase", because this is when the true person comes out and you'll be able to tell the difference if you are in love with the real him or an image he is portraying. By doing this, you will not only save yourself from unnecessary heartbreak later on, but you might be able to salvage a real friendship if it progresses to that point only.
The biggest turn-off for me was when I saw him talking to himself and making strange gestures in the air with his hands, so I asked "are you okay?" and he got defensive as if it was my fault I didn't keep my back turned long enough for him to get it all out of his system. 15 minutes later, he acted like none of that ever happened...
Gave the guy a second chance with a second date... he did the same thing, only this time him and his imaginary friends were in a heated argument. I was fascinated to see this man have a full-fledged conversation with the air, so I observed some more without him knowing. Afterwards, I said I have to leave. I didn't walk; I ran!
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RE: My Ex wants me back
It sounds to me like you're just trying to fill a void in your life and she is the one whom you are most familiar with. The memories of what you two had are fine, but don't use this as a guide. You can have those same memories with a new love. You say the break up with humiliating - was that really necessary to break up like that? What about that memory, aren't you concerned if it will haunt you or her or both of you if you take a stab at it again? Who's to say it won't happen again the same way, if not worse?Don't get me wrong; I do believe in second chances, especially after a significant amount of time has passed and it is possible for people to change. I had an ex try to get back in my life, I gave him a second chance. It didn't last no longer than 2 weeks before he was right back to the same disrespectful attitude, the same attitude that can't get him a date to save his life. He tried coming back again after some time; the answer was "no!"
So just be careful whatever you decide but make sure you decide wisely.